I ALWAYS KEEP TROUBLES TO MYSELF

Tiffany Brar
Posted August 21, 2019 from India

One of my blind student quoted this proverb in today’s counselling session. I asked, what does it mean to him? He told that he share his happiest and funny moments with other people in the world, but he never share his sorrows or worst moment to others. The reason he told that is” when he share happiness with others, it will make others laugh, but if he share sad side of his life, it will also make others sad and weep and so he quoted this proverb.

I was shocked to see his maturity at this age. My student gave me a thought provoking quote for today and to think. My mind went spreading wide thinking about this quote.

Sisters, do you all feel that the policy of keeping our troubles ourselves is good or dangerous? According to me, whatever the age may be, we cannot forever bottle up within ourselves on the same problems like the guilt and the adversity which affected us in the past. We are all humans. INNER RELEASE of our mind is a necessity of every human; no matter we are laughing or crying. I can even compare it to “OFF YOUR CHEST”.

At the end of each counselling session that I conduct, I realised the minds of human should be opened in hard or happy moments.  Most of the attendees who are attending my counselling session have revealed that they hide themselves within a mask not revealing them to the outside world even at their worst times too. It is a unsafe guiding principle to carry things too long, else they turn internal upon you.

I always advised people that “DON’T KEEP TROUBLES TO YOUR SELF”. Let the hidden sad feelings can be straightened out to someone who knows you well like your friends, siblings or whoever it may be, rather than accumulating within yourself.

Sometimes we hear of people breaking down, having troubles, too high blood pressure, abnormal tension and so on. A vague, unaccountable dissatisfaction tends to spoil their happiness form the deep of their mind which can never be understood by others. All these things arise due to one behaviour “I ALWAYS KEEP TROUBLES TO MYSELF”.

As women, we face infinite problems in the society, family and in job. In this fast moving world, according to me it is good for any women to secure relief and release from the troubles by sharing our problems to other trusted women or any trusted persons.

So “Keep laughing with others also keep sharing your emotions with other also”

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Jill Langhus
Aug 21
Aug 21

Hi Tiffany,

How are you doing, dear? Thanks for sharing your post. I quite agree it's very harmful to our mental and physical wellbeing to hold things in. And, yes, laughter and sharing is very therapeutic, and so is being our authentic selves, rather than wearing a mask.

I hope you're doing well and having a great week!?

Tiffany Brar
Aug 27
Aug 27

Hello Jill,
Most of the people in the world wear a mask for themselves and says that they can keep their problems within themselves and sharing their pleasant memories.
This is where the people commit mistake and mental problems arise here leading to mental conflicts.
Of course as you said, laughter and sharing is very therapeutic and what is true and problem solving.
Thanks so much for sharing this idea.
Have a great days ahead.

Jill Langhus
Aug 28
Aug 28

Hello Dear,

I agree with you on all accounts.

You're welcome.

You, too, dear:-)

XX

Kay Link
Aug 21
Aug 21

I love this, Tiffany. Excellent advice, we will keep laughing and sharing our emotions to heal together and grow.

Tiffany Brar
Aug 27
Aug 27

Hey Kay,
Yes.
Sure we will keep laughing and sharing our thoughts in this platform and keep away our mental stress.
Thanks and god bless.

Celine
Aug 21
Aug 21

I am in absolute agreement with you sister Tiffany. A problem shared is half solved and sharing our sadness is a step to our healing.
Thank you for being there for others. Blessings!
Celine

Hello, sister Celine. I'm so happy that you are encouraging again. Thank you for continuing to support women with your uplifting words. Hugs.

Tiffany Brar
Aug 27
Aug 27

Hello Celine,
Yes.Yes.Yes.Yes
You are absolutely right.
"A problem shared is half solved" and happy to get such comments from an experienced person like you.
Keep rocking and have a happy days ahead.

