I'm not afraid to say a NO

Sushmita Das
Posted March 22, 2021 from India

Ever since my childhood, I have been seeing the women and girls in my community step back to say no, even if their inner conscience is asking them to say no to the people, situation, and the like are not getting along with their thoughts and opinions.

Well, until a few years ago, I was also resting in the same category with my unsatisfied soul. 

It's not difficult to say no when you are sure that your decision of uttering the word No will have no impact on your mind and body, rather it will relieve you from the bondage of societal norms, and misogyny.

Many times, my stance for saying no to society has benefited me in terms of inner satisfaction. But there were times when it bothered the rest of the people around me.

Taking ahead the notion of saying NO, I want to quote a long-held tradition of marriage in India. Wherein, the role of NO increases, but sadly many girls fail to say a no in the fear of family and the so-called reputation. 

Many girls want to pursue higher education, whereas many want to settle down with a good career in their lives. 

Talking particularly of rural India, such highly ambitious girls fail to live their dreams due to the pressure of marriage which arises from parental control. 

They can not say no to their parents and family, and thereby their dreams are swept under the carpets 

My urge to such women and girls is to come out of your fear of society and live your dreams to live a life with dignity and independence.

Because that's what I did, and I'm living my dreams with my aspirations of becoming a writer and have got published many articles nationally and globally. Also, advocating for the rights of women and girls through various platforms, one of which is the World Pulse ❤

This story was submitted in response to #HerStoryMakesHistory.

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maeann
Mar 24
Mar 24

Dear Sushmita,

I so powerfully agree to what you said and I quote: "My urge to such women and girls is to come out of your fear of society and live your dreams to live a life with dignity and independence"

Yes, let us live our dreams to live a life with dignity. Our dignity is our self who care and love. Let us show the world that we are powerful in one voice connecting each other.

Congratulations with your published articles advocating the rights of women and girls.

Beth Lacey
Mar 25
Mar 25

You are an inspiration to us all.

Vasanth Ayothiraman
Apr 30
Apr 30

Thanks Sushmita,

These words, "My urge to such women and girls is to come out of your fear of society and live your dreams to live a life with dignity and independence." are inspiring and we are confident that this will bring the change in the coming years.