You don't need a title to be a leader/Introduction

Stephanie Auxier
Posted May 27, 2015 from United States

“You don’t need a title to be a leader.”

In my previous job, part of my responsibilities included coordinating logistics for leadership trainings, including providing on-site support. This meant that I had the privilege of sitting in on many leadership trainings over the past two year. Our facilitator, Deb, always started the class off by reminding everyone that you don’t need a title to be a leader, and asking when we first started seeing ourselves as leaders. Reflecting on that question made me realize that I had been acting as a leader for much longer than I have seen myself as a leader!

Another eye-opening part of these leadership classes for me was the amount of time we spent discussing ourselves, and how important knowing yourself is in being a leader. While we covered topics such as conflict resolution and good communication like I expected, we also spent time discussing healthy boundaries, knowing your triggers, being vulnerable, and emotional intelligence—a concept that I had never heard of before. In leadership positions that focus on social justice, it’s easy to focus on others and forget to nourish yourself as a leader. This was an important lesson that I hope to revisit as I strive to improve my leadership skills.

I’m excited to be a part of the leadership group and to learn more about other women who are leaders in their own communities. The great work that other women are doing and the obstacles that they are overcoming helps encourage me to take my own risks and to seek to have a larger impact. As I continue to evolve my own leadership skills and to deepen my own understanding of my impact as a leader, it is helpful to learn from your stories and lessons and to be part of such an inspiring network of women!

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Nyapaul
May 28, 2015
May 28, 2015

Dear Stephauxier,

Many thanks for your post. You know my sister it is close to  impossible if not unfair to love others but not love yourself. The same way with leadership just like the fingers as you point someone with one the rest are pointing at you. This means we must be good leaders and lead by example which can only be demostrated if we first understand what we are doing through self analysis. Thank you for taking the leadership role it is very important big up for you. We love and need people like you.

Cheers

Nyapaul

Stephanie Auxier
Jun 02, 2015
Jun 02, 2015

Hi Nyapaul,

How true, that the importance of loving yourself and knowing yourself also applies in a leadership role. And without the self analysis piece, we may not truly be setting the example we think we are!

-Stephanie 

Tiffany Purn
May 29, 2015
May 29, 2015

Stephanie -

Thanks so much for taking the time to put some of your own journey and learning into writing.  Yes!  It's so important to nourish ourselves first, before we can provide true nourishment for others.  I imagine this is a lifelong journey for me (and I imagine many others can relate!). 

Tiffany

Jun 02, 2015
Jun 02, 2015
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Stephanie Auxier
Jun 02, 2015
Jun 02, 2015

Tiffany,

Yes, while I know that it is so important to nourish ourselves first, I find it especially hard when I'm in a role that serves others, even though these are often the roles in which we need the most nourishment!

-Stephanie

Olanike
Jun 02, 2015
Jun 02, 2015

Dear Stephanie,

Thank you so much for sharing such a rich introduction, about yourself youras well as your understanding of and leadership experience. I have no doubt that there is so much we can continue learning from the leadership training you are involved in. As Nyapaul rightly put it,  "we love and need people like you"

I look forward to learning more about you, your work and local community through your posts. Thank you for sharing!

Olanike

Stephanie Auxier
Jun 02, 2015
Jun 02, 2015

Olanike,

Thanks for your kind words. I still feel like I have so much to learn, but encouragement like this is so helpful along the journey!

-Stephanie

JANEKALU
Jun 05, 2015
Jun 05, 2015

Dear  Steph, is so  good hearing from you.This words of encouragement are what i need.Sometimes, when the journey becomes so tough and discouragement comes,i remember your words and strengthen up.

Big Hug.

Tan Ching
Sep 20, 2015
Sep 20, 2015

This is so encouraging after reading it.

Stephanie Auxier
Sep 21, 2015
Sep 21, 2015

Hi PohChing, thanks for reading and thanks for your kind words!

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