I suffered because my father feared to further my education.

Stephanie Mah
Posted November 7, 2018 from Cameroon
Though i had incomplete education, I am an enterprenuer today.
I happily found a way out.
I am happy.
I am happy.: I love smiling and working. (1/1)

 

I was born in a family of 7 made up of 2 boys and 5 girls. We stayed at home while the other boys went out to play with other children. They associated with all levels of children giving them more opportunities to learn and interact. The girls did the house hold chores and cooking. We were over protected so if affected the girl children negatively. Today I find it difficult to express myself due to lack of exposure and exchange of ideas.

I ended my education in the primary school. Our father said if he sends us further to school, we will abandon education and get married. This was because of the bad experience he had from my elders sister who had previously drooped out of school to go get married at form 4. Thank God that her husband sent her to complete her education and now she is working. Today she takes care of our parents.

So my dad transferred the aggression on me. I had to beg my dad to allow me get even a little out of education so he allowed me to but with a lot of restrictions. I was not permitted to go for morning classes and afternoon and learning groups. So I wondered what sort of education I was acquiring. This made me very timid and dull. Yes I accepted my fate. I love sporting activities but I was not allowed to go out for practice or take part in it but I always manage to run out of the house with help from my mother to go and play handball. During practices I discovered I was very good at shooting because no goal keeper could withstand the force my ball came with. My school team was up for a competitive match and everyone was excited and so was I, but when I told my parents, my dad refused again with the anger in his eyes I was so afraid and quit handball.

I stayed at home and did house chores, go farming with my mother and my dad was not working and at the end, I blamed it all on poverty. At a time, my dad asked me to learn a trade but I refused because all I wanted was to go to school but no one was willing to help me get what I wanted so I stayed at home. I had no support form my mother or any other relative.

From that day till date, I am not that educated as I ended my education in the primary level but thank God I can read and write. I promised myself none of girl child will go through what I went through just to get educated.

I strongly believe that girl child education is very good. Girl children always take care of the extended families whereas the boys focus on their wives and children.

I call on mother to stand up for the girl children’s education.

Our daughters will not have same experience as mine.

 

 

This story was submitted in response to #DayOfTheGirl.

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Muchoh Florence
Nov 07, 2018
Nov 07, 2018

I love your story Stephanie,congrats.

Jill Langhus
Nov 08, 2018
Nov 08, 2018

Hi there lovely,

Thanks for sharing your story. Good luck with your story submission, dear:-)

Hope you're having a good day:-)

Ngala Nadege
Dec 16, 2018
Dec 16, 2018

Waow Stephanie ! What a beautiful story.

Juliet Acom
Jan 07, 2019
Jan 07, 2019

Hello Stephanie,

Thanks for sharing your story.

Beth Lacey
Mar 04, 2019
Mar 04, 2019

Education is so important for all women and girls

Bettina Amendi
Mar 16, 2019
Mar 16, 2019

Lovely pictures,your tomorrow is greater than your past.Be encouraged Stephanie.

Busola Ajibola
May 13, 2019
May 13, 2019

Thanks for sharing your story and I am glad that despite the lack of support by your father you are able to read and write. I also love your resolve to ensure that your girls attend school. Stay focus as you inspire us all to take a stand for the girl-child; for the future.

Raquel Daniel
May 23, 2019
May 23, 2019

Thank you for sharing your story. It's inspiring!

Oluwatoyin Olabisi
Jun 21, 2019
Jun 21, 2019

I really love your determination and that is just what you need as the pathway to your success

Jacqueline Namutaawe
Aug 31, 2019
Aug 31, 2019

Oh sweetheart it is heartbreaking that you could not acquire a complete education. I agree with you that our daughters should not experience the same fate as ours. We should all stand up for girls' education.