The girl child of today is the leader of tomorrow

Vivian Emesowum
Posted September 23, 2010 from Nigeria

Growing up, I was being described as a "quite and gentle girl." Some neighbourhood friend would ask my mother if I was deaf and dumb since they have not heard "my voice " before on like my other siblings that are well known. 

At school, my class teacher would always write "very quiet in class" as their comment at the end of each class term because they know less of me. I remember, in pry 4, our class had to flog all the pupils because we couldn't answer a question correctly.  I was sure of the answer but just surprised that the known Intelligent students did not get it correctly when they were called by name. More so, I had never raised my hand up to answer any question before unless the teacher calls or point at me. 

Everyone loves my quiet and gentle nature. The only person who was worried about it was me. I usually return home unhappy at the end of each class term. I know I did not need those characteristic to meet my vision. I was doing well in class but beyond the class, I was not satisfied with myself. I was too shy and afraid to speak even when it is important for me to so do. My family members and friends would always say, ‘she will not talk but when she decides to talk, it sounds like an exploded bomb’. I needed to be bold and courageous; I was determined to do what I wanted but never find the courage to take the lead.

My quietness  could had been attributed to undisclosed abused and feelings to my family or trusted friend. The outcome of it was psychological trauma and withdrawal.

 My health journey took me to another part of the world. I discovered a growth and it was fibroid. The suitors were coming and taking to their heels when they discover I had fibroid. Doctor's result was that the sizes were big, you cannot conceive unless you carry out a Myomectomy was the doctor’s advice. I know women who have died out of surgery; I was afraid, very afraid to dead. It caused me varieties of pains - emotional, psychological and physical all as a single. I have this story in my journal ‘my story made me strong and bold’ http://worldpulse.com/node/27103 As a young quiet girl, I ask myself the many ‘whys of women’ and when I have courage to ask it out, they say it is rhetorical questions and I get no answer, I felt bad and cold. I see women accused wrongly, put down, embarrassed even in public places. I see women given the lower position and the men take the important place taking advantage of the women and girls in school, at home, offices, and politically. I see women struggling to carter for their children and watch them die of hungry. I see women brutally beaten up by men and go free, girls raped daily, cheated, sick and yet nothing is done. Women wept in pain, live in frustration, speechless and lose hope of life. World Pulse is the most exciting journey I have taken. Being women community and that I can share my own story globally….... I undertook the journey. It keeps me thinking how to be part of women success. It is said, women are second in creation, if so, let’s start training men to respect women and train girls to be empowered since it is also said, train a girl, you train a nation. My vision is Girls Preparatory Institute where girls are empowered to speak out and lead the nation. Develop a strong voice and confidence knowing that ‘the girl child of today is the leader of tomorrow.’

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Dando Mugara
Sep 23, 2010
Sep 23, 2010

welldone! Too sad what happed to you as a child. You hadto go through a lot instead of enjoying the childhood stage.

I am happy that you have overcome the trauma.Best of luck

with love Dando

Vivian Emesowum
Sep 23, 2010
Sep 23, 2010

Thank you Dando......

Cheers.

everlyrose
Sep 23, 2010
Sep 23, 2010

viv....i am in tears reading your life story, thank you for sharing PAPURI to you my friend, praise to you viv

everly

Vivian Emesowum
Sep 23, 2010
Sep 23, 2010

Dearest Eveylrose,

Words cannot truly express my joy knowing you on pulsewire. You have always been there for me and I appreciate your concern and encouragement. You are wonderful and I love you.

How are your daughters? Have you been able to process their migration.

So sweet having you as a friend.

Nilima Raut
Sep 23, 2010
Sep 23, 2010

everyone has the great love for life, just to live and to live a valuable life is the different thing and you are no exceptional who is making you life valuable. A true living human being-making the life precious and i along with other women are with you:) good luck!

Vivian Emesowum
Sep 23, 2010
Sep 23, 2010

Thank you my friend you are good. Together we can make life beautiful for women.

