Patriarchy as Heteromorphic

Oluwatoyin Olabisi
Posted June 7, 2019 from Nigeria
Patriarchy as Heteromorphic
Patriarchy undervalues women, it promotes Gender Based Violence and stereotypes which limits the capabilities of Women and Girls' Photo-Credit Alamy

Patriarchy is linked with male dominance over the woman. It is manifested in the form of -Man (Quoting) I am talking, who are you Woman to be talking. I married you, I paid your bride-price which means I own you, you belong to me and I can do whatever I want to do with you and there is nothing anybody can do about it'. Patriarchy in my perspective commences directly or even directly from childhood where the male child is schooled at the cultural and community space that they are superior to the female child so from childhood a boy child already has an ego which he feels should be massaged by the female folk. He tries at every means to exercise his masculinity even to the extent of being violent and vacuous. Then when he gets married at every slightest offense he physically and verbally abuses his wife confident that nothing would happen to him.

Patriarchy in contemporary society is old fashioned, what has it brought to the table? For communities who promote patriarchy what is the common feature of that society? Under-Development in my opinion as countries who promote and recognize the role of Women in the society are communities heading towards  the actualization of Sustainable Development? Patriarchy undervalues women, it promotes Gender Based Violence and stereotypes which limits the capabilities of Women and Girls'.

As the world becomes a global village there must be consistent effort by traditional and religious leaders, the Government, Civil Society Leaders and Relevant stakeholders to effectively put in place mechanisms which systematically addresses practices that promotes patriarchy as  we must all remember Gender Equality is key to Sustainable Development

 

 

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Jill Langhus
Jun 07
Jun 07

Hi Oluwatoyin,

Thanks for sharing your post. I quite agree with you that patriarchy is a unhealthy system, for all genders, and, yes, socialization is a huge perpetuator of this system, too.

Hope you're having a good Friday:-)

Lisbeth
Jun 07
Jun 07

Yeah, in this our part of the world is how things are done. I am me and no body else. I decides, I take control. For me its understandable because Soviet has kept them in such class.
It will surprise you to see and how some mothers bring up their boy child. Don't, wash, don't cook, don't clean type of upbringing. You are a man sit down and cross your legs. Let your sister do it. Definitely, this will be the outcome.
Now however things are changing as regards these threads. Women now do not want to get marriage to such ego centric men. The the boys are also seeing the advantage of a skillful man or husband and hence want to be such.
Thanks for the hightlight

Hello, Oluwatoyin,

I think I could punch my husband on his face if he talks to me that way. Haha. But seriously, we need to end this male superiority. It has wounded generations of women already. Education is really important in our society today. I'm not talking about formal education, although I encourage everyone to grab every opportunity to take hold of a degree, but on knowing that our rights as women are human rights.

Thank you for writing about patriarchy. You just added your voice to dethrone this hurtful system. Yay!

Oluwatoyin Olabisi
Jun 10
Jun 10

Thank u

Asherah
Jun 07
Jun 07

Excellent points Oluwatoyin! I'm glad to see you include an outreach to religious leaders as religion has been a key component in patriarchy. Even Martin Luther (the key reformer in the Christian religion) stated, "The word and works of God is quite clear, that women were made either to be wives or prostitutes." Elizabeth Cody Stanton (who's husband was one of the creators of the Republican political party) eloquently stated in her book, "The Woman's Bible: “The Woman’s Bible”. August 1, 1895
"The Bible teaches that woman brought sin and death into the world, that she precipitated the fall of the race, that she was arraigned before the judgment seat of Heaven, tried, condemned and sentenced. Marriage for her was to be a condition of bondage, maternity a period of suffering and anguish, and in silence and subjection, she was to play the role of a dependent on man's bounty for all her material wants, and for all the information she might desire on the vital questions of the hour, she was commanded to ask her husband at home. Here is the Bible position of woman briefly summed up."

It is critical we (particularly women) begin to question and inquire as to the reasoning for such restrictive religious beliefs. And the best place to start is understanding who wrote the religious texts (not just the Bible), how it was compiled/edited/translated, and the purpose of religion. In doing so, only then can our eyes be truly opened and "the truth will set us free."

Oluwatoyin Olabisi
Jun 10
Jun 10

Thank you

Tamarack Verrall
Jun 08
Jun 08

Dear Oluwatoyin,
Your strong words calling it like it is, are music to my ears. You have described it all so well. We do live in a global patriarchal system, and this must change. So many women are suffering and dying, and for all the reasons you outline. No matter what names we are called for insisting that this must change, we need to stay strong. It is so good to know that you are with us here and speaking the truth without softening the reality. Your final paragraph should be taken to the UN.
In sisterhood,
Tam

Beth Lacey
Jul 10
Jul 10

Yes, there must be a nbited and consistent effort to eliminate these unfair practices