Discovering my passion

Singularlyme
Posted February 8, 2021 from Nigeria

I am a medical doctor and the CEO of an NGO Singularly Me Mother's Support Initiative- SiMMSI (www.singularlyme.org). Being a mother that escaped an abusive marriage I know how it feels. I realised that what helped me was my education, job and a supportive family. I realised many women have none of these. When I see women refusing to leave abusive relationships, in as much as it pains me, I understand. I realised we need to educate our girls. Give them all they require to develop agency. We need to financially empower our women too.

I moved to UK from Nigeria 2 years ago started earning a little bit more and decided to help fellow women and female children find their voices. That lead to the birth of my NGO. We have done a little. Just a drop in the ocean, really, But I am happy we are at least making a difference, one girl child, one woman a t a time.

What fuels me the most, is my daughters' desires to see  a society where women are seen to be equal to men.

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Jill Langhus
Feb 08
Feb 08

Hi there,

Welcome to World Pulse! Thanks for sharing your first, inspiring story and a little bit about your background. I'm looking forward to hearing more about you vision, plans and projects. Keep going. You may think you're make little difference, but the women and children that you have helped already probably don't think that.

Hope you have a great week.

Singularlyme
Feb 08
Feb 08

Thanks a lot. I do look forward to being a part of this group

Jill Langhus
Feb 10
Feb 10

You're welcome, dear.

Great! You already are:-)

Regina Afanwi Young
Feb 08
Feb 08

Hello sis , Welcome to World Pulse. Thank you for Sharing your first story with us. Its such an inspiration especially as you are taking action to better the lives of women and female children. Together we can do more as we all strive towards attaining the goal of generation equality.
Feel at home dear . Have a blessed week ahead of you.

Singularlyme
Feb 08
Feb 08

Thank you. I am happy to be here

Regina Afanwi Young
Feb 08
Feb 08

You are Welcome

Beth Lacey
Feb 08
Feb 08

Welcome to World Pulse. I wish you much luck with your NGO

Singularlyme
Feb 08
Feb 08

Thank you

Susu Mohamed
Feb 08
Feb 08

Hello how are you,
Welcome to the world pulse I am susu from Somalia.
am happy to read your first story you are doing needed job .
Thank you for that.
I cant see your name what is your name.

Marie Abanga
Feb 08
Feb 08

Dear Sis,

Singularly Me indeed; what a bold, brave and beautiful affirmation. It calls on each of us to own our stories and our scars and shame and our steady as we move on and reach out to help another sister do the same. You have done plenty already by not only escaping but by now also creating and NGO to help others in similar or even more perilous and jeopardized situations know that it is possible.
Welcome dear
Light and Love
Marie

Singularlyme
Feb 08
Feb 08

Thanks sis. I see myself as uniquely placed to help women because of my experience and educational background- I am a medical doctor with extensive background in public health

Rahmana Karuna
Feb 08
Feb 08

Thank you for sharing your story. Having grown up with a wife abuser as a father, i realized late in life i could trace my behavior back to my parents. mental and emotional abuse. ragers. addicts. As i crawled my way to serenity and out of abusive relationships, one quote really stuck. "We do not stay in relationships with those who treat us worse than we treat ourselves". ouch, that hurt.
Yes, let's be SEEN.

Singularlyme
Feb 08
Feb 08

Awwww. So sorry you had to go through all that. My children were a major reason I left. Women say they want to stay in abusive relationships because of their children but if they think about it critically, they should leave so their children won't face what you did.
I am here if you need support.

Rahmana Karuna
Feb 08
Feb 08

Dear Singularlyme, i was just empathizing with you and all of us. I volunteered at battered women's shelters since '82, as a nurse practitioner i specialized in domestic violence, rape, adults molested as children. i guess in my case the saying "we practice what we need to learn out of life" is true. :-)
may your NGO grow and thrive until it is no longer necessary.

Singularlyme
Feb 09
Feb 09

Thanks sis

Namasomo Kiyobe
Feb 08
Feb 08

Welcome to World Pulse! Thank you for your good idea of hating bad things and forcing others and learning from your wife or girlfriend is very important to us, keep us all together against the misconceptions a woman should have with a man.

Nini Mappo
Feb 09
Feb 09

Hi and a warm welcome to World Pulse. Congratulations on Establishing an NGO to serve the needs of women and girls in your community. I love that you didn't go to the UK to 'escape African problems', but instead use your new financial empowerment to resource change and impact among the vulnerable in your onw countries. Good on you! It is also beautiful to see intergeneration aspect of empowerment and impact in that, like you, your daughter has a vision for a fairer, more equal world. You are raising her well :-)

Singularlyme
Feb 09
Feb 09

Thank you Nini

Oyedele Omolade
Feb 09
Feb 09

Such a great move in this era of ours!
Well-done ma

Meredith Kaknevicius

It is inspiring to see women such as yourself turning their passion into positive change.

rebecca.tang
Feb 09
Feb 09

Thank you for sharing. Everyone should have their own human right. This is not granted. We have to let girls and women to understand this and give them the support.
Please continue the meaningful. You can inspire a lot of people. Believe your power!
May Almighty God bless you all the time!

Barry
Feb 10
Feb 10

Thank you dear Sister, I do appreciate your effort and commitment into supporting women. I assure you that your 'little drop into the massive ocean' would not be forsaken. That dream you seek, though may seen far, is closer than you could imagine! Welcome to the Sisterhood!!

Adanna
Feb 11
Feb 11

Welcome to World Pulse sis.

We are happy to have you here :-)

Love,
Adanna

JoOak
Feb 11
Feb 11

This is so inspiring , welcome to world pulse Dear Sister .
And thanks for your efforts and commitment to supporting women and girls .

Dawn Arteaga
Feb 12
Feb 12

Welcome to World Pulse! So glad you are here. I can’t wait to read more of your stories. You have a beautiful voice!

Owenjolana Pascaline

Hi there;
This is a great gesture.Lets continue to raise our voice.May God give you the strength and courage you need to do His Will.

Tamarack Verrall
Feb 13
Feb 13

Hello Singukarlyme,
I am so glad that you escaped the violent marriage, and that other women trying to get free have the chance to meet you. Congratulations on your NGO. For years many of us women here in North America have thought of ourselves and sung about us as drops of water flowing together toward the ocean. How great that you are here with us in World Pulse. Welcome!

Usbin
Feb 14
Feb 14

You are welcome to the world pulse, we wish to know more about your vision and mission, thanks

Sheroo
Feb 14
Feb 14

Hello!

Congratulations on your first story and welcome to World Pulse! Yours is a brave story, together we will change the world one girl, one woman at a time for sure, the world is hurting.

Congratulations for dedicating your time to help fellow women. Keep on writing, keep it up.

We are so proud of you!

Andrace
Feb 25
Feb 25

Hi Singularlyme,
I join all my sisters to warmly welcome you to World Pulse and heartily congratulate you on your first post. Very impactful. "...I am happy we are at least making a difference, one girl child, one woman a t a time." That's the spirit, Sis. 'Great that you are raising your voice. Keep writing and shining.

This is certainly the place to be...on World Pulse.

Best wishes,
E. J.

Thelma obani 2020
Mar 08
Mar 08

Welcome to world pulse dear.
You are loved always.