Cheers

Aimee Knight
Sep 24, 2010
Sep 24, 2010

I am a single mother to two boys. It is my goal to train them to appreciate women, respect them and value them. You are no longer afraid to speak and I am honored to hear your voice.

Vivian Emesowum
Sep 25, 2010
Sep 25, 2010

I love that quote below. It is nice that you have decided to start training you lovely boys to appreciate women. Sure they will turn out to be wonderful boys. Now spread the message, sow the idea to a friend so that the world will have lovely men who will protect, appreciate and respect women.

Cheers

Sahar
Sep 25, 2010
Sep 25, 2010

We must be the change that we wish to see in the world!

Vivian Emesowum
Sep 26, 2010
Sep 26, 2010

That's true......

Mrs. Baraza
Sep 27, 2010
Sep 27, 2010

Vivian, I like the courage you picked to speak to WorldPulse. You are at the right place. As women we have been oriented to believe tht we have to speak with our heads bend to appear submissive!

Many women and girl child as such have gone through horrendous experiences like yours. That is why we have to shout 'enough is enough' and the male counter part need to listen to what we are saying.

Walk with your neck held high and voice your fears and concerns amicably.

Cheers, Anne

Vivian Emesowum
Sep 27, 2010
Sep 27, 2010

Thank you Anne, it takes courage to do this and because i survived difficult time, it has made me to speak so that others can learn to be strong in difficult times. Also, the life skills i learnt is also helping me to become a better person now and it is this skills am training young girls with.

Cheers

Julie Tomlin
Sep 27, 2010
Sep 27, 2010

Hello Vivian, That's what I'm wishing for you after reading about what you describe as the "most exciting" journey you have taken. Your compassion and your vision come across very strongly and I really wish you well with all you hope for and dream of.

Julie

Vivian Emesowum
Sep 27, 2010
Sep 27, 2010

Thank you julie for reading my post. Being part of this online community has made an impact in my life.

Cheers

Diana Vegas
Sep 27, 2010
Sep 27, 2010

Vivian! thank you for sharing, you are brave and passionate. Oh the why's of women! it's good that whatever happened in your life didn't change your spirit...

blessings,

In lake'ch

Vivian Emesowum
Sep 27, 2010
Sep 27, 2010

Thank you for reading my post. You all make me happy.

Abella
Sep 30, 2010
Sep 30, 2010

Hi Vivian,

Thank you for such a bold spirit to share all you have writen, i trully feel more happy than sad for you, just by the fact that you chose to share your experience to empower others who might have gone through the same thing, your story tells me that regadless of what happen life if you know how much you value, nothing can put you down.

You are a bold woman, more than a conqueror...you are champion in the race for change.

Thank you very much for taking a front runner role.

Much Blessings.

Vivian Emesowum
Sep 30, 2010
Sep 30, 2010

Thank you so much, infact i was moved by the powerful women i met here in worldpulse. Am so happy to be here.

Marcie Lesnick
Sep 30, 2010
Sep 30, 2010

Vivian,

Your story touched me so! I myself have dealt with some of the same issues and I know how brave you are. Although, we come from two different worlds we are sisters. You are so strong and I feel blessed to have read your story.

Love, Marcie

Vivian Emesowum
Oct 01, 2010
Oct 01, 2010

Thank you dear, I do agree we are sisters because we have started caring for each other in words of courage.

Khushbu
Oct 05, 2010
Oct 05, 2010

Dear Vivian

I am so happy that you have come out of your hard time and moving ahead with the strength of a warrior. We are all proud of you and your vision is beautiful. Continue working on it, and you have a long way to go.

Love Khushbu

Vivian Emesowum
Oct 05, 2010
Oct 05, 2010

Thank you so much, you have made me smile again with your encouraging words.

lauralf
Oct 05, 2010
Oct 05, 2010

Women like you make me proud of being a woman myself... women like you gives me hope for a better tomorrow... women like you need to be heard... please know that we love you and support you in your struggle.

With deep admiration, Laura

Vivian Emesowum
Oct 05, 2010
Oct 05, 2010

Thank you so much, I am overwhelmed by encouraging words. Good to know that someone from a distance care about me.