Let me lead

Tiffany Brar
Posted November 2, 2020 from India

Oh! Tiff, you are a blind, you cannot travel alone.

Tiffany, sit in the last bench, since you are a blind.

Hey Tiff, stand aside, don’t mingle with others.

You are asking too many questions, just keep quiet, Tiffany.

How can I explain a diagram to you, keep silent.

Tiffany, you are blind girl, don’t talk to opposite gender.

Oh, you know how to use mobile?

Can you operate atm card by yourself?

Can you work in an office as we do?

These are endless meaningless questions that I have encountered since my childhood. In my school, among my friends and neighbours, in social events,etc,etc,etc.

Asking questions is very easy. To answer them and give them the right explanation is the toughest part.

Most of the questions that have been asked to me focused negativity on my disability or threw sympathy on me. Not as an adult I faced this, but from my early childhood I faced this.

Why can’t a blind girl can lead and achieve?

Why the world should see a blind girl with sympathy and discouraging attitude?

To lead my blind community and to kick on the barriers did not root up in a single day in my mind.

The seeds of leading my blind community, the vision of changing the world, was deep rooted in my heart every single day.

Through lot of struggle and pain I was able to achieve this position.

Still I didn’t reach my finishing line and I continue to run till my very blind women community get empowered.

I have seen so many sisters in worldpulse leading others for a noble cause which inspired me and highly motivating for me, whenever I feel down.

Lets support all  women who lead the world  for a righteous cause.

 

 

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Nini Mappo
Nov 02, 2020
Nov 02, 2020

Hello Tifanny,
Indeed those are questions fuelled by ignorance. It's great to hear that you've not let the ignorance get to you, and are rising in your position of leadership for your community and in so doing, educate the biased and support your community to shine as evidence that disability is not a hindrance to purposeful living.
All my best.

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

thanks for your best wishes Nini

Andrace
Nov 02, 2020
Nov 02, 2020

Yes, you can, Tiffany. ...And thanks for all you do.

Let's go, Sis!

Love and hugs,
E. J.

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Thanks for your encouraging words

Sabiha Hasan
Nov 03, 2020
Nov 03, 2020

Sweetheart you are not disable, you are differently abled. You can do all those things which other people can. You just need to set your mind to it. Carry on! Keep moving forward... All the best

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Moving forward with lot of confidence and hopes with support and encouragement of people like you.
Thanks so much Sabiha

Ana Isabel Paraguay
Nov 03, 2020
Nov 03, 2020

Lets support all women who lead the world for a righteous cause!

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Yes,lets support each other and lead the world peacefully
Thanks Ana

J Brenda Lanyero
Nov 03, 2020
Nov 03, 2020

Hello Tiffany.
Thank you for sharing. Indeed as Nini has said the questions are fueled by ignorance. Just because you don't do things the way, they think you can't but they will take back their words when you accomplish your dreams.
You will do it, you will make it.

Sisterhood love and hugs.

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Dear Brenda
Thanks for your valuable words and support to accomplish my dream
Love in sisterhood

ANJ ANA
Nov 03, 2020
Nov 03, 2020

Dear Tiffany,
Thank you so much for sharing your feelings.
Some people love you so much and care you that they are concerned about you and start suggest you for not traveling alone, not mingling to others and worried about ATM card.
Some people cannot be in your feet and they themselves are inferior, so they don't know your ability, so they be less sensitive toward your feeling
and some people are bit unkind and they bias you but they don't know that you are powerful and unstoppable, so they question you.
I know how tough to answer when you are questioned, I have too a similar experience. I am well educated, work in reputed organization and in middle of my age but still people think i am incomplete because i don't have son. they don't see my ability but think that my unborn son will be powerful to protect me. So my dear sis, i stop answering them and continue my decision and be only compassionate to them for their concerns towards me.
I wish you a very best to you my sister.
love and regards, anjana

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Thank Anjana for your boosting words
In sisterhood Tiffany

Chidimma
Nov 04, 2020
Nov 04, 2020

Yes Tiffany, let's support a world who lead women for a righteous cause.
Thanks for sharing.

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Thanks Chidimma for your kind support.

Adanna
Nov 04, 2020
Nov 04, 2020

This is inspiring Tiffany!

Thank you for sharing and indeed, you have not reached your finishing line.

e-hugs,
Adanna

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Hey Adanna
Trying to reach more than the finishing line with the support of good hearts like you,
Thanks and love
Tiffany

Tamarack Verrall
Nov 04, 2020
Nov 04, 2020

Hi Tiffany,
Powerful and important message. You show the way to making real change by focussing on what matters the most: Who is being treated badly, and who faces difficulties that have not been addressed. :The seeds of leading my blind community, the vision of changing the world, was deep rooted in my heart every single day". This is the spirit of a true Change Maker. I am so glad that you found World Pulse and been motivated by the kind of support we generate here for and with each other. You inspire. We are all in this together.
Sending a big hug,
Tam

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Dear Tam,
Your words are highly motivating and boosting for me.
You inspire me too.
Thanks so much

Efe Omordia
Nov 05, 2020
Nov 05, 2020

Sometimes such questions are asked out of ignorance. Glad you are not only taking up the challenge but also enlightening the populace.

You are simply amazing

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Dear Efe,
I am trying to empower my blind community and this challenging task will be accomplished with the support of many good hearts and supporters.
Thanks for your kind words.

