Hello, KNOW TRADITIONS BEFORE MAKING CHANGESAs I continue my help in Livingstone Zambia I am very sensitive to the fact that a highly evolved person has to be very careful and sensitive about imposing asertiveness skills to people without understanding the culture or good intentions can backfire and even cause harm. For example, I am in Zambia several times a year . After FOUR years, the manager at the hotel trusted me enough to say the following: "The reason you volunteers, missionaries and NGO's do not get anywhere long term with us is because you do not understand our hidden traditions. There are many. We keep them from helpers. Here is one: A gizzard in a chicken is the most important part. If a wife cooks a chicken for her husband's dinner and she even tastes one little crumb of the gizzard he will beat her up badly. For women eating the gizzard is not allowed. And that's just one of many." A Rwanda young woman also told me this tradition is true. After I walked away to be alone, a waitress I have known for years in this country risked coming to me and whispering as her eyes darted around, "My husband and I share the gizzard". So, I hope while we all want change and we are all good people enthused in helping those in need, that we will take the time to understand.