Fighting abuse by exposing abusers - that's what we're about to do

vigilantx
Posted July 26, 2020 from France
No more silence

Hello everybody!

I'm Soviet Union born, America educated, Europe living.

I was an abuse victim before a few times and that was sometimes humiliating, sometimes brutal experience, but I've managed to get through this. I had this idea about a 'social network meets trustpilot/glassdoor' where people can review their ex-partners and rate them for quite some time now and recently decided to give it a try.

The idea is simple. When you know someone who's abusing or harassing people, who's cheating on you, beating you, doesn't pay their alimony, you should have the ability to warn others, and most importantly, to expose them.

From my experience people do all these nasty things mainly because they feel like they have an impunity. But most of the time one simple call to police and a visit of officers can simmer them down. That's because they're cowards and care about their reputation or whatever left of it.

So my idea is that you can create a profile for such person, tell everything that happened, describe the situation and don't let them get away with it. Never. Do a favor to other people they might be dating and eventually abusing them too.

If it's a boss who is handsy, a child molester, an aggressive neighbor, they all belong to our database. If someone abuses people, it shouldn't be kept secret. It's just wrong to keep it secret.

The only legal problem here could be that SLAPP thing where they can sue you back and try to silence you, I don't know for now how to fight this but we're in contact with different activist groups in different countries trying to find a solution and support. We aim to keep our project free to use because it's all about truth and justice, not money.

Because the project is newly born, we haven't really tested it on a large scale, so any suggestion or input will be appreciated. We welcome any ideas or even critique. Especially critique. If you have any questions, please do not hesitate to ask, I'll be glad to answer.

Sincerely, 

Our website: https://vigilantx.com You can email me using this form or directly at [email protected] with WORLDPULSE mention in the subject line

This story was submitted in response to Gender-Based Violence.

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Chi8629
Jul 26
Jul 26

Thank you for sharing .
Welcome to worldpluse .
We love you.

vigilantx
Jul 27
Jul 27

Thank you!

Jill Langhus
Jul 27
Jul 27

Hi Olesya,

Welcome to World Pulse! I love this idea. Thanks for sharing. I hope you get the answers, and backing, that you're seeking. Please keep us posted on your progress.

vigilantx
Jul 27
Jul 27

Hi Jill,

thank you for your reply. We'll see how it goes. I believe a service like this one should exist as it might be helpful when you meet a new person. I came across a few socio- and psychopaths in my life and sadly you discover they're unstable only when you're already living together. It is not about revenge, it is simply a way of warning others what you might get into. So fingers crossed.

Jill Langhus
Jul 27
Jul 27

Hello Olesya,

You're welcome! Yes, I think so. It's a great idea, for sure.

Good luck!

Hope you have a good, safe week.

Hello, Olesya,

Hello, Ibukun,

Welcome to World Pulse! What a joy that a new voice is rising up!

Wow. It's like warning people about a perpetrator. For too long society has been shaming the victims. This is a revolutionary project.

Please keep on writing. We would love to know more about you. I hope you can connect to our global sisters and access opportunities on the Resources Page.

I'm looking forward to reading more from you. Welcome again to our growing sisterhood!

vigilantx
Jul 28
Jul 28

Hi Karen,

thank you for your reply. Yes, the main idea is to warn other people. Basically it is like a review you make on trustpilot. And of course, if a person has some dark side, we shed light on it. Abusers should not get away with it

Thelma obani 2020
Jul 29
Jul 29

Welcome to world pulse dear.
Your idea is great

Vanora.Lee
Jul 31
Jul 31

Yep, it is a way of Speak Up. Thanks for sharing.

Nini Mappo
Aug 02
Aug 02

Hi Olesya,
I'm sorry to hear that you experienced humiliation and brutality from a person that was supposed to be loving and protective, but glad that you have risen above that to think of how to protect other women from such abuse.
Abuse can make women feel small and invisible and like they deserve it. It can crush their fighting spirit, and as a fellow woman, I am proud of you for dusting that off and growing new wings to protect not only yourself, but others too.

Well done on this brilliant initiative, and all the very best.
Nini