Farewell, Vweta! You Live On

Stella Paul
Posted August 21, 2020 from India

Beloved Sister Vweta

I begin here with different emotions welling in my heart at the moment: loss, guilt, pain and joy. But perhaps I should just begin with an apology - apology for learning of your departure only a few hours ago and for not talking to you in recent months. Apology, also for struggling to keep my emotions well in check and not writing a post that is truly worthy of you a master wordsmith with a wonderful voice. Will you forgive me please?

Since hearing of your passing away (thank you members of World Pulse Ambassador group for sharing the news), I have been going through all our past conversations, emails and chats. Like so many other World Pulse sisters, we never met in person (I was so sure we would, one day) but that is never a factor in our relationship. We were sisters who loved each other and believed in each other. And each of our conversations - was a reflection of this.

Of course most of our chats revolved around World Pulse Ambassador program which you joined in 2017. But we also talked about your health (although it was more of me asking of your health and  you assuring me everything was fine even when you struggled), your project ASHA (which as you described to me as a safe space for women with physical, mental, emotional and social disabilities) and also the prestigious YALI Mandela Washington Fellowship which you had won in 2016.  Your emails, reflected your great communication skill: short, crisp, to the point, effective and yet so full of love. I smiled again as I read this now - its what you wrote right after I had asked for your profile in 170 characters

Dear Super Shero,

Thank you so much for all you do to keep us abreast.

Here's my bio:

"Vweta, Nigeria, has over 10years experience working to improve the lives of rural women. She’s a 2016 Mandela Washington Fellow, a 2015 Global Change Leaders fellow and a 2015 USIP Generation Change Fellow."

Thank you for your leadership.

Respectfully, Vweta

I have also  read - again and again - some of my most favorite stories on World Pulse that were written by you. Like the story about menopause (The letter i can no longer wait to write)  and how the internet had given you your voice after a surgery snatched it away. Needless to say, I got goosebumps, yet again.

But the best moment that I found today was this - a photo of yours which I am using in this post. You had sent me this sometime in 2018. What a gorgeous woman you were, my sister, what a ravishing beauty! 

I still don't know what took you away from us. But I hope, it was a peaceful journey, though sudden and unexpected. What I do know, however, is that you lived your life with courage, love, care, and hope. You held many hands and voiced for so many.

Today, I say goodbye to you, but believe you me sister, just as the physical distance between us and our 'met online only' status never mattered, your departure from this world will also never matter. Perhaps, that's the greatest beauty of being members of an online family: you were and are and will continue to be right here, in this community, in your stories, in our emails, our chats and in the beautiful memories you created. 

Travel well sister, I will continue to love you.

Stella

 

 

 

 

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Marie Abanga
Aug 21
Aug 21

What a tribute! I might not have met her here but I can feel the spirit she had. I have read one of her posts and your tribute plus Jensine's and can tell she was a sister with passion for all causes close to her heart.
Thank you sis for this soul tribute
Rest on Vweta

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

Thank you dear Marie! Vweta will be happy to see how sisters like you are learning of her and remembering her even after she has left the family.
Hugs

Jill Langhus
Aug 21
Aug 21

Hello Dear Stella,

How are you doing? What a lovely tribute. I love your words, and the sentiment, that she, all the other lovely WP sisters, will continue to be right here, in the community.... lovely:-) Well said!

Hope you and your family are doing well, Love.

XX

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

My Dear Jill
I am fine. With so much going on around us including the never-ending COVID crisis, everyday spent in good health and with family is a blessing!
I loved your post too Jill and I loved that too. Its like you spoke for me! I do't think there's another forum where members are emotionally close.
Take care dear, speak soon. Hugs

Jill Langhus
Aug 24
Aug 24

Hello Stella:-)

Good to hear. How are your family and kitties?!

That's very true. I feel very blessed, indeed.

Thank you! I'm glad you loved my post.

Oh, wow! Thank you for the lovely compliment, and feedback:-) Yes, I think so!

You, too, Love.

XX

Corine Milano
Aug 21
Aug 21

Stella, what a beautiful write up about a beautiful person. I was so saddened and shocked when I heard of Vweta's passing. We have lost another courageous World Pulse sister and it's almost too much to bear. Thank you for coming here to share these words with the full community. Vweta will not be forgotten and will live on i this strong circle of women!

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

Thank you dear Corine for reading and expressing your thoughts here. This year has been such a snatcher! Who could have imagined so much loss in a few months time!
Good thing is, we have this space to hold each other tight.
Hugs

Stella this tribute speaks to her spirit. Her passing is truly heartbreaking. I read about her passing via a post earlier this week in the STFX University, COADY Women Leaders Alumni group I am in as Vweta was an alumna. While we celebrated her life I never imagined that she was also a World Pulse #AmazonSister. Until I read this wonderful tribute to her life, work, and purpose. May her legacy continue in power as she Rest In Power.

