Violence at Home

Sadia Wajid
Posted May 12, 2019 from Pakistan

 

Violence at Home

Domestic violence has become norm of the day in developing countries like Pakistan. Here, patriarchal patterns are strongly set by the society. From the day one of the birth of the girl child - it is considered that now she is in dire need of male member to get protection to move in her own state and society. It clearly shows that they snatch their right to move for anything or everything. This is how, majority of the women choose to stay home to be poor and uneduacated and stick with orthodox societal trends.  This thing helps them to cut her wings even before they grew up. 

 

Fortunately, if you get rid of this scenario you become part of it by getting married in this type of family. And this very unacceptable thing happen to me at the time of career settlement. My expectations were high from my husband and the the extended family as I have been promised to continue my studies and struggle for better future. Alas, everything shattered in days ahead even in less than a month. I got to know that I am no where after completion of MS in international Relations from  well reputed university. I felt exhausted while staying home from kitchen to room and room to kitchen. As I meant to cook food for everyone at home. Even then i have never been respected and bothered in any family matter. Meanwhile, I applied for different kind of jobs at national or international level. Luckily, I got a job in private educational setup as subject specialist senior teacher. Financial independence became my greatest obsession while staying home with people of opposite nature.

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Yusra Shaukat
May 12
May 12

Dear Sadia,
I can totally understand your situation. It is difficult to live in such situation. I cannot say anything about your in-laws, but always keep this in your mind that we are always here to support and help you. Please feel free to talk and share.

Apna bohat sara khiyal rakhy:)

Jill Langhus
May 13
May 13

Hello Sadia,

Welcome to World Pulse:-) Thanks so much for sharing your informative and personal story of patriarchy and how it's personally affecting you. I'm glad that you found a rewarding job and that your goal is become financially independent. I hope it's helping in your home situation? Please keep us posted and let us know how we can help. Looking forward to seeing more posts and updates from you, dear.

Hope you have a good day and week!

Corine Milano
May 13
May 13

Sadia, it's very nice to meet you - hello and welcome to World Pulse! Thank you for sharing about patriarchy in your country and the way it impacts your life. I am interested to hear more about your education, and your hopes and dreams for your life. Please do continue to share - you are very welcome here!

Lisbeth
May 13
May 13

Welcome to worldpulse and thanks for sharing your story. How are you doing? Yes its very true and violence. However let's not give up in the face of violence.

SIMON MUREU
May 13
May 13

I believe this and tell you we are having it very difficult here in Kenenya

Sadia Wajid
May 14
May 14

This is too tough to fulfill the expectations of extended family. Thank you so much for the kind words and priceless support of all of you.

Hello, Sadia,

It’s very heartbreaking when you do everything and yet you are not respected. But to know that this is a glimpse of majority of women in Pakistan is troubling.

I’m glad you found a job liberates you from those unjust expectations. Thank you for the bravery to speak your truth.

Welcome to World Pulse!

Beth Lacey
Jun 13
Jun 13

It is so sad that this story is replicated throughout the world. I am glad that you are achieving financial independence

leila Kigha
Jul 11
Jul 11

oh Goddness!
such heart wrenching experiences world wide.
as women we will continue raising our voices till it is heard and every women lives violence free!