Busting the Myth of Girl-on-Girl Hate

Safecity- Elsa D'Silva
Posted August 5, 2019 from India

On 19th April, Yeshna Dindoyal @_Yeshna conducted a Tweetchat on – “Busting the myth of Girl on Girl Hate”

The Tweetchat began by asking the question what exactly was girl on girl hate. The audience responded that there is actually no hate in women; it’s just a form of rivalry or jealousy which is a very common human emotion.  Also, society has a tendency to compare two girls, which results in one feeling inferior and jealous of the other. The next question was why women are often pitched against each other. The audience agreed that women are marginalized in a patriarchal society and keeping them divided is always in favour of the oppressors. Due to comparisons and minimum availability of resources, women are forced to compete with each other which breeds rivalry and other negative emotions amongst each other. The next important question was about media portrayal of girl-on-girl hate. The audience shared examples of Indian daily soaps that show two women fighting against each other, various movies and shows promote clichés like evil mother-in-law, sister-in-law, evil boss woman and the other woman in their man’s life. Another question raised was how women can change this attitude and come together to support each other. Various suggestions offered by the audience included soul-searching, reflecting on their actions, being empathetic to each other, etc. The chat ended by asking the audience to tag a woman and mention a thing that you like about her whilst asking her to tag two more women in order to create a chain of women supporting each other.  


A tweetchat by Yeshna!


*This blog was first published on Safecity.

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Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Aug 06, 2019
Aug 06, 2019

Hello, Elsa,

How are you? This is a great topic! Those situations you mentioned there are also true in the Philippines. There are circles who bring down women and media or soaps have a lot to do with that perception. They make women competer against each other. But competing is actually more of a man’s attribute. Because as women, we collaborate.

Let’s continue to busy this myth. The patriarchy is scared what women can do when we work together.

Thanks for sharing!

Jill Langhus
Aug 06, 2019
Aug 06, 2019

Hi Elsa,

I agree with Karen. I love this topic and what a great way to debunk the "girl on girl hate" myth and perpetuation beliefs accompanying it, too. Thanks for sharing:-)

Hope you're doing well, and having a great week!


Aug 12, 2019
Aug 12, 2019

Dear Elsa,
Haha, I honestly loved this your workshop and wish I was present. This is an important topic and am glad your target group are girls. Learning about these stuffs at this tender age will help kick against the motion that women are their own enemies.
Thanks for sharing.

Anita Shrestha
Oct 31, 2019
Oct 31, 2019

Dear sister
This is happen in Nepal also. Thank you for keeping amazing amazing story

Apr 25
Apr 25

Thank you for sharing .

Catherine De Freitas

My sis thank you for sharing on such a topic. Let us continue to 'debunk' the myth as we continue to unite to make a difference. Wishing you peace and love. Blessings.

leila Kigha
Jun 11
Jun 11

hahahahah i love this subject.
viewed from the presentation you made, it is indeed a myth!
thank You for shedding light and lets keep bursting the myths!