FUTURE IS HERS!

Tatenda Rukarwa
Posted November 11, 2019 from Zimbabwe

I grew up on a farm where although my parents in Zimbabwe, were average wage earners. Those living around me in the compound areas relied on the system to earn basic salary and cater for the needs of their families. I asked many times whilst growing up why my parents had decided to make us live in an awful environment away from city life. It is today that I realize the value these hard conditions have made me who I am, and the life lessons that have sailed me through economic hardships. Girls from the compound areas where mostly forced into marriage and with the few I had become friends with they all diverted their attention from school to having men in their life to cater for their needs. Education to them was not important but rather basic primary school was enough for them so that they learn to read and write for the sake of counting money which they got from their oppressive employers and husbands. I stayed on that farm for close to 13 years from 1993-2005.

I became part of the system, and because my parents were viewed as bosses I had most privilege‚Äôs given to me. It is now that I see that I was an ungrateful child, because looking back some children wanted to be just like me but I admired another lifestyle that was beyond my reach. I look back at the girl child who had to go look for men because it was the only way to survive and fend for her family. I look back and see that it is their life stories that have made me to be a CHANGEMAKER. I want people to embrace each stage in their life because it is a story that will impact the lives of others in the world. 

I want the girl child to know that she is loved no matter what...We are special and unique and we can achieve all that we want.

 

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Jill Langhus
Nov 11
Nov 11

Hi Tatty,

How are you doing, dear? Thanks for sharing your wise post. It's true that we are all special and unique and that all phases of our journey have importance, growth and lessons to be learned. I could totally relate to what you're saying about growing up on a farm and feeling resentful about it the whole time. I lived that, too. I am the youngest of five children and the only born in the state where my parents had our dairy farm, i.e., prior to that my dad had a well paid job and had lived in several different cities, but decided he had enough and wanted to be his own boss. That's fine, and developed an independence and entrepreneurial spirit, as well as a hard work ethic, but at the time, I was so lonely and didn't fit in at all with the locals:-)

What was the most important lesson that you feel that you derived from your life and upbringing on the farm?

I hope you're doing well, and having a great day!

XX

Tatenda Rukarwa
Nov 11
Nov 11

I am fine...Hope you are doing well,,The most important lesson was that I could be able to lift these girls and women to be productive rather than rely on selling their bodies for income..through empowering them that there is more to life and on a personal level I have learnt to be content with what I have and share it with others

Jill Langhus
Nov 11
Nov 11

Good to hear:-) Yes, thank you!

Thanks for clarifying. Those are great lessons. I think gratitude for what we have can be very powerful.

I hope you have a great week!

XX

Anita Shrestha
Nov 11
Nov 11

Dear
Thank you for sharing such a story

Tatenda Rukarwa
Nov 12
Nov 12

Thank you Anita

Tarke Edith
Nov 11
Nov 11

Hi Tatty
Thank you very much for sharing you childhood story with us
You know sis what God has plant for us no one can change it.
Have a great day dear .

Tatenda Rukarwa
Nov 12
Nov 12

Amen sister we need to uplift each other always

Tamarack Verrall
Nov 12
Nov 12

Dear Tatenda,
I am so glad to know this about you. I love that you have described what made you a Change Maker. By deciding that your purpose in life is connected to what other girls around you did not have: "I look back and see that it is their life stories that have made me to be a CHANGEMAKER" you have become a force of change that includes every girl.
"I want the girl child to know that she is loved no matter what..." I celebrate meeting you here and wish you all the best with your work.
In sisterhood,
Tam

Tatenda Rukarwa
Nov 12
Nov 12

Thank you tam..I hope to learn from this sisterhood and impact more lives

Naheda Shaikh
Nov 12
Nov 12

Hi,

Hope you are doing well.
Thank you for sharing your story, yes we are unique and amazing as a girl as a woman and I very happy for you, you took responsibility to give example to others.

Love

Naheda

Ekitah
Nov 12
Nov 12

Hi Tatenda!
Your story is inspiring. You make us understand we shouldn't minimize any situation we are passing through because it is our story. Thanks for adding value to the girl child. I feel honored.

Tatenda Rukarwa
Nov 12
Nov 12

Thank you Naheda

lizzymark
Nov 12
Nov 12

Great lessons to be learnt dear,our past just helps us find our path to the future we are here to achieve. Thanks for shearing.

maeann
Nov 14
Nov 14

Hi Tatty,

Great to know... choosing to be a Change Maker is a good way to be a blessing. Keep it up!!!

Spiritedsoul
Nov 23
Nov 23

I agree, thank you, well said.
Hugs,
Jess.