COVID-19 AND GENDER-BASED VIOLENCE

Shabells
Posted April 15, 2020 from Nigeria

GENDER-BASED VIOLENCE AND COVID 19 PANDEMIC

For how long do we face such challenges? Why do women have to go through violence, abuse and all that? These are questions that kept running through my mind every single day. I am so devastated and weak, my heart broken wishing I could find an everlasting solution to Gender-Based Violence.

Standing at the balcony of my house, i sighted a pregnant woman with bruises and deep injuries all over her body, laying on the floor of her compound  bleeding profusely possibly due to miscarriage. She was unconscious and couldn't move her body, i rushed to the house and on getting closer to her I thought she was dead. I took another step closer to confirm my fears, suddenly I noticed her finger moved and I realized she was still alive.

I called out for help but no one answered because of the lock down and stay at home policy by the government. I was confused and terrified,  never seen situation like that. I stood there quiet with tears in my eyes thinking of how to save the life of this woman when I heard a voice screaming at the top of his voice saying ️"Let her die she has no value to the world, she is very stubborn and indiscipline No one will save her today, Everyone is on lockdown even her family can not come here to save her and no one to witness what I did to her".  I was silent for a moment trembling and wondering who could that be, I picked up the courage to turn around and I saw a Man in his early 40s with 3 lovely children crying profusely saying "Daddy please don't let our mummy to die" and that was when I realized that he was actually her husband. My heart bleeds for what is going to be the fate of the children.

I was shocked and terrified that a man could do this to the women who sacrificed her family bond to come and build a home with him.

This is the story that alot of women go through, most especially in the midst of Covid-19 pandemic. If actions are not taken seriously on the issue of violence against women in this period of Covid 19 Pandemic then we are left with two options; either the women die from Corona Virus or die from domestic abuse.

Let's all come together to save women, girls and children from Abuse.

Voice of the Girl Child and Vulnerable People Foundation (VGCVPF) will not relent in their effort to see an end to all forms of Gender-Based Violence in Nigeria and beyond.

Thank you and God Bless, Aisha M. Bello

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Anita Shrestha
Apr 15
Apr 15

Thank you for sharing

Thelma obani 2020
Apr 16
Apr 16

Powerful information...Thanks for sharing

Jill Langhus
Apr 17
Apr 17

Hello Aisha,

Oh, this is beyond sad, and disturbing:-( How can we re-educate grown men to respect women. When did this become acceptable, and why is it acceptable? I'm so glad that you helped her. Is she okay now? My heart bleeds, too, for women in these situations and the children that are witnessing and quite possibly growing up in similar situations because this is their "norm." The cycle needs to stop, and thankfully there are heroes like you that are strong and willing to change this. Please let us know how this poor lady is doing? Thanks for sharing and spreading awareness on this very challenging situation.

Vanora.Lee
Apr 17
Apr 17

It's heartbroken and terrifying story. I cannot stop crying out for God's help. May God heal the men's cruetly on women, reestablish husband and wife bonding and rebuild family. You are an angel to reach out and accompany her in her dying moments, it really means a lot to her. Thank you! Stay safe and well!

magg6789
Apr 25
Apr 25

Hello Aisha.
Thank you for sharing this emotional piece. We are seeing a rise of domestic violence around the world as more people are asked to stay home. It is a rising manner as many countries have even seen figures that are higher for domestic violence related deaths than COVID-19 deaths.

Chi8629
Apr 26
Apr 26

Thank you for sharing dear sister.

Tamarack Verrall
Apr 29
Apr 29

Dear Aisha,
You ask the questions we must all have on our lips, tirelessly. How courageous of you to try to help this woman. And to have to witness the words of this murderous man, and in the presence of her children. This is what we live to see change. It takes such courage to come right in front of such viciousness, such male dominance. The same question runs through our minds. Why? Now we have found each other and with strong voices like yours, we are all the stronger. Take heart dear sister, we are together on this.
In sisterhood,
Tam

Fanka
Aug 01
Aug 01

Hello Shabelle,
Courage in all that you do for women and girls. So many women are slowly dying every day in silence as a result of gender-based violence.