#The Perfect Man

Wusufor
Posted December 6, 2020

 

During breakfast this morning, whilst gazing at the brightest sunlight and thinking how monday will turn out for all Ghanaians. Monday 7th December 2020 happened to be our election day. Ghanaians will decide again who to rule them.  I sat praying for peace. We can't afford war or crisis in the middle of Covid.  We all know the outcome of such wars. It only affects the poor and the Marginalized. Thus, women, children and the disabled. 

Personally,I am also battling my illness.

As I gaze my memories took me way back to my childhood. How you are always lively and know nothing about the future. As a kid you dream wild after you eat and you are satisfied ha.

Those days when you have your own choices of a perfect man. His description and what to achieved together. I vividly recalled my dream man or my Mr. Perfect man. I wanted a thick tall, handsome, charming and a God fearing man, #godfearing ha.

Presumption verses Realities

Little did I know reality is the final take home of presumption. Then the thick tall, charming, God fearing men kept disappearing. 

The first, second, and third so called God fearing Mr. Perfect men turn out to all be abusive.

The third was the worst among all. He went as far as hacking my phones and computer just to keep control of me.

What a phycho they can turn out to be.

Years  now the guild of if is me or them stills lingers around. It definitely can't be me. 

Lessons Learnt

Realities can be a pain in the neck just right the next minute. When that happens take a deep breath and say it's well. The gender base violence has become nemurous be and I think of it root causes as insecurities and poor parental upbringings. Thus ,lack of inculcating good moral values.

Gender Based Violence has cause as all. One to two out of ten women's are victim of GBV globally.

I stand for a GBV free world.

 

This story was submitted in response to Sharing Solutions: Ending GBV.

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jomarieb.earth
Dec 06, 2020
Dec 06, 2020

Dearest Wusufor,
Your story is profound. It is painful truth and warrior bravery. Thank God you live to tell the story. And I am grateful that you do speak your truth. As we get older, hopefully our detection antennas become finely tuned. And our danger meters are sensitive to signals as well, so we can better protect ourselves and others. Experience is too often the most cruel teacher. Trust in the company of yourself. You can trust that. Unfortunately it takes time to unfold the truth and layers of a man, good and evil. Because we want Mr.Godfearing, we trust too much, too soon. It becomes a worship of our own ideas. To thine own self be true, be well, be safe my sister.
Hugs...JoMarie

Wusufor
Dec 10, 2020
Dec 10, 2020

HI Sister,
Thank you for your sweetest comment.It was really and ordeal and i survive it.Thanks to God for keeping me strong. Experience is the painful teacher indeed.
at least we learnt from it.
It took me exactly a year now as i tried to speak it out.you are right sister.
Regards

Tamarack Verrall
Dec 06, 2020
Dec 06, 2020

Dear Sis,
Every time a woman speaks out her experiences, more women are freed to speak well, knowing that this violence is everywhere. " take a deep breath". Yes. We have been taught to blame ourselves. I celebrate every woman discovering that none of this os our faults, it has been taught to men that they can do this. We are here to undo this lie together. I stand with you for a GBV free world.

Wusufor
Dec 10, 2020
Dec 10, 2020

Dear Aunty Tam,
Thanks for always being there and being supportive and encouraging.All these while you never cease to be closer. God bless you and yes it can never be our faults.
Thanks for standing up with me for a violence free world
Hugs

Beth Lacey
Dec 08, 2020
Dec 08, 2020

You are right, sister, it's never you!

Wusufor
Dec 10, 2020
Dec 10, 2020

Thank you and yes it can never be me ha.
My regards

Keturah Shammah
Dec 08, 2020
Dec 08, 2020

Dear Wusufor,
I strongly believe with you that wars affects the poor and the Marginalized women, children and the disabled.
I wish you a War free election.

Wusufor
Dec 10, 2020
Dec 10, 2020

Thank you my sister,
As per the violence,we managed to escape it yesterdays after the current ruling party was announce by the Electral Commission of Ghana as the winner of the 2020 elections.
We thank God for making as win as a country.
Thanks for your comment

Nini Mappo
Dec 11, 2020
Dec 11, 2020

I am so sorry to hear what you have suffered, not once, but multiple times :/ I am very encourage to hear that you did not let the abuse fill you with bitterness or break your spirit. May your strength and fighting spirit continue to shine ever so bright, so that the abuse will not recognize you if it ever comes knocking in the recess of your mind.
Sending love and sparkles you way :-)

leila Kigha
Dec 28, 2020
Dec 28, 2020

So true!
A Gender Based Violence free world is possible!
Keep up sis!

Wusufor
Jan 01
Jan 01

Sure and thank you