We Are World Pulse

Shirin Dalaki
Posted September 22, 2020 from United States

Stronger together

Share what encouragement and support means to you. How has this role impacted your life?

When I receive encouragement and support it means to me that I am being heard and I am being seen. It means that someone through heart connection care about what I say and what I have said has made an impact on her. This allows us to be encouraging each other and do more of it. It is a full circle because the more we do it and the more feedback we get the more energized we become.

Share a moment when encouragement made a difference in your life. Did you start a new project, pursue studies, or gain confidence?

There are many moments when encouragement made a difference in my life but the first one was when I posted my first story and I received encouraging comments that made me pause and think…

It felt so pure and alive because I did not know these sisters but I could feel their heart and I could feel their intention. I was a member for couple years but had not posted anything because I was feeling so sad that I had lost my mother a year before and because her death was so sudden it pulled me to depression. World Pulse was an avenue for me to heal the part of me that felt so sad and vulnerable by encouraging others. I did not know how powerful encouragement was until I experienced it with World Pulse.

When I encourage someone … when I feel that she hears me and my insight has an impact on her to reflect on her life and choose what is best for her is a great moment for me and opens my heart widely because I can see my younger self and how I did not have this opportunity for someone to encourage me and now I can do the opposite and raise up humanity’s consciousness is a great gift to share,

Envision a world where a culture of encouragement and support is normalized. What would that world be like for women and girls?

I can envision a world where a culture of encouragement and support is normalized and we are doing this in World Pulse already and we continue to do this work which is so valuable. We come to a point together that we cherish each other regardless…would it be a celebration or vulnerability one expresses we are here to listen and be a cheerleader no matter what…that we back each other up, we support one another in order to demonstrate that she is not alone, to lift each other up and send a message to the world that together we can empower one another, together we get into collective consciousness that we are good enough, we are valued and we are unique in our own special way and we are stronger together.

This world would be more loving, safe, trustworthy and joyful place for women and girls for sure. We declare that love can replace fear because love and fear can not coexist, it is either love or fear and in this community we advocate and encourage love so that love with its powerful force takes over fear and creates a better place for us to live.

What actions can we take to create more caring, safe spaces? 

I set my intention and constantly think carefully how I respond to a comment and read and reread her story and my comment to make sure I understood where she is coming from and to create a safe space and also I speak from a loving and compassionate place in my heart that speaks the truth while focusing on upliftment  and inspiration.

Share about a time you found support across cultures and/or borders.

What I love about World Pulse is this global sisterhood. I can communicate with so much freedom knowing that the person is in another continent and feel this strong connection and makes me see how the world is such a small village with everybody wants the same thing. We want to be seen and we want to be heard. We want to know that no matter how big a situation might be we have each other’s back, that there is not anything we can not tackle because the power of love and Spirit is here to support us and that we can express ourselves and know what we say can have value and meaning to somebody else.  

Did bias play a role? How did you overcome it?

I think it is part of cultural upbringings to be bias and we can always be careful about this part of human programming but World Pulse is tackling this issue by creating a loving, nonjudgmental and unbiased culture and bringing our heart together because we are soul. We might be different on surface but we are the same and of the same essence,

Even encouragers need to be encouraged. Write a letter to someone

This is absolutely true that even encouragers need to be encouraged, we are not different than everybody else; we all want to be heard and seen. It is so powerful and so unique. It creates connection, communication and strenght.

who has made an impact in your life?

There are so many sisters on World Pulse who have made an impact in my life through their presence, courage and care that I deeply appreciate. On bigger picture, Oprah has made a huge impact on me by changing lives and also RBG, a true champion for gender equality. I love for you to learn about this remarkable woman, her strenght, her even-temperedness and can-do attitude. I wrote a piece about her and love for you to read it and leave a comment.

https://www.worldpulse.com/community/users/shirin-dalaki/posts/96759

This story was submitted in response to Stronger Together.

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Hello, Shirin,

Wow, wow, wow! Your words are like a spring of life and love. Many, if not all, of what you wrote resonates with me. It's so wonderful to know about your thoughts on encouragement and encouraging our sisters on World Pulse.

Losing your mother must be difficult that you faced depression. That's tough, dear. I'm so sorry for your loss. Reminds me of the quote, " When the going gets tough, the tough gets going."

