The Proverbs 31 Woman, Myth or Reality in Contemporary Society?

Oluwatoyin Olabisi
Posted July 9, 2019 from Nigeria
The Proverbs 31 Woman, Myth or Reality in Contemporary Society?
In conclusion, in every marital relationship there would always be strife if the husband keeps championing his masculinity using the archaic approach

The Woman in Proverbs 31 is Anonymous meaning there is no name ascribed to her and in my perspective anyone can fit into that role. The Holy Bible in the book of Proverbs  31 vs 10 -28 King James Version describes her and I quote-

                  Who can find a Virtuous Woman? for her price is far above rubies

                  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall no need of spoil

                  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life

                  She seeketh wool and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands

                  She is like the merchants' ships, she bringeth her food from afar

                 She riseth also while it is yet night and giveth meat to her household and a portion to her maidens.

                She considereth a field and buyeth it, with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.


She girdeth her loins with strength and strengthened her arms.

                She perceiveth that her merchandise is god, her candle goeth not out by night.

               She layeth her hands to the spindle and her hands hold the staff.

              She stretcheth  out her hand to the poor, yea she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

              She is not afraid of the snowfor her household;for all her household are clothed in scarlet

             She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

              Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

              She maketh fine linen and selleth it, and delivereth girdles unto the merchant

              Strength and honour are her clothing and she shall rejoice in time to come

              She openeth her mouth with wisdomand in her tongue is the law of kindness

             She looketh well to the ways of her household and eateth not the bread of idleness.

           Her children arise up and call her blessed, her husband also and he praiseth her.


From my experiences, in many religious marriages the preacher often times read these verse to women,in my opinion to urge them to be the pillars of their household especially in supporting their husbands and children which is very good. Also, as a 21st Century Feminist, while critically reading this passage I realized that this passage promotes Gender Equality. Please not the gibberish Gender Equality propagated by some unenlightened folks of Equal Rights for Men and Women. I noticed that the man too in this passage gave his wife the space to be herself to follow her areas of interest; maybe and and maybe that  is the reason in my view point that verse 31 says 'Give her the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates'.

In conclusion, in every marital relationship or any relationship involving both sexes  there would always be strife if the man  champions his masculinity using the archaic approach of I am the HEAD and no body has the rights to question  my authority. That man has lost it without even knowing it. On the other hand, masculinity can best be championed like the Proverbs 31 Man who gave his wife the opportunity to explore her areas of interest and strength. At the end of the day, he is the one, known at the gates when he sits with the elders of the land as an exemplary icon of male masculinity.                

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Hello, Olawatoyin,

Thank you for sharing your perspective on Proverbs 31 woman. I agree that this has been the standard for wives in the Christian world.

She has a business on her own and is not financially dependent on her husband. She also has a say on how she run things at home. Women blossom more as wives when they are given the liberty to pursue their passion. We know that even when they do, they also manage their home and family well.

Probably this is the reason why women who are solely dependent on their husbands feel depressed. They are deprived for personal development.

Thanks for pointing this out especially coming from a Biblical perspective. The Bible does approve and promote women empowerment. Hope you’re having a great day!

Jill Langhus
Jul 10
Jul 10

Hi Olawatoyin,

How are you doing? Thanks for sharing your post. I hope you're saying that your husband supports you, or are you just sharing your point of view on religious marriages?

Hope you're having a great day and week:-)

Jul 12
Jul 12

Thanks for reminding us about gender equality from the bible. Its amazing to reflect on it.

Juliet Acom
Sep 16
Sep 16

Hi Oluwatoyin,

Personally the woman of Proverbs 31 inspires me to have it all. A marriage, a family and a career.
Thank you for sharing this passage

Anita Shrestha
Oct 08
Oct 08

Thank you for sharing and keep it continue

Sister Zeph
Oct 14
Oct 14

You have taken a very good example from the Bible sis and I really appreciate it because some people think religions give all the power to men only, but before giving a statement on the bases of our ideas we should study religions. I think religions do not discriminate men and women these are interpretations of religions that make people think like that.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hello Olawatoyin,
Thank you for sharing your post. Have a blessed day.

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