How it happend ?

Shaguftabhutto
Posted September 8, 2020 from Pakistan

How i did bad ?  How i lost my self ? How i loved and got married very fast? How i left parents and family ? 

How i became mother? Still thinking how i wasted my education , how i lost my wishes and job ?  This is one sided mirror of my sepration , how i am bond at home to serve childrens ? How every one left away from me ?

How i can grow my family  at home ?

How i can earn to grow childrens.

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Hello, Shaguftabhutto,

Welcome to World Pulse! I'm glad a new voice from Pakistan is rising up.

Your questions are valid, dear sister. A lot of women silently ask these questions, too. It's so brave of you to ask these aloud. It takes courage to reflect and answer these questions. Awareness is a good place to start. From there you can take small simple steps in finding solutions. You are a strong woman to hold all these things together. You are a smart woman for asking the right questions. You are such a loving woman to care for your children and family.

Now that you are on World Pulse, you are no longer alone. I'm sorry if you feel everyone left you. Please keep sharing your stories. We will listen. This is your home.

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 08
Sep 08

Hello Dear,

Welcome to World Pulse and thank you for sharing your first story with us. I wrote some answers for you to look at.
You loved and got married because you wanted to experience that and there is nothing wrong with it.
You left your parents because you wanted to experience your own individuality, this is spiritual growth.
You became a mother because you have so much life in you ... you want to nurture life and your God given potential. You did not waste your education because it is always there for you to continue.
You lost your job because a better one is waiting for you.
Serving children is the greatest honor any woman can have so please cherish it. Those left you to open up space for new people to show up in your life. You can grow your family at home with love and compassion. You can earn to grow children because you can. You are wise, you are capable, you are loving, you are giving, you are compassionate and you are powerful. You have all the tools you need and we love you and support you to stand up and shine.

Shirin

Shaguftabhutto
Sep 09
Sep 09

Thank you so much sis

valem
Sep 09
Sep 09

dear sister
you said it all very accurately and I hope she will go after it

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 09
Sep 09

Thank you dear. You are sweet.

Nini Mappo
Sep 08
Sep 08

Hello Shaguftabutto,
Welcome to World Pulse. Your questions are all our questions, and part of self discovery too.
They feel as if you have sacrificed so much of yourself without realising it, and a lot of women do that. The beauty of your situation is that unlike many women, you are realising that you can be more. What you are now is also beautiful. Being a mum, giving life, nurturing life, and filling those little souls with hope and life lessons and guidance that no one else in life can.

I too stopped working when I had children, working only one day per week. Some of my family members felt that these years with my young children is like wasted job opportunity.

But I disagree. My children are not a distraction from 'important' work. To me they are the most important work of all the work I'll ever do, because it is a work that spans generations.
I think of being a mother as me training life givers who will continue to give life when I cannot, and that fills me with purpose.

We all have different experiences that culminate into who we are, and in asking these questions you have embarked on a journey to find that person, be comfortable with her, grow her until you fill out your potential.

I pray that it will be a beautiful journey for you. We are here to encourage you and cheer you on.
Love and hugs :)

Andrace
Sep 10
Sep 10

Hi Shaguf,
Congratulations on sharing your first post and welcome to World Pulse.

The sisterhood is here to support you. 'Glad you joined. Welcome home. No worries. We all seem to make mistakes as we navigate life and it is okay to do so because we become stronger and better after. All would be well, Sis.

Keep sharing your thoughts, please.

Love and hugs,
E.J.

Shaguftabhutto
Sep 10
Sep 10

Thank you very much sis . I'll try my best