NOT MY WEDDING DAY

In my culture, the Girl-Child is compelled  to believe from a young age that the most important day in her life is her Wedding Day as even when she succeeds in her academic and personal endeavors it is not  valued as relevant as the day she would be given out in Marriage. As she grows up, completes her education, she is already being trained on how to please her husband and told daily that her husband's house is her house and she is solely responsible for the success or failure of the home with or without any effort of the man or her husband.She is talked into scheming to have as many children as possible particularly male children to showcase her husband's masculinity among his peers hmm even though he may not have even have the financial capabilities to cater for the children. They  say it is God who gives children and he is the one who will cater for the needs of the children. The Girl now Woman gets married not because she wants to but they say her biological clock is tickling and everyone wants to carry her children so in her new home she is physically and verbally abused but anytime she tries to report it at the Church she  is reminded of the Bible Verse- A Wise Woman Keeps Her Home and the Proverbs 31 Woman.

What if the tide changes and Marriage is not the most important achievement for the Girl-Child/Woman? Instead the Girl-Child is trained to develop her leadership skills so that in the future she can be the one through her creativity, ingenuity  and innovative solutions make her community and nation to be reckoned with.Maybe or Then I would have a strong community or even nation at par with the Global North.