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

My dear Sherna
She actually was one of your Ambassador batchmates, but she missed out a lot of those meetings and online calls because of a fellowship she received at about the same time which was demanding. Plus she was always battling one or other health issue. But she knew you and all other Ambassadors and loved all. God bless you for reaching through this post and your lovely comment! Much love

Dawn Arteaga
Aug 21
Aug 21

Stella this is a lovely tribute for a powerful leader. Thank you for keeping Vweta’s spirit strong on World Pulse.

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

Thank you dear Dawn. I just felt so shaken! I hope she is really happy and at peace up there.
hugs

Hello, Stella,

My condolences to you for losing a friend, not just a World Pulse sister. The feeling of guilt is valid, but please forgive yourself. We all do what we need to do in certain moments that we couldn't check in with everyone because we also face personal challenges.

I feel your heartbreak, dear. Sending you hugs. She will be able to read this post now.

Thank you for writing this loving tribute to Vweta. When I joined the online honoring of her, there were more than a 100 participants. The organizers made a lovely compilation of Vweta's photos. I'm moved to tears to see her smile and the smiles of the people and communities she touched. She was a light who shined so brightly. It pains me, too, that she is no more.

She lived a full life. May her legacy lives on. May we remember her name. Hugs, Sweet Stella.

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

My dear Karen
You are one of the sweetest, kindest souls in this world who just gets it so right! Thank you! I am sure Vweta is smiling upon us, especially when she can see how sisters who didn't know her are learning about her and expressing their kind thoughts and love.
The thing about losing someone is that you start thinking further losses in the future and it both pains and scares you. I hope everyone in this community and this family will live a hundred years.
Much love and hugs

You're welcome, darling sister Stella. I hope we all live longer, too. Stay brave and strong, dear. You've been through a lot lately. Huugs!

Mariama Kallon
Aug 22
Aug 22

Hello, Stella,
I wish all this tribute will reach you anywhere you find yourself sister! You were such a great leader.I might not have met her here but I can feel her spirit she had. I have read some of her posts and your tribute plus Jensine's,Jill and Karen can tell she was a sister with passion and leadership heart.
this is a lovely tribute for a powerful leader. Thank you for keeping Vweta’s spirit strong on the Sisterhood.
Rest in peace Vweta.
Gone but not forgotten,your spirit is with us.
Sweet hug Stella.
Mariama.

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

Hugs right back to you dear Mariama! Vweta's legacy of kindness, understanding and passion for change are all here and I hope they will continue to thrive.
Stay well and safe yourself sister. I send you love

Busayo Obisakin
Aug 22
Aug 22

Dear Stella,
What a great tribute to our darling Sister Vweta! She was such a great warrior. Thank you so much for honoring her
Love
Busayo

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

Dear Busayo, my sister
I became so nostalgic while writing this post - thinking of the initial days of all of us Ambassadors coming together, bonding and learning of each other. The memories we have created together are so beautiful and powerful! And Vweta is always a part of these pictures! God bless her soul.
Stay well and safe dear, you are precious, just as vweta was
Hugs

Regina Afanwi Young
Aug 22
Aug 22

Hello Stella dear, I can feel your pain . Take heart my sister. Condolences to you and the entire World Pulse family for this great loss. Farewell our dear Vweta and rest in the Lord.

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

Thank you dear Regina
I join you in the prayer for Vweta's soul. Her legacy of love and care continues to live and I can feel that in your kind words.
Stay blessed

Tamarack Verrall
Aug 23
Aug 23

Dear Stella,
This is the most beautiful tribute I have ever read, and it helps so much to be able to remember that we have each other here, and we have Vweta here with us, through her stories. It was so special to read about your connection with each other. And how spectacular to have this photo sent to you by her. Thank you for sharing this with us.
Deep sisterhood love,
Tam

Stella Paul
Aug 23
Aug 23

My dear Tam
Thank you so much! Your words are, as always, so soul-stirring. 2020 and the COVID crisis have taken away so much from us already, but at the same time, it has filled us with a new realization of how much a friend and a sister means to us. I am lost Vweta, but also grateful to have this community and this sisterhood where we can hold each other tighter than ever before.
Big Hugs

Laetitia Shindano
Aug 24
Aug 24

Chere Stella

Ton temoingnage sur notre soeur Uweta est tellement émouvant et plein de renseignement sur sa personne que j'ai l'impression de la connaitre toujours .
Elle ne nous a pas quitté car elle vivra en nous à travers ses oeuvres.
Merci Stella.

Laetitia

Laetitia

ARREY- ECHI
Aug 26
Aug 26

Dear Sis Stella,
What a beautiful tribute to an even more beautiful and compassionate person.
We connected out of WP briefly and never had the privilege of really getting to know her as she also left Facebook shortly after we connected. Yet, her powerful, compassionate voice never left me each time I read her posts here. The post on how the Internet gave her back her voice was one of my favourites.
She was truly a beautiful soul and she would be sorely missed.
Courage and love to you as you reminsce.

lemonadelemon
Aug 30
Aug 30

My condolences to you for the loss. A beautiful sharing. Thank you

ikirimat
Oct 09
Oct 09

wow wow!
this is so so touching a tribute
I will miss you too Vweta.
Stella thank you for this write up