Never feel guilty, for having some me time from the cares of this world!

Tehilah Williams
Posted October 2, 2019 from United Kingdom

Often times as women we go through circumstances, life changing events taking all other people's burdens including our own, upon our hearts as though life is not hard enough already. Women of royality are you aware of how much burdens and weights you carry each day forgetting that christ told us that he is the burden carrier, and we are told to give everything unto him. We are women who are strong, yes, powerful, multitaskers, mothers, Wifes, daughters entrepreneurs, ect, able to keep it moving with a false smile, yet still, there is nobody telling us to put the breaks on and breath. As a mother myself, I often find myself pushing back things in my mind to deal with the kids, husband, family their emotions, what they have gone through in the day ect, because I am the minister in the house, the doctor, the councillor you name it (I am superwoman as my husband says) . In my mind their well being comes first as I know The most high Yah, takes care of me and he will always give me the strength to endure however, I have learned that it is okay to shut the door at times and take a 5 mins to rest and regenerate your mind from daily life in general.

It can be hard when you are always looked at as the strong one by many people of all walks and backgrounds because many believe that you don't go through things, but little do they know that we are humans too lol! 

The daily word of encourgement today, is never feel bad to have some alone time some YOU TIME! if you have to set a date with yourself for the single ladies or set a date night for yourself as a married women, where you let your husband know you have a date with the bath and candles alone! Then you do what you have to because your wellbeing is important as much as anyone elses. 

For me I am blessed to have a supportive, hands on husband that understands. But for those who do not or are doing this alone, you must still set that time alone for yourself. Never feel guilty woman of royalities, your body and mind needs it and you will be thankful for it. 

I know as a mother it can be hard, I mean I can't even go toilet in peace as my crawling baby follows me everywhere!! But I pray everyday for balance, peace of mind, strength, and endurence and it works! 

I wasn't going to speak on this, if I am honest, I choose to let the holy spirit guide me each time but I guess someone needs to hear this and I pray it reaches all.

Stay blessed, eat well, rest well, take time out for yourself, book yourself in for a pampering and refresh your body, mind and spirit. 

Much love Tehilah

 

 

 

 

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Marie Abanga
Oct 02
Oct 02

Hi Tehilah,

I call them My Me Moments. I cherish them and my boys/family have come to respect that. It's indeed of because self care is the best care. All the best too

Tehilah Williams
Oct 03
Oct 03

I like that me moments!!!!!
Yes that is great that they are all on board:)

Jill Langhus
Oct 02
Oct 02

Hello Dear Tehilah,

How are you doing, dear? I agree with Marie. She basically said what I was going to say, that we all need self care, and we all need to speak up about needing it, too. It's not good that so many women put other needs before their own and then keep pushing through thinking they need to be invinceable and not ask for help or take me-time, either. Thanks for sharing and speaking up, dear.

I hope you're having a good day, and week!?

XX

Tehilah Williams
Oct 03
Oct 03

Yes, I am in total agreement with you. We all need to fit in some me time, alone time, even just to snack in peace lol is a must. I am still trying to balance this out, but it great that we are all in agreement.

Jill Langhus
Oct 04
Oct 04

Yaaasss!

You'll figure it out, dear. Please make it a priority and don't get burnt out:-)

Hope you have a great weekend!

Lisbeth
Oct 02
Oct 02

Dear Tehillah,
Thanks for sharing. It's not easy. I loved when you said you are the ministry of the house

"I often find myself pushing back things in my mind to deal with the kids, husband, family their emotions, what they have gone through in the day ect, because I am the minister in the house"

Both spiritual and physical minister haha. Hope you have a good day.
Regards

Tehilah Williams
Oct 03
Oct 03

Yes sister,

I had to mention that important part because our house is our first ministry and as the prophetess of the house, I am always used to encourge and bring calm to my husband and the children. Women in general are to bring peace in the home in general, so not only am I everything to the children/ husband but I am also first dedicated to the roles from my heavenly father! Ministry never stops. Can be alot at times but it works. So once again when I can get away for a few mins, I do. :)

Lisbeth
Oct 03
Oct 03

Haha :-)

Hello, dear Tehillah,

Did I just find a soul sister in you? Thank you for writing this post. It is so true that women have a lot of things that burden them and forget to take a break. I laughed at loud when you mentioned you can't even go to toilet in peace. That is my experience, too. How old is your crawling baby? My two-year-old does that, too. Sometimes, when my husband is at home and the children are boding with him, I pretend to go to the toilet just to breath.

Thank you so much for listening to the holy spirit. Your message spoke directly to me. Hugs, dear. :)

Tehilah Williams
Oct 03
Oct 03

Hi sweets, Yes you have found a soul sister :). Thank you for your responses, I know I am not alone in this.

I laughed out loud also when you said you pretend to go toilet while husband has the kids. I must try that although I don't think that would work with a house of 5 lol.

Actually my husband does that alot, uses the toilet to breath so I know that his place to go to unwind. But I use the bath as my escape, he is always saying bath again. I actually time it. Once kids are in bed or before when he comes back from work, I say well it is your time. But we have a thing where he deals with the kids when he gets back even though I have done everything already.

But yes, we must always follow the holy spirit, it is because of the holy spirit, why I can have peace through life in general.

To your question, my last baby is 11 months, I have a ten year old, a four year old, and now pregnant with my fourth which will come next month so I am enjoying my little time:).

X Tehilah

Hello, sis,

I thought so. :)
You’re welcome, dear!

Hahaha. Wow, you have a handful! How do you do it? I only have two children. The firstborn has special needs though so it’s all by God’s grace.

My husband helps a lot in the house. I’m grateful for him.

True, peace that passes understanding.

Wow, happy pregnancy, dear! Praying for a safe delivery.

Tehilah Williams
Oct 04
Oct 04

Honestly only by Gods grace otherwise I would have no hair left lol. No my children are not that bad challenges as you would expect, but we all just do our best to raise them in the correct way. I have learned patients with these children. I cannot wait till this last one drops because it can be a bit much with baby, belly, school run ect.

My son has a bit of special needs in terms of his speech so I totally understand but we are built for this, born for this :).

Yes, it is by God's grace, dear sis. That's great to know. You're doing well as a mother.
My son is nonverbal, too. I love your statement that "we are built for this, born for this.:)" That's an empowering perspective.:)

maeann
Oct 03
Oct 03

Hi Tehilah,
Thanks for reminding us to really have time to rest and care for ourselves. It is really important. You are blessed because you have a husband there to support you and loved you back. A family that gives us a purpose whey we do what we love to do and that is to be a blessing.

Tehilah Williams
Oct 03
Oct 03

Yes, I totally agree with you there is nothing better than having a supportive husband. We have come along way but The most high is working on him and he is more hands on than ever. I praise the most high for answering my prayers so I can have some me time. Actually it was The most high who told me to ask for help and stop trying to do everything on your own.

Tehilah.

Kadi_lokule
Oct 04
Oct 04

I really needed to read this ...thanks for the encouragement.

Tehilah Williams
Oct 04
Oct 04

You are most welcome sis