It is not enough to say "Just Leave"

Sherna Alexander Benjamin
Posted August 28, 2015 from Trinidad and Tobago

Often times we tell victims to"just leave" or "break their silence". Too many of us, who give this advice we believe it is a simple act to just leave. Every time a victim has to make a decision to leave, it's a life or death decision.

It is not enough to say"just leave"Victims who are encouraged to leave must also be fully supported in every aspect, if they do decide to leave.

We need to put things in place, by formulating policies, prevention and intervention strategies, providing effective and efficient protection for victims and their children, having transitional housing communities for victims past three months, financial support, academic support and innovative job creation which will open the doors to economic stability and self-sustainability.

We need to work with residents in various communities to support victims, stand against the perpetration of violence, and become active bystanders thus the responsibility of combating and preventing gender-based violence becomes a community responsibility.

It is not "just leave" it is life or death, sustainability or poverty, economic independence or another abusive dependence, it is either housing or street dwelling. It is not enough to say "just leave"

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Bharti Singh Chauhan
Sep 02, 2015
Sep 02, 2015

A powerful word.. Break the Silence.. I truly  agree with you, but the fact is many women dont try to break the silence just because of Love and sensitiation of loosing the family, break up of relations..definately it is difficult but the truth remains still the same.. One needs to have the courage to break the silence.. and I agree with you sister shrena..

Nakinti
Sep 02, 2015
Sep 02, 2015

Dear Sherna,

You are right! We need to step up our game of sensitization and putting in place lasting solutions to problems of violence against women. I think women suffering violence have to begin the process by first of all speaking out, and then we all have to play our part by providing a safe haven for them.

You have said it very well, Sherna!!! Thank you for bringing this up.

Love

Nakinti  

Surya Simon
Sep 13, 2015
Sep 13, 2015

Well said Sherna and very powerful. Women should strive firstly, to not consider the option of "just leave". This should be followed by "break the silence" and then, "voice the silence". I know it is difficult, particularly when there are soci-cultural aspects to be considered for every woman. It is scary but for how long, can we be scared? So, like you said, there should be options for stability in terms of finance, health, employment, and so on. I agree with you. It is not enough to say "Just Leave"! Quite a message Sherna!

Wendy Barnett
Sep 14, 2015
Sep 14, 2015

I agree that 'just leave' are the easiest words to say for probably one of the hardest decisions to make. There are so many more aspects that have to be considered before being able to take that final, yet in many ways, first, step to freedom.

I agree with you, as communities, we need to create places and resources which make it possible for women to leave. This means education for those who have been perhaps forced into marriages young, career counseling for them to get jobs and earn money. Finances are often the single biggest factor in why a woman can't leave but should be the last reason they should stay with an abusive partner. 

As with some other acounts I've read, it's so easy to recognize that society is broken or to look the other way when abuse happens but the truly courageous act is to offer a helping hand, lend an empathetic ear, provide support in whatever form that takes.

This happens all over the world and until women are enabled to have the courage to rise up and say 'no', we won't tolerate this anymore, it will continue. We should all continue to support each other and find ways to protect our sisters and empower their voices. 

Thank you for bringing this up; it's a global issue which happens every day in our own backyards but, with all the other atrocities going, takes a back seat.

zizou
Sep 21, 2015
Sep 21, 2015

Dear Sherna,

i tottaly agree with you it's not enough to say " just leave" ! where will they go how will they live ! those questions must be considered .Most of women prefer to stay with they abusers rather than live in street or starving or lives away from their kids because they can't afford their needs! that's why it's so important to a woman to have a job so she can be finacially independant they have to know also their rights because those abusers must be convicted and must pay for what they are doing .

The society have a major role in the process before saying "leave" women must be empowered and supprted in this decision