I almost missed my tract!

Long ago when I was 12 years of age I experienced menstruation and was introduced to men .As a teenager, I had friends who were already engaged in sexual activities and whenever we gathered to discuss as friends our main topic of discussion was about men and boys .Each time we gathered and each stars telling how her encounter was with her boyfriend, I was confused because I did not understand what it was all about because I did not have sex yet with a man.

After some time, they decided to remove me from the group because I was not participating in their activities which was to have sex with men and bring back money for us to share and eat during lunch time in school .It was hard for me to do but I had to in other to keep my friends .I had a secret admirer in school so they advised me to approach the boy but since I could not they encouraged the boy to start writing me love letters .As they were my friends and there was no secrecy between us I showed them each letter the man sent. I received love letters from him daily and in them I saw statements like I love my baby ,I bought something for you come and collect .My friends told me to go and collect the gift he bought for me .One day I followed one of my friends after school to the boys house.

I knew that my friends had arranged the encounter and when we arrived there the boy was there waiting for us  My friend left me with him and went back without telling me .The boy was older than me with 4 years .I had sex with him for the first time.

As days and weeks pass I did not get to see my menstrual flow any more, I realized I was pregnant .I wept and lamented for days and when I told my fiends they all told me to have and abortion but refused because I was afraid of the effects of abortion .I went and told the boy about it and he said he is not ready to be father and that his parents will disown him so he asked me to have an abortion. He gave me some piles to take and the fetus will be flushed out .I took them and went home with it. I thought of it all night, the thought of been a mother at the age of 12.

I decided to tell my parent about it. My mother wept and wept ,my dad almost disown me .One night my mother came to my room and said she was sorry ,I felt bad about it and I could not understand why she was apologizing to me .I asked her why she was apologizing and said she failed me as a mother . I did not understand what my mother was saying so she explain that she failed to teach me sex education and how to handle menstruation when it came and that it was I duty to tell me at my young age .i accepted her apology and the next day I went I told the boy who got me pregnant that my parents have accepted the pregnancy and will be by our side .he got angry at me and denied the to support me because I refused to have an abortion and he asked never to return .I went home in tears  but my family supported me .my parent stood by me . I stopped going to school because pregnant girls were not allowed in school, I became a laughing stock in the community especially as young as I was.

 After some months, I had my baby girl and when I took her in my hands I promised not to make the same mistake my mother did. After some time I went back to school and her father came back and begged for pardon and I accepted .Today my girl is a teenager and I have already told her all she has to know about menstruation.

As I go ahead in life, I endeavor that every girl should know what menstruation is and how to count her menstrual cycle and menstrual and personal hygiene.