What we do to keep Girls in School

Sister Zeph
Posted April 27, 2015 from Pakistan

I had to leave my school at the age of 13 because my teacher humiliated me, in Punjab province still 52% girls are out of school and dropout is highest in the grade 5 (42.8%) and one of the reasons is that they have to face inequality, teacher beat them and humiliate them

When we talk about the girls of Rural Pakistan, we should know that their parents are mostly illiterate, they are against girls’ education, they are poor and they have no awareness on how to treat to the girls, they discuss all kind of matters in front of them, they rebuke them many times a day by saying if you will not learn house hold you will not get respect from your in-laws

Mothers are being treated ill by males of the family so they treat in a same way their children , they beat them , they shout at them, they use them for family politics , like mother will say to the child keep an eye at your Aunt or grandmother and tell me what they will say about me ,

From very young age children learn such things and they lose interest in their studies and when they come to school they have to see the same atmosphere teacher will love the child of a rich family, they will beat and humiliate other children, and they will insult them in front of other children if their fee is late or they make a little mistake

Girls think if they will become married like their moms they will be able to have control on kitchen, they will be able to buy new cloths, they will be able to attend weddings and other ceremonies in the family and that they will be a boss of house in absence of the husband so they like to get married as soon as possible.

They never get a chance to go for an outing with friends and family, there are many students whom I know who do not have TV at their homes they cannot even dream to have an access to the social media.

In this scenario if some girls get a chance to go to school then it is a duty of the teacher to provide them all, to give a required freedom, to give them an atmosphere where they can learn with freedom, where they can have care, they can be introduced to the gestures like care, support, team work, mutual understanding, to take a stand for the right, to go against wrong, to love to learn new things, to explore their own ideas, to have encouragement on small successes, to laugh to play , to make friends, and talk a lot and even to speak loud, we teachers should give them an opportunity to let them hear the sound of their own voices, we should let them love themselves, to recognize themselves, to admire themselves, to know their own worth and we should let them celebrate their achievements .

But in our schools it is not like that, when I was a school girl I was just 10 years old a very talkative girl and my teacher was used to tell other girls in my presence that those girls who speak loud like this girl they do not have a good character, girls should speak politely and should remain silent most of them time, she never liked me and I never stopped speaking loud and talking so much, but her remarks were enough to make me sad every day

Our teachers are also from our society so they think and act like common people, but we should understand that teachers are not common people they are the one who change the world.

At Zephaniah Free Education we never rebuke our students but try to make education interesting for them so they keep smiling and love to learn.

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Alyssa Rust
Apr 27, 2015
Apr 27, 2015

Dear Sister Zeph,

Thank you so much for sharing this story. It is so important to highlight the gap that occurs around the world of girls leaving school and not gaining enough education. It was really sad to hear that children lose interest in studying at a young age due to so many different things, such as being humiliated by a teacher, which causes them so much pain. I thought the comment that you made at the end of your post about how teachers are not common people and that they are the one who change the world was so powerful. I think that comment is so true. Teachers have a great influence on children’s lives and for many are role models. They should lead by example and accept all students no matter rich or poor or quiet or talkative. Thanks again for sharing.

Sincerely,  Alyssa Rust 

Sister Zeph
May 03, 2015
May 03, 2015

My dear Alyssa 

thank you for taking time to read my story, yes teachers have a most important role specially in developing countries where tranformation of children' lives depends on what teachers teach them because their parents do not know how to treat children to give them a good life 

with Love 

Sister zeph

Nabiye Tal
May 02, 2015
May 02, 2015

Dear Sister Zeph,

I always enjoy reading your story, the way you narrate everything makes me feel like i am right there with you. You know, i keep wondering why all over the world, people are against girls education, despite the fact that they see at the end of the day the tremendous positive effects that educating a girl does, still, most people, and most baffling even some women who themselves are not educated seem reluctant to support girls education. I can even imagine how your teacher, who is a woman also behaved the way she did, if it wasn't for your determination you would have been so discouraged. I am so happy you kept faith alive and today you are where you are. Together, we shall continue to support and encourage girls education! Cheers.

Sister Zeph
May 03, 2015
May 03, 2015

My dear Nabiye 

Thanks a lot for your kind comments, yes you and I and members of  wrold Pulse from around the  world will change the wrold tegether, we will do it 

With love 

Sister Zeph

coolasas
May 03, 2015
May 03, 2015

Hi Sister Zeph, 

Thank you for this enlightening story, make me sad that girls are not given that much choice in life at a very young age by the people who are supposed to be leading them to a better future. 

When teachers whom I look up to starts undermining my abilities because i am a girl, that changes my perspective of my future -- it does not encourage me to make a difference and let history repeat itself. Which is unfair because on the other side of the world there are teachers who celebrate with their students and show them options to pursue because the teacher knows they can do it - just like your school. 

It is sad also to read in your post that only by getting married they will matter if that is what "matter" means to them -- having control of the kitchen and all that. 

Thanks to you some children, girls have different experience which I hope rub to others and get to enjoy being children first and have good perspective of the future later given the right guidance and education. If they decide to get married it is because they want it and they love the idea of it and being a mother.

I teach to -- I teach in schools without walls and I encourage my students to think for themselves and explore their own abilities because in a room without walls your environment is your teachers, your instinct is your guide and your heart will make every choice matter to you and to the people around you. 

Good luck in your campaign, we are all here for your success with your students! 

Cheers, Coolasas

Kadidia Doumbia
May 04, 2015
May 04, 2015

Sister Zeph,

You are describing a situation that is found in various areas of the world, not only in Pakistan.  You are addressing the training of teachers and the need to change the mindset of the community. the only to start it is by explaining how the education of girls can benefit the community. This should be a national and honest campaign of explanation emphasizing that girls and women are citizens with rights. Unfortunately, it is a long road as women are rarely seated at the table to discuss their needs.

Let's not get discouraged and keep on striving to gain litlle battles.

Louise Paré
May 06, 2015
May 06, 2015

Sister Zeph,  

Your story makes me sad and happy at the same time.  I just LIKED your Facebook page and shared a couple of posts from it to my FB page.  I have been an educator for over twenty years and am deeply committed to the importance and power of educating girls.  

There is an organization in my city called the Rose Circle Mentoring Network that works primarily with the empowerment of girls.  Here's a link to their website: http://www.therosecircle.org       Through the use of circles of mentors as well as the arts they create a safe and empowering space for young girls to experience their own power, beauty and creativity.    

I love it when you write "....give them an opportunity to let them hear the sound of their own voices, we should let them love themselves, to recognize themselves, to admire themselves, to know their own worth, and we should let them celebrate their achievements."  Many years ago a woman named Nelle Morton wrote "We hear each other into speech."  That is what you are doing through your writing and your work at Zephaniah Free Education.  

 I LOVE the photo at the top of your story.  What are the tags that the girls are holding?  I believe that through the power of your work these girls are the face of the Pakistan's future....

Thank you for YOU and your work.  

Louise