My first menstruation

Sujata Sharma
Posted May 17, 2019

I still remember my first day of menstruation. I am from Nepal and menstruation is taken as impurity till today. I am sharing my story which is from 24 years back. So, you all can imagine how the situation was at that time. When i had a period for the first time, i was scared. It was because my mother never talked about it beforehand and i thought that i was having some serious illness when i saw the blood. 

I was then asked to leave home as we cannot see male members of the family during first period. I refused to go to my maternal uncle's home but my mom was so sticked to the idea that we have to go away from our own home. I started crying to convince her however she was not convinced. So i went to live to my uncle's home. I was not allowed to touch and come outside my room during the day time as we cannot see sun. I was also not allowed to see my cousin brothers, uncle and grand dad.

It was kind of living at custody as the room had to be kept dark. My dishes were regarded dirty and it had to be clean by myself. So, the overall experience of mine was terrific. The things are improving in my community and country but still we need to go very far to make everyone realize that having menstruation is not impurity. It is a natural process. Girls should not be sent away from family however they should be kept close to family and given special care.

 

This story was submitted in response to Menstruation Matters.

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Jill Langhus
May 17
May 17

Hi Sujata,

Welcome to World Pulse! Thanks for sharing your traumatic first period experience with us, dear. Wow! That's something else. I'm so glad times are changing. I thought my first time was traumatic, but your story is something else:-( Do you feel like you have healed from this experience or do you still have residual trauma from it?

I'm looking forward to seeing more stories from you.

Hope you have a good day!

ARREY- ECHI
May 17
May 17

Hi Sujata,
Welcome to the Pulse.
So very sorry about the ordeal you went through during your first period.
Thank you for sharing with us. It is heartbreaking to see how societies subjugate women to ill treatment for something so natural.
Hugs to you.

Lisbeth
May 17
May 17

Yes its true. We can only do this when we talk about it. This is exactly what you have done. Keep speaking up.

maeann
May 17
May 17

Helo Sujata,

Welcome to World Pulse. Thank you for sharing your story. I don’t understand why that other places has a big deal about period. I’m glad World Pulse open this to women to share their stories and how to actually improve the understanding about periods. Thanks much :)!

Hello, Sujata,

This is so heartbreaking. What is the reason why Nepal sends their daughters away during their periods? What’s the philosophy behind this ignorance?

I’m sorry that you experience this. This is the third or fourth story that I read about Nepal and its cultural practice on periods.

Thank you for sharing your story! Welcome to World Pulse!

Beth Lacey
Jun 07
Jun 07

Yes, we have some progress, but a long, long way to go

Rahmana Karuna
Jun 21
Jun 21

too bad eve ensler took the "starting our periods" monologue out of The Vagina Monologues last year. I have produced it several times over the years in this very very unfriendly to vaginas town.