UCHE LIN
Nov 05, 2020
Nov 05, 2020

Wow Tiffany! You're such an amazing woman ❤️❤️ love you to the moon for pouring out your feelings to the world.
Your disability triggers your ability for survival of the fittest. You can do all things through almighty who up keep and strengthens you. You have proved that your disability is never a barrier to pursue your dreams in life. You're a pace setter for the world to emulates.
Thank you and keep soaring!
Uche Lin.

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Dear Uche
Your comments are highly valuable and motivating for me.
Thanks so much.
In love sisterhood
Tiffany

Marie Abanga
Nov 06, 2020
Nov 06, 2020

Dear Tiff,

Oh sure you can lead. All the sisters here see that potential in you and I join my voice to theirs. Thank you for sharing your story. By refusing to keep quiet, you a tually raise awareness and sensitze us...we encourage each other by showing up and speaking up...and no we would not keep quiet. Go Tiff Go Go Go

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Hey Marie
Yes, thanks so much for you kind words and through world pulse I get a lot of encouragement and confidence.
Love in sisterhood

MUVUNYI FABIENNE
Nov 08, 2020
Nov 08, 2020

Little angel Tiffany,
You are a blind, but you see.
You see because you can hear my voice and smell my odour.
You can see with your heart.
You can love with your heart.
We love you dear Tiff

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

So sweet of you Muvunyi for your kind words.
The lines you wrote made me really motivated and encouraged

Adriana Greenblatt
Nov 08, 2020
Nov 08, 2020

Tiffany hello! This post called me, the power of showing us the questions, that as Nini notes are fueled by ignorance and a legacy of societal falsehoods you are shattering and helping other women shatter. This line deeply resonated: "You are asking too many questions, just keep quiet, Tiffany." And your response of not keeping quiet is powerful. That is THEIR discomfort, an old narrative, and the more you speak the more you shift that ignorance. As Muvunyi writes, you are blind but you see, you see with your heart, you speak powerful truth, keep on sharing Tiffany!

Big hugs from Canada,
Adriana

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Thanks Adriana so much for your strong and powerful words.
Love in sisterhood
Tiffany
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Debanshi Chatterjee
Nov 10, 2020
Nov 10, 2020

Hats off to your spirit Tiffany! We live in a rather ignorant world that is insensitive to the feelings of others. But you are really strong never take such comments to heart.All of us have perhaps made a thoughtless comment that at least once in our lives that though unintentionally did hurt someone's sentiments. Hopefully we shall be more cautious and responsible about what we say in the future. But your approach draws all my admiration... You are indeed an inspiration and you do lead the way... All the best

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Dear Debanshi
Thanks so much for your kind motivating comments.
With love in sisterhood
Tiffany

JoOak
Nov 12, 2020
Nov 12, 2020

Oh dear sister Tiffany , thanks for all you do .
Yes you can lead and achieve a lot and attain greater heights .
Such a great vison you have and you are blessed with a beautiful heart .
Be encouraged to do many exploits .

Sending hugs and lots of love .

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Dear Jooak
Thanks for your kind words and support
With love and sisterhood
Tiffany

Carine Fola fomduwir
Nov 13, 2020
Nov 13, 2020

Hello Tiff,
I salute your courage.I work in a disability organization in Cameroon and our coordinators are blind people but excellent leaders. Most of them are ignorant of the challenges persons with disabilities face. All the same sensitization is the only way to enlighten them.thanks for sharing your lovely story.

catdickerson
Nov 14, 2020
Nov 14, 2020

The world would be a better home if we had more souls like yours, Tiffany! Yesterday I read a quote that helped me appreciate all those in life who misunderstand (and ask insensitive questions!), and if it's okay, I'd like to paraphrase some of my favorite parts. It goes something like, "Your truth will bring out the worst in others, your authenticity will provoke closed minds, your gratitude will irritate shallow hearts. And my love, that is what it is meant to do. Your aliveness will reveal many mental cages, but so will it help to set many more minds free."

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

"Your truth will bring out the worst in others, your authenticity will provoke closed minds, your gratitude will irritate shallow hearts.And my love, that is what it is meant to do. "
The lines are really with indepth meaning.
Thanks so much Catdickerson

Ireen Samalie Mutekanga
Nov 16, 2020
Nov 16, 2020

Hello Tifanny, I can hear your voice loud and clear, Don't allow anyone to hold you back, yes you are a leader and as long as you have your goal keep working towards it until you achieve it.
wishing you the very very best.
lots of love
Ireen.

Kaysera
Nov 16, 2020
Nov 16, 2020

wow ,wow so touching
Your story is very inspirational
The self esteem,confidence,braveness,all this is amazing plus believing in one self and not taking up the negative energy from people
Thank you my sister for sharing this life changing story

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Thanks Kaysera for your valuable comments.
Have a great day.

Dawn Arteaga
Nov 20, 2020
Nov 20, 2020

This is such a beautiful post Tiffany. You are an incredible leader and I’m grateful to know you!

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Hey Dawn
Thanks for your kind comments.
Love in sisterhood

emarxen
Nov 20, 2020
Nov 20, 2020

"The seeds of leading my blind community, the vision of changing the world, was deep rooted in my heart every single day." This is so powerful. You are powerful. Thank you for sharing your story and imparting a bit of your confidence here! World pulse is such a powerful community.

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Hey Emarxen
World pulse has given me a lot of confidence which made me to move forward and break the obstacles.Thanks so much for your encouraging words.

Steph L
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Thank you Tiffany for stepping up, we need more courageous leaders like you.
Keep doing what your heart tells you.

Tiffany Brar
Nov 23, 2020
Nov 23, 2020

Thanks so much Steph