Creating Success for Self!

SADRAG
Posted January 22, 2020 from India
The Story of Anjani
Creating Success for Self!
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Anjani lived with her parents and younger siblings in a small village in the state of  Uttar Pradesh  in India. She was studying in a government school which was situated in the village itself. Her father was the sole earning member of the family. He incidentally fell sick and could not work on a regular basis. The family faced economic deprivation. 

One day when Anjani returned from school, she heard about her marriage being finalized by the parents. Anjani was 14 year old and the marriage alliance was getting finalized with a man who was 9 years older to her. Anjani froze. She didnt understand the meaning of marriage. The only image that came to her mind was that while her friends would go to school, she would be caged in the four walls of a new house full of unknown people. It scared her. She was angry and frustrated but her lips were sealed.  After a few days Anjani was married off. Her husband brought her to NOIDA, an industrial city close to Delhi, where he worked in a factory. They lived in a rented room and struggled with the inadequacies of migrant life. 

 Anjani, the Child Bride quietly managed the household chores and her child while her husband went to work. The bouts of depression came in often.  Somehow, the spark in Anjani remained alive. Deep inside, she did not give up on life. She wanted to continue her school and her husband ALLOWED her to enroll in national Open School. She completed High school. Her aspirations grew and  she completed Graduation course through distance learning.

In October 2019, Anjani came to sarthak:  the Youth and Skill development center, managed by our organisation. She was then a  woman of  24 years. She told us her story and we enrolled her in a course in retail management. The 4 months of training catapulted the depressed and angry Anjani into an extrovert woman who was ready to control the reins of her life. On the completion of course, she appeared for a job interview. She cracked the interview in one go. The company, Logi Tech Solutions Pvt Ltd. Noida  offered her the salary of 12000 INR. Anjani's joy spared above the sky. 

Anjani was the victim of Child Marriage, the biggest adversity in the life of a girl. This adversity is common in the South Asian region under the pretext of religion, poverty, caste and class. In India alone, 30% of girls  are married before their 18th birthday and 7% are married before the age of 15 despite there being a law against it (UNICEF). This raises questions on several accounts. What happens to the child brides? Are they able to rise above the mist of child marriage? How do they survive the burden the reproduction and household responsibilities? Are they seen or heard about once they leave the paternal home young and timid?  Do we have an ecosystem that supports them?

Anjani had the courage to rise above the mist of child marriage. How many child brides are actually able to succeed like her? 

 The year 2020 is for Anjani and many such girls who rise above the economic, social and cultural adversities that are created by us?  

Power to Anjani!!

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Hello, Sadrag,

Thank you for being instrumental in empowering Anjani. I love this, "The 4 months of training catapulted the depressed and angry Anjani into an extrovert woman who was ready to control the reins of her life." That is a story of transformation!

I hope child brides would have access to the same opportunity. I hope that will begin to happen this year. Thank you for sharing, dear sister!

SADRAG
Jan 23
Jan 23

Yes the year 2020 is that of Hope alone. This year is for ACTION.
The Goal is achievable, lets make up through Action!!

I agree, dear sister! Action is the key. Have a great weekend!

Wusufor
Jan 23
Jan 23

Dear Sadrag,
This is an inspiring story of Anjana. She is so determined and passionate about her education that was why she never gave up.
The question indeed is how many girls could be determined like her? Wow, this got to stop. I am saddened to the core :-(.
Power to Anjana and other girl this 2020.
Thanks
Lizzy

SADRAG
Jan 23
Jan 23

Dear Lisbeth,

Yes Anjani has become the role model for girls who meet the same adversity of child marriage. Grit and dedication to self transformed her life. Time has come for girls like Anjani to take the reins of their life in their own hands.
Best

Wusufor
Jan 24
Jan 24

She is brilliant :-)

Anita Shrestha
Jan 24
Jan 24

Be labourious, you will get fast action and result

SADRAG
Jan 27
Jan 27

Thanks Anita

Jill Langhus
Jan 24
Jan 24

Hi Mala,

How are you doing? Thanks for sharing dear Anjani's story. Good for her! I'm glad at least she has a happy story, although I wonder what kind of marriage these women end up having? 30% is quite high. What suggestion or solution, if any, do you have for curbing this outdated trend so it stops?

Hope you're doing well and having a great weekend.

SADRAG
Jan 27
Jan 27

Hi Jill,
The issue of child marriage is very old. Though outdated with changing times, it still holds strong in certain regions of India. Awareness is the only solution for people to shun this practice. Piecemeal campaigns would not work. It has to be an ongoing uninterrupted intervention to change people's psyche.

Jill Langhus
Jan 29
Jan 29

Hello Mala,

Yeah, I would imagine, unfortunately:-(

Oh, I see.

Are you interested in joining the World Pulse Encourager group, by the way? I noticed that you've been quite active commenting, so I wanted to reach out. This is the link to find out more, and to sign up, if you like: https://www.worldpulse.com/encourager

Hope you have a great week!

SADRAG
Jan 29
Jan 29

Wow Jill thats quite an opportunity for me.
I would love to be a part of the World Pulse Encourager group.
Thanks a lot.
Have an eventful week!!

Jill Langhus
Jan 31
Jan 31

Yay! Welcome to the Encourager group, dear:-)

We're happy to have you as part of our group!

You're welcome.

Hope you have a great weekend.

lizzymark
Jan 24
Jan 24

Hi Sadrag,what a wonderful story,a sad beginning but a beautiful end. Great power to Anjani. True to your question not at child bride will rise to becoming like Anjani,and that is why we won't keep silent and fold our hands but we shall keep speaking against such happens and make ways of supporting girls like Anjani.

SADRAG
Jan 27
Jan 27

Yes Lizzy, making ways is the solution for Anjani like girls. The role of civil society gets very important here. They need to lead the way and mobilise masses for the cause.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hello Sadrag,
Woooow this is such an amazing story. Thank you for giving Anjani another shot at life. Empowering young girls like her is the best gift that you can give them. I pray that the practice of marrying off girls at early age stops soon. The more people are empowered the lesser the practices.
Have a lovely day and looking forward to more of your stories.

SADRAG
Jan 29
Jan 29

Thank you Anita for your message. Its very timely and appropriate especially when all of us are fighting the menace of child marriage.
I will keep writing my heart out. We work in the community and find hundreds of young girls and women, waiting to be heard and listened. I would try to bring them forth before all through little little stories of happiness, joy and sorrows of their life.