I am so grateful that you found World Pulse, dear Shirin. I see each encourager with her own unique style and strength. Every one is valuable. You are valuable. No one can encourage the way you do. I am so happy you have your Shirin Style of Encouragement. And your presence and positivity bring so much light to the darkness women face in their countries. Thank you for being generous with your time to "listen", to "see", and to "uplift".

We appreciate you, dear sister. As I always say, may your tribe increase! You are a healer. May you heal more wounded women with your words.

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 24
Sep 24

My Dear Karen,

Wow, wow, wow! Your words are like a river of love filling my heart and soul with joy. What a pleasure to read your feedback and know that you hear me, see me and show empathy with such honesty. I love it and I love you.
Yes dear, losing my mom has been the toughest thing I had to face in life but you said it right...it has made me stronger and has opened a space in my heart where the sorrow and acceptance live side by side and know that I am okay in this space. At least I can talk about it which could not do that before and has been very healing to my heart.
i am grateful for you too. You do so much for us and I truly appreciate you.
Thank you for your encouraging words, it honestly means a lot to me.
I love to heal for sure, one heart at a time including my own heart and many many other hearts; as I always say we are all the same and of the same source.
With love and gratitude,

Shirin

ANJ ANA
Sep 22
Sep 22

Dear Shirin,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's quite quite similar to my experience. I was feeling like you are writing my thoughts. We are heard, we are felt and we are with global sisters and have a big and warm bond even we have not seen each others. Please keep writing, we would love to hear you more.
love and regards, anjana

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hello Dear Anj Ana,

It is so nice to meet you and thank you for reading my post. It is so interesting what you wrote about feeling like I was writing your thoughts...I love it, thanks for sharing it with me and it means we are in alignment with each other, what a joy. Thank you.

Shirin

Sinyuy Geraldine
Sep 23
Sep 23

Dear Sharin. This is a touching topic you have shared here. Encouragement is fuel for our entire life. When we are encouraged, we can do more than what are are doing right now. I have done a lot of good things and achieve much especially in my academics because I was encouraged. When my students perform well in exams I am encouraged to work harder. At home I even do more when every service I render my family is recognized and appreciated. If we build a culture of encouragement, then the world will be a beautiful place.
Hugs
Geraldine.

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hello Dear Sinyuy,

How are you doing? I have been missing you on WP...wanted to send you a message and check on you and here you are. Thank you for reading my post and I agree with you 100%. It is positively contagious and expands on itself.
Love and hug,

Shirin

Sinyuy Geraldine
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hello Shirin dear. Oh I'm so glad to know that you wanted to check on me. Thanks a million. I'm very focused this time so I had less time to come to WP. Love

mugoli
Sep 23
Sep 23

Hello my sister Dalaki!
I hope you are doing well and I encourage you to share with us as well about what you have been through. and above all may the soul of our very dear mother rest in peace.
Take heart and you always continue to join our global community of fallacious women on whom you will be consoled.

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hello Dear Mugoli,

What a touching and loving comment you left for me. I could feel your heart as I read your words. I am doing great and thank you for encouraging me to share about what I have been through.
Well...I have been through a lot. One day out of blue my brother called me and said he wants to come and visit me which was very odd...it almost never happened. I was getting worried and I asked my husband what is going on and he did not know anything. My mom was sick but not like so sick and she was not that old either, we were all expecting her to get over the sickness. On that dreadful day ... my brother and his wife knocked on my door and entered and told me that she has died ...just like that and it was the saddest day of my life. I feel so much pain in my heart right now because that scene has embedded in my memory and makes me so angry. I feel angry because I was not by her side, I live in US, she was in Iran. I can not change anything and destiny is destiny but would have loved to be by her side on her last days. I just did not know the depth of it and the shock of losing her stayed with me for couple years. I could not talk to friends who called me to express their condolences. I felt shut down and it was so horrible. You must be my guardian angel or something to write to you about what I went through, thank you, this is very healing. Thanks for caring. This means a lot to me.

Tell me about yourself...what keeps you going everyday?

With love and gratitude,

Shirin

Nini Mappo
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hello Shirin,
Thank you for sharing your vulnerable, informative story with us. I am so pleased to hear that the comfort of sisters here held you up to heal your grief a little. I'm sorry for your loss--grief is never concluded, and sometimes you find yourself going to special places in your memories to be with the one you love, regardless of how much time has passed. Sending love and hugs :)
I smiled reading what you said about encouragement being 'alive', and real, so that there's no plasticity or empty hope about it. I particularly liked what you said about the benefit of encouraging, because it's true; we benefit from encouraging others too. Thank you for giving back encouragement, and for sharing the valuable tips here on how to become better encouragers.

