Depression found among Kerala women- a sad situation

Tiffany Brar
Posted January 25, 2019 from India

In Kerala, which is the southernmost state of India, very high status is given for women, which is very unique. Through a conference, I came to know that suicide rates and depression level is found very high among women in Kerala. I researched more on this and understood that societal, financial, cultural and gender-related stresses make women in Kerala to reach the depressed state or even mental disorders.

One of my friend who is a chief psychiatrist said to me that there is a noticeable increase in the number of women visiting psychiatrists with hopelessness and different psychological disorders created by social and economic reasons. It is shocking to hear from her that" the number of women who go for counselling for mental disorders caused by stress is comparatively more than the women who visit psychiatrists for mental disorders due to genetic problems. I was shocked to hear this.  

Sarcastically this is occurring in my state which is thought to be a growing country-role representation, mainly for women's progress. The literacy level of women in Kerala is nearly 80% and even more, compared to the other states of India. In fact, women's life expectations, maternal mortality rate, infant mortality rate and fertility rate all comparatively favourable with those of many rich industrial developing countries.

"I felt like I wasted my life even though I had a first-class degree", "My in-laws and husbands don't' allow me to go for a job", "My family doesn't understand the time that I sacrificed for them", so. and so... many reasons are shared by women who come to counselling camps arranged by us.

Another heartbreaking incident that took place in the life of a Keralite woman is she took an overdose of sleeping pills. Everyone was mystified because she had a loving husband, two cute kids, own apartment and wealthy background. When she attended the counselling session she said very depressingly that " For years I  had a sense that I was wasting away my life and lost my identity as a woman by myself taking care of other things and people, because of gender discrimination in her family."

This is just one of the example of the increasing number of women in Kerala suffering from mental issues – mainly due to social and gender-related stresses. There are numerous stories similar to this in a different thread.

My opinion is through education women comes to know what their inner talent and potential are., but custom, a way of life, ethnicity,  family, society have short disenchanted women in my state.

Additionally, I feel the need of the hour is an intensive gender sensitizing line-up specially targeting men and policy makers in door to door basis.

"If such kind of thought is given to women's problems in Kerala, many women can be easily saved from hopelessness and suicide,".

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Sis. Salifu
Jan 25
Jan 25

Hi Tiffany,
This is actually shocking! Do you think now that things are barely open authorities might try to do something about it?
And hey all that glitters is not gold they say. She might have b seen well of but emotionally hurting. Thanks for sharing!

Tiffany Brar
Feb 10
Feb 10

hi salifu,
emotional depression is a very worst state that everybody faces.
particularly we need others support may be family of friends support.
when there is no such support things turn worse.
thanks salifu

Tamarack Verrall
Jan 25
Jan 25

Hi Tiffany,
You have brought such important news. So recently women in Kerala made international news standing shoulder to shoulder in the millions. But putting such great effort out and not having results can be extremely depressing. Your story of the reasons why women in Kerala are depressed explains so much. When you have dreams of what you are capable of in life and you are kept in what feels like a box built to keep you in because you are a woman, what a loss to us all globally, and how painful in your community, that women with roadblocks to their dreams and capabilities have become depressed and too often killed themselves. I hope that the renewed strength from the recent spectacular show of solidarity will carry more Kerala women forward with some hope for change.
In sisterhood,
Tam

Tiffany Brar
Feb 10
Feb 10

hi tam
the dreams of all the women should come true and get equal rights in my state.
thanks tam

jlanghus
Jan 26
Jan 26

Hi Tiffany,

Thanks for sharing this sad, but very informative post. I can certainly understand why these women are so depressed. To me, though, this is going to have to be a socialization issue, from childhood onwards or it won't change. Everyone needs to see women as equal right from the very start so they have equal opportunities throughout life. Only then will this paradigm change.

Tiffany Brar
Feb 10
Feb 10

yes jil,
need a lot of hands to join in this path,to bring the changes.
thanks for your supporting words

jlanghus
Feb 10
Feb 10

Hello dear:-)

Let me know how I can help, too, if I can. You can private message me.

You're very welcome.

Hope you're having a good day, and weekend, dear.

Troublicious
Jan 27
Jan 27

I feel so much compassion for these women. I know that women are not well respected around the world and most especially in India. How can we, American women, help?! I would personally love to write to women who need friends, support, motivation, compassion. Do you have the resources to set up a pen pal list? How can I help? Contact me! I want to help women feel better about themselves. Trouble

Tiffany Brar
Feb 10
Feb 10

sure troublicious..
thanks for your supporting words and to help women in my state.
we are in need of help in counselling.
will keep in touch and come back to you at the right time very soon.