Raising Girls

Sharon Makunura
Posted October 29, 2018 from Zimbabwe

I have been privileged to be raised with 3 sisters and no brothers.  It meant we got everything family and home could offer us without the limitations of our gender.  There was never any talk of us being inferior to boys.  Instead, we were giving every imaginable responsibility because ‘I don’t have a son who can do that, so you have to,’ as my father was fond of saying.

So, we did the gardening, we washed the car and ran errands in town.  When we came of age we learnt to drive.  If your grades permitted efforts were made to send you to college.  Of course, because we were girls our freedoms were limited.  Curfews were strict, and outings alone we considered too dangerous for girls.  ‘If you were a boy, it may be different,’ my mother would say after yet another refusal to attend a party.

It is in the home that the girl first encounters the gender ceiling.  How biased the family’s outlook is will largely determine how she steps out into the world.  Often girls are limited by their perception of themselves and what they can be.  And that is built up mainly in how they are treated in their families.  Its easy for me to oppose gender bias because that is not how I was raised.

I am now raising two girls of my own.  I want to raise them to not limit themselves because they are girls.  I want my girls and other girls in my sphere of influence to live their lives to the fullest potential.  I want them to never doubt their own mental or physical strength.  Anything a boy can do they can too.  Despite everything the world may say or deprive them of, their self confidence should carry them through.

This story was submitted in response to #DayOfTheGirl.

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Jill Langhus
Oct 29, 2018
Oct 29, 2018

Hi Sharon,

Thanks for sharing your post. I'm glad that you were raised in a more equal environment than a lot of your counterparts. It's also great to hear that you are raising your two girls to be independent, strong and confident, too. Will they have limitations imposed on them for outings? I'm wondering how you will handle this challenging and delicate situation.

Good luck with your story submission, and have a great day!

Wusufor
Oct 29, 2018
Oct 29, 2018

Hi Sharon,
Thanks for sharing your story with us and ooh yes we can :-)
Regards
Lisbeth

Aurora-Transformation
Feb 05, 2019
Feb 05, 2019

Hello, nice to read your post!
I wrote on the same topic couple of days ago but from a different point of view maybe since I never had sisters.
Have a look :
https://www.worldpulse.com/en/community/users/aurora-transformation/post...

Nice to read you!

Beth Lacey
May 21, 2019
May 21, 2019

Your girls are lucky to have you as their Mom

Sharon Makunura
May 21, 2019
May 21, 2019

Thanks Beth.

Nabila Abbas
Sep 20, 2019
Sep 20, 2019

Thanks for sharing :)

Anita Shrestha
Oct 01, 2019
Oct 01, 2019

HI Sharon
Thank you for sharing

Jacqueline Namutaawe
Oct 07, 2019
Oct 07, 2019

Hey Sharon you must have had an eexciting experience of growing up with only sisters. I can only imagine the little dramas all the time the tantrums etc. It is transformational of you to raise girls of your own and truly rewarding. Keep it up may they soar to be women of character and value to their society and the world at large.

Qurratulayn Khan
Oct 10, 2019
Oct 10, 2019

Hi dear,
your are right we don't need to compare the strength of our girls on the basis of their gender-hood, but alas! this is the bitter reality of the world, and we here to change this thought that girls have equal potential as boys have, really good to know about your contribution for your girls, this single try will bring a huge change.
Respect:)

Sister Zeph
Oct 11, 2019
Oct 11, 2019

Wonderful family and wonderful girls. I also have three sisters and no brother and I am raising my one daughter now. I totally agree with you. Our family gives us confidence we should give confidence to our daughters too and we are doing it