THE TRUTH ABOUT TRUST

uduakedet
Posted February 13, 2020 from Nigeria
THE TRUTH ABOUT TRUST

 

Trust is the firm belief in the reliability of someone or something and is fundamental in dealing with all forms of relationships.

Human beings have natural tendencies to develop trust possibly because it forms part of our childhood learning process but as essential as it is, trust is also majorly connected with rape and often presents the leeway for it to occur.

By enjoying certain degrees of trust, rapists may gradually warm their way bybuilding strong relationships with victims and their parents oreven seeking trusted positions in the community which expose them to young people. This process which earns them legitimacy eventually aides their sinister plot.

Abused position of trust occurs when a person in a position of authority commits a sexual offense against another person,usually below 18 years. In the same vein, teachers, care givers, health professionals and organizations which exercise care and supervision over young people stand the risk of prosecution in the event of an abuse. Nevertheless, young girls are encouragedto take responsibility of their safety and be more vigilant. Offering unwarranted gifts and favors or show of unnecessary affection like kissing and hugging from such people could be a warning signal of danger.

It would be easier if rapists wore a sign on their forehead but unfortunately this does not happen, Also, the study of trust isevolving so knowledge is emerging but the guidelines below should aid young girls along the learning process of trust:

1. Never be in a hurry to trust anyone. Just like any major decision in life, take your time and avoid the temptation to assume that most people are decent and can never hurt you. Some societies possess age grade traditions which educate young girls on whom and how to trust but this seems to be fading away with the adoption of western culture. Still a young lady can consult a neutral person/party before trusting someone.

2. Frequently question the integrity of people you trust because once we decide to trust someone, we rarely revisit that decision and this could create a false sense of security

3. Young ladies should define their relationships with peopleand stick to them, this will help determine when someone crosses the boundary

4. Be careful of people who move too fast in relationships, it would be advisable to pull back quickly before it gets too late

5. Parents and guardians should be careful about substituting strangers with family members, calling older people ‘Aunty’ and ‘Uncle’ even when they are not relatives can be misleading as it immediately signals to children that they can trust those people.

Dealing with rape is hard and when inflicted by a trusted person, it becomes more painful. Even though trust is essential in navigating all facets of life, young ladies need to be selective about who they trust in order to avoid any regret.

 

 

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maeann
Feb 13
Feb 13

The guidelines you provide is very helpful to us. Thank you for thinking of this and sharing it to us Uduakedet.

Trust is a very important and should be valued.

uduakedet
Feb 14
Feb 14

Thank you dear

Jill Langhus
Feb 14
Feb 14

Hi Uduak,

How are you doing, dear? Welcome back! Thanks for sharing your informative article. It sounds like you speak from experience? Also, I would add not to trust those closest to you, unfortunately. Time and time again, I've heard stories of the perpetrators being family members, as was the case in my family. I'm not sure what the solution is, as it's sad that you can even trust your own family.

Hope you're doing well, and that you have a great weekend, dear.

uduakedet
Feb 14
Feb 14

So true, thank you

Jill Langhus
Feb 15
Feb 15

You're welcome:-)

Hello, sister,

TRUST is a vital aspect of human relationships. It's difficult to trust people when we encountered betrayals in the past, especially rape. Thank you for speaking up about these issues. You are so right. It would have been easier to avoid a perpetrator if they were a visible label on their forehead.

Thanks for sharing!

uduakedet
Feb 14
Feb 14

Thank you so much Karen

You’re welcome, sister!

Anita Shrestha
Feb 14
Feb 14

Dear
Thank you very much for sharing

uduakedet
Feb 14
Feb 14

Thank you too

Iam_motivated_jay
Feb 17
Feb 17

Appreciate this story