To talk about Menstruation is not stigma but to hide is

Tatenda Rukarwa
Posted October 23, 2019 from Zimbabwe

When the people around us are ignorant on the needs of the girl child, I worry,

Sadness and shivers overshadow my plans for the future, how will I be able to stand firm when all I see is the blood gushing out of me,

How do I protect myself? Who will protect me? In this world full of vultures ready to taste the fruit as soon as I am ripe…I dread this moment,

I learn and hear about it in class but my mother never got the chance to talk about it, I wonder why sometimes? She succumbed to AIDS sad right, but she got it because she wanted to take care of us.

Such a rude awakening for me the girl child, to easily be swayed into the arms of vicious men ready to pounce on me when I am vulnerable and in need of sanitary wear,

It is not by choice that I am orphaned, come from a poor family that can barely put food on the table, I am the parent now, my little sisters look up to me, but how will I take care of them when their time to bloom comes?

Questions rush through my mind, will I be able to share with them that menstruation is a joyful moment? That your menstrual flow needs to be enjoyed like it’s a normal day without thinking if you have soiled your clothes,

I awake today, the new ME, embracing and celebrating menstruation like I ought to have done on my first day, yet circumstances would not allow me to do so.

I look back and it is, at that moment, I realised that I should not leave any girl behind, I want everyone to remember that a man bleeds for death, for agony and for misery, and a WOMAN bleeds for happiness and to create a new life.

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Hannah B
Oct 23
Oct 23

Welcome Tatenda,
I loved reading your post, thank you for sharing with us!
I especially like that you say "your menstrual flow needs to be enjoyed like it’s a normal day" - I wish that for girls and women around the world, and hope for a day when this can be true!
Thank you for your inspiring words and I look forward to hearing more from you.
Kind regards,
Hannah

Tatenda Rukarwa
Oct 23
Oct 23

Hie Hannah, thank you so much for loving my story. i hope it gives girls and women the courage to lead normal lives..

Tarke Edith
Oct 23
Oct 23

Hi Tatenda
Thanks for sharing .
Have a nice day

Tatenda Rukarwa
Oct 23
Oct 23

Thank you sister..

Jill Langhus
Oct 23
Oct 23

Hello Tatenda,

Welcome to World Pulse! Thanks for sharing your sad, but powerful post. I'm sorry about your mom, dear. I'm looking forward to hearing about your goals and mission.

Also, if you would like to add this story to the "Menstruation Matters" collective, the link is here:
https://www.worldpulse.com/raise-your-voice/menstruation-matters

Hope you're doing well, and having a great week!

Tatenda Rukarwa
Oct 23
Oct 23

thank you Jill Langhus..My goal is to publish articles that enrich the lives of girls and women and be the the change maker in this patriarchal dominant society of Africa. I want help to be part of global platform that discusses issues affecting us as women.

Jill Langhus
Oct 23
Oct 23

You're welcome!

I see. Well, both of those goals sound great. You're in the right place. What is it that you are seeking the most right now to make your goals become a reality?

Tatenda Rukarwa
Oct 23
Oct 23

I want to get knowledge on how to relay messages to my community and have someone to mentor me through my journey through training or advice from people like you..

Jill Langhus
Oct 23
Oct 23

Okay. So, looking for training techniques and mentorship, and not collaboration, necessarily? I highly recommend going to the World Pulse "community" pages and selected "filter members." From there you can search by region, topic, and also user badge. You can also use the general "search" page to search for sisters that are doing what you're looking for, too, such as "empowerment training," etc. Let me know how it goes... You can private message me. Good luck!

Tatenda Rukarwa
Oct 23
Oct 23

have sent you a message..thank you

Jill Langhus
Oct 23
Oct 23

You're welcome. XX

maeann
Oct 23
Oct 23

Welcome to World Pulse Tatenda, here every woman share story and encourage one another. You are in a right platform to bring awareness about Menstruation.... thank you for sharing. Looking forward to read more of your powerful stories.

Tatenda Rukarwa
Oct 23
Oct 23

Thank you Maeann....

Lisbeth
Oct 23
Oct 23

Dear Tateda,
Congratulations on your first amazing post. I look forward to reading more of your posts.
A warm welcome dear.
Cheers :-)

Tatenda Rukarwa
Oct 23
Oct 23

Thank you Lisbeth