Letter to Pastors
It is with much sadness that I address this letter to you regarding gender based violence’s culture and practices within the churches.
I was born in a Christian family where the Christianity constitutes our culture and influences everyone and everything within my community. For example during harvesting period before you can eat the first harvest you must take a portion of it to pastor for blessing and thanksgiving to God.
Everything like wearing bracelets and earrings were banned by Christianity, traditional songs, poetry and many other culture based practices were also banned. Even to sale gold and other minerals was also sin. In my community if you don’t go to church at least Sunday you are considered as a pagan and thus every member of the community must belong to a Christian denomination. However, one thing remains; << women's marginalization>> and continue to be worse.
For girl, no man will marry her if she doesn’t belong to the church and be a chorister. When a non married girl is pregnant (young mother) she is quickly suspended from attending the church services and therefore considered for a sinner until she give birth and be publically ask for forgiveness. Accidently if she dies before giving birth she goes to hell according to pastors. Unfortunately the man who made her pregnant remains unknown and no one is interested with him.
In our churches, women and girls seat in their own side and men and boys seat and in most cases the front places are for men and all pastors are men, the highest ranking woman in the most of churches is deaconess.
Dear Pastors, today I was really chocked to hear the children choir’s song full of violence against women words. The song says that “It’s sad to see a man wearing nice suit coming to church with sin”…” It’s sad to see a woman wearing super wax (expensive women’s cloth) coming to church with witchcraft”. This song shows well that the church consider women to be witches and even their own children sing that.
We can have a long list about gender based violence within our churches, but dear Pastors, Bishops, Reverends it’s time to end inequality within your churches, even the bible confirms that all people are equal in front of God; why can’t you follow the bible?
You should know that my community abandoned all their traditional practices and converted to Christianity, therefore, teach them how to be equal as bible said. You must avoid using words in your preaching that increase gender based violence such as calling women the witches or giving bad examples using girl’s wearing style.Voices Against Gender-Based Violence