So called adulting.

Melissa Shrestha
Posted October 15, 2019 from Nepal

After one long year, I am back to my own hometown, my country Nepal. This place always brings me numerous kind of emotions.In a way, I feel happy to be with my family. But at the same time, I feel confused and lost. Will I be able to fully live my life with this set of family? Am I tired of them or will they be tired of me soon? Guess, its called ADULT-ing. I can understand why my mother is tensed, I can sense what my father is thinking, I can predict what my grandparents are feeling. Why do I have to understand everything, but have no power to solve anything? I thought this would be one of the most interesting phase of one's lifetime. Exploring new things, loving new hearts, breaking some hearts and at the same time finding one self. But no, I guess adulting is all about, understanding everything but being indecisive and unhelpful. I wish I was still a kid, without having to think about anything and having to find any solutions. Why can't I just go back to those old days of cotton candies, marshmellows and barbie dolls. Why do I have to now think about choices, abandonment and future. Why do I have to deal with such big words? Am, I actually adulting....

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Anita Shrestha
Oct 15
Oct 15

Dear Melissa
Thank you for sharing new things. Keep it up continue

maeann
Oct 15
Oct 15

Hello Melissa,

I actually ask the same question too. Why? Why? Why?

The answer... it's part of life. The only thing that we can do is how we response.

ANJ ANA
Oct 15
Oct 15

Dear Melissa,
i like the way you express... lovely.
Well i had also the similar questions when i was adulting (at the age of 18 and i stuck at the same age with additional 22 years of experiences now) and still I am not well satisfied with the answers i got from various sources. However, i try to managed myself being more flexible, open and try my best to be free spirit. It somehow helped me in the process of being adulthood without loosing the cherished blissful childhood and as you said.
May be my experience helps you too. Wish you a very best.
love and regards,
anjana

Hello, Melissa,

It’s great that you’re back home. Bittersweet feeling I supposed? I understand that feeling of wanting to be independent and yet helpless especially when you are living under your parent’s house.

Is there a way for you to rent somewhere? Because in our country, adulting means being independent, paying the bills, planning the future, and stressing over so many problems.haha. Yes, it was easier to be dependent as a child. But time isn’t allowing us to remain as a child. So adulting is part of it.

On the other-hand, what are moments in adulting that makes you grateful?

Jill Langhus
Oct 16
Oct 16

Hello Melissa,

Thanks for sharing your post. I'm sorry you're having a difficult transitory period, but know that it's just temporary as you just figure out the next steps of your life:-) I think, too, if you remembered what you love doing and start doing it again, that it would help. Joy and play are an essential part of life and will also help you to feel more grounded and happy, which in turn will most likely change your feeling of frustration and help you to see more clearly where you are going and need to go:-) What are your goals for the future? Let us know, and keep writing, dear:-)

XX

Beth Lacey
Oct 18
Oct 18

It's good that you realize you have to answer these questions and make these choices- no matter how difficult they are. It is, as Maeann says, part of life.

kabahenda
Oct 28
Oct 28

Dear Melissa,
Welcome to the world of adulting! It is a transition and not easy but I like the questions that you are asking because they are mportant and the Universe will provide you with answers.

You are not alone. It is a rite of passage and not to worry, you will be fine!

Dr Jackie
Nov 02
Nov 02

I see a woman who wants to do that which has not been attempted before in this story. Dear Mellisa, you are up to something big! Wherever you choose to stay whatever you choose to do, please do. There are people waiting for you to step out and let them know adulting with all its challenges is the best time to disrupt narratives! Please keep this story current so we can celebrate here with you. The failures, the successes, the adulting stuff.... breaking hearts and mending most ...... please you have our ears. Lots of all from Cameroon.