I Shared Some Insights on Domestic Violence at a Symposium

Shruti Sharada (She/Her)
Posted September 14, 2020 from India

At a virtual event organised recently by Bengaluru-based White Swan Foundation, I shared a few of my experiences and perspectives on violence against women, especially at home. I was joined on the panel by fellow World Pulse sister, Kirthi Jayakumar.

Conversations on abuse often focus on escape and legality, but the issue of sustained violence is a deeply nuanced one. You are speaking about a human being, not a 'case', not a 'statistic'. This person has been the product of their environment and conditioning. If assigned female at birth, this person has at every step been told to tolerate, adjust, minimise, and swallow cruelty.

Imagine the slow erosion of self-worth that they live with. Imagine the lack of options they have laying in front of them. Imagine having children and fending for all of them alone with a gap in employment, or no employment ever. Imagine being looked at as a difficult woman, a woman who wrecked a home. Imagine being treated as a liability, a burden, a shameful 'thing'.

A person does not understand the issue of abuse if they are not committing to understanding the psychology of a victim or a survivor. When it comes to Gender-Based Violence (GBV), we have to radically change how we engage, how we intervene, and how we support healing and recovery.

If you are keen, you can watch the video from the event here: https://www.facebook.com/whiteswanfoundation/videos/2712817068961597/

⚠️ Trigger warning ⚠️

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Jill Langhus
Sep 14
Sep 14

Hello Shruti,

How are you doing? Yay! You were able to collaborate with our dear Kirthi! Love it! Thanks for sharing your recent event. I'm looking forward to seeing more collaborations, events, and news.

Hope you're doing well, and having a great week!

Love you, Jill!
Thank you for your encouragement

Jill Langhus
Sep 21
Sep 21

Aw, thank you! You're very welcome, dear!!

Keep up the great work!


Sep 17
Sep 17

Thank you for sharing.

Hello, Shruti,

Congratulations on this milestone, dear. It's nice to see Kirthi on the photo, too. Domestic Violence is an important topic to address since cases of GBV increase during the lockdown. Please stay safe always, dear. Hope to see you again this Friday at our Encourager Party!

Oh yes! I'll be there. Hope to see more sisters from around the world

Oct 09
Oct 09

Yes. A lot of abuse going on in our homes. Time to take note and do something. Thank you for sharing.

Paulina Nayra
Oct 09
Oct 09

Dear Shruti,
Congratulations for bringing your voice out against gender violence. Just keep on speaking, denouncing the practices, the policies and institutions that tolerates VAW. Let people know about the platform that Kirthi created to get support for survivors of VAW.
Take care and good luck.