gender based violence against women with disabilities

Tiffany Brar
Posted November 20, 2020 from India

   Gender based violence has been going on since times immemmorial.   the UN women  and other organizations have been doing alot in order to  curb this.

      but  Has it crossed our minds what about the plight of women with disabilities?

  during this  global pandemic,  domestic violence has been called the shaddow pandemic.

 during the lockdown, there has been a lot of   gender based violence against women and girls  with disabilities.  India is home to around 15 percent of the  world's disabled population.   many of which are women.

  I know of a girl  who was  beaten by her husband continually, and  her phone was denied to her. She was a wheel-chair user.    her husband would not even take her to a   doctor for her disability treatment. She has a small son, and  the husband always wants her to feel dependent on him, yet when she needs help,  he acts as if it is a  nuisance.

     there has been instance of sexual violence against blind women, husbands tying them to their beds and   having intercourse with them, without consent. This is called marital rape.

  During This lockdown,  it increased on account of men unable to go to work, and all members at home, and temper rising due to frustration, no income, and  no alcohol for daily wage earners who are used to earning per day and drinking a smattering of alcohol after.  Many  wives are women with disabilities.  They are  helpless due to their condition, and lack of  proper  access to people, resources, lack of  privacy setting, is  the reason why they can't get to anyone on time.

 what is solution?

    have a link  box kind of a pocket device. not like a phone, but like an mp3 player so no on suspects. then if the women is in danger she can press a btton, and the allert can go to the nearest police station,   hospital, womens cell, or even a close friend also.

 there should be special women counselloers at hand in each remote areas village, taluk, and district. there should be an  exclusive cell at blovck village level for women to   complain with the utmost confidentiality.

This story was submitted in response to Sharing Solutions: Ending GBV.

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Tamarack Verrall
Nov 20
Nov 20

Dear Tiffany,
15% of the World's population of the world's disabled people is a huge percentage of people and especially knowing that even with it known, the UN women and women like you raising the issue have not been paid attention to at all properly. That violence against women has been rapidly on the rise everywhere, repeated here by what you know in your country, is infuriating. The stories you know and carry in your heart need to be among the first to be addressed. We need to find the ways. Governments need to be held accountable for the women counsellors and other emergency needs that you have outlined.
In sisterhood,
Tam

Nini Mappo
Nov 21
Nov 21

Hello Tiffany,
That is a wonderful solution to the problem of violence and the helplessness that comes with it and more so for women and girls living in disability. I hope that it gets developed and comes to fruition. Thank you for sharing. I hope that you are keeping well :)

Hi Tiffan, your suggested solution is a great idea,a few minutes a go a friend was seeking for help because the husband was under drugs influence, he pushed her out of the house with their months old son..Due to covid guidelines in the country she is in, the nearby hotels couldn't accommodate her. Maybe if your solution is adopted many women would be helped.

Gloria Ifeyinwa Ayogu

Dear Tiffany,
Thanks for sharing this story. Gender based violent has been on the increase and it is sadly to note that it is more on disabled women. It's very unfortunate. Women voices have to be projected on this issue so that it will reach the appropriate authorities.
Gloria.

Adriana Greenblatt
Nov 22
Nov 22

Dear Tiffany,
Wow thank you for sharing this. The examples illustrated and painted the lived reality of these women with disabilities. The story of the girl who uses a wheelchair, denied her phone. "She has a small son, and the husband always wants her to feel dependent on him, yet when she needs help, he acts as if it is a nuisance." Wow.
I loved that you ended this with this solution. I know that in Canada we have something like this for seniors with limited mobility, this is called Lifeline: https://www.lifeline.ca/en/lifeline-home-2/?utm_expid=.M-g6IPBNSza6VvP6z.... This is not designed for domestic violence survivors though. I wonder if you are in touch with Kirthi from India on World Pulse? I thought of her and you connecting as I read your words. Her site for survivors is just fabulous: https://www.saahas.space/.
I think together there are amazing ideas that will be developed, specifically for women in India with disabilities.

Big hug to you in solidarity Tiffany,
Adriana

ANJ ANA
Nov 23
Nov 23

Dear Tiffany,
Thankyou so much for sharing. Its so true that the pandemic has increased and fueled the discriminations and violence against women. The women living with disabilities, disease , senior aged women are most vulnerable as they are not accessing information and easy access of other facilities.
Take care and keep posting please
best regards ,
anjana

Stacie Dickson
Nov 23
Nov 23

Wow. This was powerful and shocking. I needed to hear the plight of what some women go through. Thank you for being their voice! I stand with you

Yuven Mbuminyuy
Nov 24
Nov 24

Dear Tiffany
Your suggested solution is great. Thanks for sharing this wonderful story. If that can be implemented it will help many families and women will have their rightful place in the community and world at large

MUKABA ZAWADI
Nov 24
Nov 24

Merci pour le partage et sorry pour cette femmes maltrait├ęs que Dieu, nous devons revendiquer nos droits

Debi1980
Nov 24
Nov 24

Women go through slot slot of thanks for sharing , with this it will help and bring solution to women.

fidelity
Nov 25
Nov 25

Dear Tiffany,
true women living with disability are in more vulnerable and easily forgotten especially when marking international days they are excluded and therefore they lack information on rights, laws, etc.
i love the idea of box kind of a pocket device. let me know how i can access some for women in my country.

best
fidelity

Steph L
Nov 26
Nov 26

Hi Tiffany,
Thank you for raising awareness of this important issue. Hugs to you xx.

Regina Afanwi Young
Nov 27
Nov 27

Hello Tiffany,
How are you my dear? What a great write up. I agree with you that women with disabilities are more vulnerable and exposed to GBV.
Such valuable solutions you have proposed. I also want to add that empowerment of any form especially economic empowering to be self reliant is a very big step to the ending Gender based violence. Thank you so much.
Hope to read more from you.

Isata Kabia
Nov 27
Nov 27

I love both the simplicity and the thoughtfulness of your solutions, Tiffany. The lack of services has hindered our impact on GBV. If the women does not feel confident about the people or due services she will encounter, she is less likely to report. Thank you for your ideas , particularly those low tach ones for rural areas.

ARREY- ECHI
Nov 27
Nov 27

Hello Tiffany,
How are you doing today?
Thank you so much for raising the awareness on this vital group of persons. You are right, violence against women and girls, especially those with disabilities has increased many times since this pandemic began.

I love your suggestions on ending violence against disabled women and I can only wish the powers that be listens.

Keep writing

This is absolutely horrible, it is a nightmare to be harassed because you are disable. I appreciated the solution you hired, I believe that it is also effective if the decision-makers introduce some laws or legislations in order to fight this, God keeps all of you sis. .

Ruth Ngoni
3:12pm
3:12pm

Hello Tiffany,
Thanks for this piece. Truly, the global lock down was accompanied by unprecedented rise in violence against women. The situation is deplorable especially with the objectification of women by many. Thanks for sharing