My 26 years old cousin Sunny who was working in paramedical staff in District hospital of Gujranwala Punjab Pakistan, His two months old son got sick therefor Sunny called his elder brother over phone and requested him to bring his son and wife to hospital for the treatment of the baby boy.
His elder brother brought them to hospital, proper treatment was given to the baby and then sunny asked his brother to bring his family back to home and told his 21 years old wife to not to cook anything but to look after the sick baby only and that he will bring the dinner by himself from the restaurant.
His wife Sana who is so pretty and is completely in love with her husband, loved her home too, they were not living in a joint family, she was owner of her home, she would decorate the home with own choice, she would wear what she wanted to, her husband would love her and would admire her a lot, they were more lover than husband and wife, she was so proud of her life, their son completed the family and they would make so big plans for the future of the son.
They had been married for two years, but Sana would feel like she has always been with Sunny and that she would always remain with him until she is alive.
But, on the same night when his wife was waiting for him to bring dinner and that they will eat together, she had a call on her cell phone, it was Sunny’s number therefor she picked the phone immediately with an anger, she wanted to fight with him to show her anger, because it was too late and he was not coming home, how could he be so careless, it has been hours and he did not call to ask how was she and their son, he did not take her call even, how could he do this, but at the moment when she opened her mouth to speak she heard an unknown voice.
‘’ Do you know Sunny’’ She said Yes. On the other side ‘’I am speaking from the hospital he has died in a road accident’’
All in a sudden she felt like her voice was stuck, her feet so heavy like a big rock has hugged her so tight that she could not move, her breath unable to move a head from her thought, But she gathered the energy, she did her best, opened the door and ran towards the road, she was running, she lost her senses, she reached to the nearby hospital, she was she shouting, she was beating the doors, she became violent, she did not know what to do, she was feeling like her brain was tearing apart, she got faint and fell down on the floor.
When she came into conscious she saw the dead body of her loving husband Sunny and then she could not move again, it has been three days she does not know where is her son and where is her husband Sunny, he was buried today because we live in a very hot weather and we do not have arrangements to keep the dead body safe for many days.
Now she is a Widow Sana.
Her home which she made for her family she cannot live their anymore because she is too young and in our society a young woman cannot be safe alone, She cannot fulfill the needs of her son and of own needs because she has no education or skills, she was just taught to be married, to be a good wife and a mother, She will go back to her parents’ home. After she got married a burden from the family was removed (Because in our culture girls are considered burden)
Now they have two people to feed, thank God her parents are alive or she would have nowhere to go.
Because she is young that’s why she wants it or not, but she will have to get married in few months or a year, her son who would called my prince just few days before by his father will be left alone in his grand-parents’ care and there will be no one left to love him the way his father and mother had been loving him.
The story of her life could have been different, if she would have education and skills and self-confidence, she would have stayed at her home, she would not have to depend on anyone, she would be able to face this big challenge by herself, she would be able to take a stand for her son, she would not be forced to marry to another man against her will.
Being widow in Pakistan is so tough, especially if the widow is young because right after death of her husband, the wives in the neighborhood start thinking that may be now she will have an affair with their husbands. She cannot go out because no matter if she would go to buy medicine for her dying child; they will blame her of having an affair outside the home.
If she goes out to work to feed her children, it will be against honor of the family so second option is to get married to a man who she does not like and leave the children in his hands and to see the new husband treating bad her children, if she has daughters, she has to be more careful from him, another option is to wok like a slave for the relatives so that they can support her to feed her children.
We keep giving groceries, cloths and medicines to the widows and orphans at our center, But we cannot shape their future until our society learn to plan the future and to realize that the best gift for their daughters is not the materialistic things which will be destroyed with the time, But education because education and skills will never leave their daughters alone never ever.