Hello, Tiffany,

Ohhh, I kept all troubles to myself, and that's how depression attacked me. So I advise against it, and I agree with you. We are not trash bins that we throw our negative emotions inwardly, we need to release them. That's why we need to create safe spaces so the youth can share their troubles without fear, hesitation, and shame. Thank you for inspiring us again with your post. :)

Tiffany Brar
Aug 27
Aug 27

Hi Karen Sister,
ya.
Keeping troubles to ourselves result in depression and mental conflict.
you are right.
We have to release our negative emotions and have a free mind.
Most of them doesn't know the ways for it.
That is where the problem starts and people get stressed.
Thanks so much for the wonderful comments.
Stay touched.

Mbabazi
Aug 21
Aug 21

Sister Tiffany,

Thanks for sharing this.
I agree with you; i have been in a silent world thinking that i was helping myself yet i was hurting my heart more!
One time, i decided to get open to someone and share my story! the problem was whom to trust? Later, i got one and that is when my heart's healing started!
After few days, i couldn't see troubles any more. When you are silent, you may think that you are the only person going through trials. Learning to share is the only therapy ever.

Thanks for sharing!

Mbabazi

Tiffany Brar
Aug 27
Aug 27

Hi Mbabazi,
Happy to know that you opened your troubles and got relaexed.
Everyone thinks that they can solve the problems by keeping it to themselves.
But the ultimate reaction is full of mental pressure and conflict with ourselves.
Prayers for you and keep rocking.

Thanks for the comments.

have a great days ahead.

Spiritedsoul
Aug 22
Aug 22

Hi Tiffany,
Thank you for sharing the story about your conversation with your student. I agree with you, I think troubles are best released, whether that is through talking and sharing with others, journaling, both. I don’t believe it is healthy to keep everything inside.
Thanks again for sharing,
Hugs,
Jess.

Tiffany Brar
Aug 27
Aug 27

Hi Jess,
Yes, talking and sharing helps in reducing our burden and than to keep ourselves from others and keeping us inside a shell.
Thanks for your comments and
god bless

Tamarack Verrall
Aug 22
Aug 22

Hi Tiffany,
You describe so well the importance of speaking out. By speaking out we have the full picture of what is harmful and what needs to change. And we know we are not alone by reading and knowing each others' stories. By speaking out we are supporting each other too, reinforced that we are speaking out everywhere. There is joy in telling wonderful, fun stories. There is a different joy in encouraging each other to speak openly. Thanks for the thought provoking story.
Arms linked,
Tam

Tiffany Brar
Aug 27
Aug 27

Hey Tam,
Hope you are doing good.
Happy to see your comments and it always direct me towards the way for solution.
Definitely "Reinforcement " is a vital factor in this.
you are 100% true on the fact that "There is joy in telling ans sharing our minds".
thanks once again and have a great week ahead.

Tumanjong Miranda
Aug 24
Aug 24

Dear Tiffany,
Thanks for this write up. People have go to be educated on the importance of expressing their emotions.
Everyday, mental health issues keep gaining grounds because people lock up themselves and suffer in silence.
I think we should work on some kind of hashtag to create awareness on importance of expressing emotions.
It can be a campaign through our different social media fora as world pulse women.
What is your take on that?

Tiffany Brar
Aug 27
Aug 27

Hello Tumanjong,
Most of the persons are stressed in the present life because they don't have time to open their minds and problems with others. This is what i have observed in my counseling sessions for the young people and I agree with you that "to create awareness on importance of expressing emotions".
Will definitely think about that and act for that.

Thanks for the wonderful suggestions.

Lisbeth
Aug 24
Aug 24

Yes you have said it all. I think you can share but you have to choose your audience. Not all will be interested in hearing your sad profiles, because they can't do anything about it.
However, we also have those who will like to hear good or bad. The audience is first. Thanks for sharing

Tiffany Brar
Aug 27
Aug 27

hi lisbeth
yes.we should share our problems with the right one who can counsel and guide us in all aspects.
Have a great day ahead.