I am a feminist

Safecity- Elsa D'Silva
Posted September 29, 2017 from India

“I am a feminist.”

That’s what all the cool kids say these days. I guess its fashionable to be politically correct because, it probably means believing in fairness and equality. At the very least, that is the illusion that is created. I say this because, calling yourself a feminist comes with a responsibility, one that upholds gender equality. More than an average person, a feminist must carefully consider the power of their voice and use it in a way that is always sincere rather than seeming hypocritical. I ask you to remember the time you saw a man wearing pink and it irked you, the time you teased a man crying because it's “unmanly,” or even the time you laughed at a rape joke. If you do any of these things you should reconsider calling yourself a feminist. The truth is, we are all so used to living in a patriarchal society so, we can’t distinguish between the world of a feminist and the real world. We are all so used to the colour pink being associated with girls and crying as a “weak” emotion that only girls are capable of, that we forget about what we are all really fighting for. The colour pink is just a colour, there is nothing “girly” or “boyish” about it and crying is an emotion, that every human being is entitled to, regardless of their gender. No gender is weak, no gender is strong, all humans have their ups and downs and all of them have their own preferences. Why create gender roles to marginalise both in situations that suit us the most? Being a feminist, is the ability to identify these minute details that have been engraved in our society for generations and chose to challenge these stereotypes and not abide by them. So, the next time you think about feminism carefully consider the honour of carrying forward an idea that means more than just any word, more than a belief but it is in fact, a movement, one we can all be a part of it and then, together we shall all scream, “I AM A FEMINIST!”

Jenika Desai, a blogger who is a part of Safecity's Writer's Movement as well as the person who wrote this piece, appreciates each and every one of you choosing to share your story and inspire us all.

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Jill Langhus
Sep 29, 2017
Sep 29, 2017

Hi Safecity. Thanks for sharing Jenika's story on feminism. I think it's great if it's trendy now to call yourself a feminist. I haven't been able to use it in the past because it was deemed a bad word, so at least this is a step in the right direction. As far as the definition of feminism goes, it depends on the person involved, I think. It means different things to different people. For me, it's just equality, and yes, it's hard to distinguish sometimes what is equality and not due to the prevalence and extended history of patriarchy, but as long as someone has good intentions and we're all moving in the right, egalitarian direction, I think we're in a pretty good spot, personally:-)

Safecity- Elsa D'Silva
Oct 08, 2017
Oct 08, 2017

Hi Jill,

Thank you for reading the piece and sharing your thoughts too. We hope more people stand up for equality every where and in every way.

Regards,

Safecity

Jill Langhus
Oct 09, 2017
Oct 09, 2017

Amen:-)

Nakinti
Dec 30, 2017
Dec 30, 2017

Dear Safecity,

You are very correct. Feminism transcends all forms of gender stereotypes. If we can see beyond those stereotypes, then we can confidently say we are feminists. Thank you so much for shedding light on this, it is something many do not know.

Sending you love

Nakinti