MENSTRUATION IS NOT A CHOICE!!

shannon singo
Posted May 31, 2021 from South Africa

As a woman you know every single month your periods will make themselves known , whether you like t or not. To be shamed for things that are beyond your control is something that can destroy ones soul. I remember when i started getting my periods at the age of 12 , my peers had not gotten them yet, i felt ashamed of my self , like there was something wrong with me, because before i even got to get accustomed to my own periods the whole grade at school was making fun of me, before i even understood what menstruation meant i hated it.

Its not even something i could blame them for, because just as i was not educated they weren't as well. I had no idea why i was on my periods , i was no taught neither at school nor at home , i grew up living with my grandmother who was too busy raising her kid's kids to sit down with me and explain that I would get periods as a girl, until i got them. That's when she taught me everything about periods but at that time i was already scarred even when she told me to celebrate them i didn't listen.

Things like this happen all the time , there are so many women and girls out there who share this story with me , so many women who were made to feel ashamed of their periods , who were made to feel abnormal or sick or crazy the list goes on. i have heard women share their first period stories and none of them were  stories of celebrations, why is it that we're no taught at a young age to celebrate our periods , why are we made o feel ashamed of such a thing that is  beyond  our control, a super power, a nature born blessing.

To make things even worse the sanitary pads here in South Africa are not available for everyone, not everyone can afford them, girls miss school when they're on their periods because they cant afford sanitary pads. The government avail condoms for free but you have to have money in order to get sanitary pads. If you can avail condoms for free why not do the same thing with sanitary pads, periods are no a choice , they are a force of nature something you cant control so then lets not sham each other for having them.

Lets empower each other , especially young girls to not feel ashamed of them. and i really hope at some point we can also convince the government to avail sanitary pads for free for those who cannot afford them.

 

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Olutosin
Jun 01
Jun 01

Great point. Sell condom and make sanitary pads free for girls.
Thank you.

shannon singo
Jun 12
Jun 12

exactly , even though they still make the condoms free, make sanitary pads free too or atleast low priced and easily accessible.

Nini Mappo
Jun 02
Jun 02

Hello Shannon,
I am sorry to hear of your experience, but also smiled at your outlook on the whole thing that both your discomfort, and their ridicule was because of ignorance. Let's keep education and campaigning for improved menstrual health, and hygiene so that our children don't have the same first period experience, because truly, as you say, menstruation is not a choice, and bleeding every month is expensive, and confusing without prior warning.

Good on you for sharing. Stay sparkly :)

shannon singo
Jun 12
Jun 12

Thank you Nini

Susu Mohamed
Jun 02
Jun 02

Dear Shanonn.
we must start and continue developing and working menstrual hygiene, and how to beautify girls' hearts When menstruation cycle occurs.
Regards,
suu

shannon singo
Jun 12
Jun 12

it is definitely concerning how this is an issue in so many countries yet menstruation is a normal thing.

jomarieb.earth
Jun 02
Jun 02

Dear Shannon,
In tiny groups, women are celebrating women. The chances of an organization feeling the need to sign up to take charge of the flow, is slim. But women can support women. Women can still learn to teach one another. And women can make their own pads.
This is going on in highly developed and under developed countries. No, it's no cool, high tech, fashionable and disposible. But it a movement that is truly alive.
If you join the movement with a small group of women, then others can join too. And one day, as women, as a whole, we will decide to support one another and OWN OUR FLOW. It doesn't belong to an NGO. It's our lives, for thousands of year, and thousands of years to come. Here are resources of links. Something for everyone. It's time to own the flow...pass it on. Check it out and give it a chance, so another woman can also have a chance.
Hugs...JoMarie
Ladies let's talk! What the world needs now are REUSABLE CLOTH SANITARY PADS!...https://www.worldpulse.com/community/users/jomariebearth/posts/99665

Julie Kabukanyi
Jun 04
Jun 04

Dear Shannon,
yes our cultures and traditions usually shame us women of what is part of our womanhood. In other tribes, menstruating girls are not allowed in the family house, they are secluded to an area outside the house for the duration of their periods. They are considered "unclean". Education is important to change mentalities.

Laetitia Shindano
Jun 09
Jun 09

Chère sœur,
Merci pour le partage de ton histoire qui est presque identique à celles de milliers de filles et de femmes. La préparation et ou l’éducation des adolescentes à la menstruation est cette étape cruciale pouvant leur permettre de gérer leur flux mensuel en toute confiance.
A te lire bientôt

shannon singo
Jun 12
Jun 12

i know a few people with such expiriences, shamed and told they were unclean because they were on their periods, a lot of women who have expirienced such situation dont even find it wrong because they were mentally trained to believe that periods are unclean so much so that they even teach it to other women.

Tamarack Verrall
Jun 09
Jun 09

Dear Shannon,
How enraging that so little to nothing is taught, and the first girls to start their periods are all too often, like you, so disrespectfully treated. It is part of this system we are now able to work against together, this shaming of women for being women. I celebrate the powerful woman you are, and the importance of this story. Yes! Free pads for girls, and money for the women sewing them. A step toward true respect for women.

shannon singo
Jun 12
Jun 12

Thank you for your kind words Tamarack

Urmila Chanam
Jun 10
Jun 10

Dearest Shannon Singho,
The situation in India is no better- sanitary napkins are unaffordable by a large section of girls and women not just due to its pricing but also because in villages and rural parts their availability is scarce. Shame and taboo further ensures women's access to these menstrual absorbents are reduced. We should have a law that makes sanitary products either free, or low priced and easily available.

Prayers and best wishes,
Urmila Chanam

shannon singo
Jun 12
Jun 12

The situation is all too familiar, but i always ask my self 'who is responsible for change?" you know , what help does it bring to just complain?.

shannon singo
Jun 12
Jun 12

I personally believe that the time for complaining should be over , we should be taking charge as women all over the world to ensure sanitary hygiene for all women wherever, whether rural or urban it shouldn't matter. EVERY WOMAN HAS THE RIGHT TO SANITARY HYGIENE!! we didn't ask for these periods so don't make us pay for them.