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hello Dear Nini,
Thank you for reading my story ... yes, you are right, the comfort of sisters is priceless and each unique in its own way.
Thank you Nina for caring, it means a lot to me. I am so happy I made you smile, this is the best part and love it when it happens. Thanks for sharing.
Oh ... you are so sweet, you are welcome.

You are doing so much in such a short time you have been with us. Your presence is so valuable. Thank you for all you do.

Lots of love, hug and gratitude,

Shirin

Nini Mappo
Sep 24
Sep 24

Thank you dear Shirin, for valuing how connected I feel to the voices of my sisters on World Pulse. It is great to have a new family with whim I can speak any time, and I too, appreciate your presence here :)

Mumble
Sep 24
Sep 24

Oh my, it's never easy when you lose someone especially when it's your mum. Grief blackens and enlightens leaving a scar that only time can heal. I lost my second mum in January, this year and to think that we are only 3 months away from the end of the year is rapidly approaching. Your words resonate with me and many others here around the world. May love and support be beside you always. Keep inspiring, keep smiling and keep strong xx

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 24
Sep 24

Oh God, you write so beautifully and yes only time heals, thanks for this reminder.
I am so sorry for your loss too. I love to know what you have been through.
Thank you for letting me know my words resonated with you, it means a lot to me.
You are so sweet. Thank you.
I will do that dear love ... I keep inspiring, keep smiling and keep strong and you do the same ... keep inspiring, smiling and strong. Together we are stronger.

Lots of love and gratitude,

Shirin

DonnaLT
Sep 25
Sep 25

My Dear Shirin,
I love your words of insight & encouragement. I too am inspired by Oprah, & just recently RBG! I look forward to reading your story about Ruth & am happy to make comment. Keep up your writing, you are an inspiration using your love & deep understanding.
As you know, our country is in deep turmoil, that which many of us have not witnessed before. Women are our future & it is my hope that women can start making the changes we so need here and throughout the world today.
Keep writing! Take care, stay safe, & be well.
With much love,
Donna

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 25
Sep 25

Hello dear Donna,
It is so nice to meet you today on encourager party. I love your energy and how you express yourself in words. It is very soothing to my heart. You are so gifted and thank you for reading my comments and encouraging me to do more. It means a lot to me and I appreciate you.
I hear you about our country, it is quite a turmoil, I agree with you and yes ... women are our future and this is the reason I like people to get to know RBG. I suggested to my niece yesterday to pursue her career in law. We need more people in the position of power and lawyers and judges can bring change to our system and gender inequality.

With love and gratitude,

Shirin

Sushmita Das
Sep 27
Sep 27

Loved it ❤️

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 27
Sep 27

Thank you.

JoOak
Sep 29
Sep 29

Thanks sister Shirin for sharing this .
Encouragement is like energy pills.
It indeed gives hope and boost self confidence.
A couple of days back I shared my story here and I must confess , the encouragement and show of love I received from my dear sistesr has been like the motivation and support I have been longing for all these years
I have also learnt from your write up that iwe need to also encourage and appreciate our encourager (s) .
I want to use this avenue to thank all sisters on this beautiful platform for encouraging and supporting one another .
Sorry about the lose of your Mum Shirin , be consoled .
I love you
Hugs

Shirin Dalaki
Oct 02
Oct 02

Hello JoOak,

Thank you for reading my post and writing your encouraging words. I appreciate you for hearing me and understanding.
Thank you for your kindness.
With love and gratitude,

Shirin

J Brenda Lanyero
Oct 07
Oct 07

Hello Shirin.
I am glad you are are in world pulse. I too is learning to laugh here. Dismiss of my mum made things bad for me in that I was always asked what or why I was laughing and so, I learnt to wear a sad face and now they are the same people asking why I wear a sad face. But glad of the sisterhood here.

Shirin Dalaki
Oct 07
Oct 07

Hello Brenda,
Thank you for your comment and letting me know you learn to laugh. It is nice to have you on World Pulse as well.
In sisterhood and love,

Shirin

Marykb
Oct 09
Oct 09

Yeeeey I am so inspired

Shirin Dalaki
Oct 10
Oct 10

That is so sweet. Thank you for letting me know.