Teen Mother, Turn Teen Pregnancy Transitional Home & Primary School Founder & Dir.

Yo'landa Dakup
Posted August 10, 2019 from United States

Elizabeth's Places does not condone nor encourage teenage pregnancy, but truth is... many teens will become parents before their 18th birthday. Teen pregnancy exists and will continue to exist. How do I know?

Here's My Story

In 1982,  at the age of 14, I became a teenage mother. During that time many options were presented to me, such as adoption, abortion,  and even passing my child off to an older family member to be raised as their child. However, at 14 years old, I made the decision to keep and raise my own child. My choice came with many tears, great sacrifices, and at times regrets; it wasn't easy, but with love,  faith,  time, support, and training... it did get better.

​As a missionary, I've traveled to many places, and have seen many struggling teen mothers with stories of despair, hopelessness, and pains of regret. 

A few years ago I landed in  East Africa, moved on to West Africa, and settled in Nigeria, where there is an estimate of  31.5 percent of teenage mothers and mothers to be.  Close to 90 percent of these soon to be mothers, and teen mothers do not have any support from their families in helping them through this difficult time.

 My mission in this country was not to start a group home for teenage mothers, it sorta knocked on my gate.

How Elizabeth's Place Came To Be:

On July the 24th, there was a knock at my gate. A young African woman was standing in the pouring down rain with a naked baby tied to her back. She had been beaten and thrown out of her home with nothing but the clothes on her back. Her baby was wet, cold and feverish.

​After hearing her story, I realized that many pregnant teens in Nigeria are considered a disgrace to their parents,  and are often rejected, disowned, beat, and thrown into the streets like trash. Some have been taken to the father of the unborn child parents home and left there like disregarded property. Others are given options to dispose of the child, while others have even gone as far as murdering and burying their newborn child just to be accepted back into the home of their parents. This is not the way nor the answer.

​At Elizabeth's Place,  we offer a  6-month transitional housing and life skill program for pregnant teens, and teen mothers who are experiencing family rejection, abandonment, and homelessness due to their decision to keep their child. Our home provides supportive services for 2nd-trimester pregnant teens and teen mothers with children under the age of 2.

 

Life doesn't end, because of a bad decision.

There is hope~

​Sincerely,

Lady D'

Lady D' is the director of The Learning Center located in Jos Nigeria.   And the founder of  Girl Get Ready! Life Soul-ution Network for Women. Lady D` invites you to connect with her at the links provided below......Together We Can

Click Here To Visit Elizabeth's Place Nigeria Online

https://facebook.com/girlgetready/  

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Hannah B
Aug 10
Aug 10

Welcome Yo'landa!
Thank you for sharing your story and information about your organization.
It sounds like you are offering a great resource to teens to need support during a challenging time in their lives. How many young women do you serve?
Best of luck with your work!
Kind regards,
Hannah

Yo'landa Dakup
Aug 10
Aug 10

Hello Hannah, thank you for commenting. At this time we are able to accommodate 7 young ladies and 7 small children comfortably. (9 manageable)

Jill Langhus
Aug 11
Aug 11

Hello Yo'landa,

Welcome to World Pulse:-) Thanks for sharing your important mission, work and FB page. I love that you're offering a much-needed safe haven, training and empowerment for these girls. Have you thought about collaborating with anyone to increase your impact? I would imagine that you could find some powerhouse sisters on World Pulse who are passionate about the same topic.

I'm looking forward to seeing more posts from you. I hope you're having a great day! And, please keep up the great work.

Yo'landa Dakup
Aug 11
Aug 11

Thank you for your comment and words of encouragement. I'm new to this awesome network. However, I do look forward to collaborating with passionate like-minded people.

Mega Blessings to you.

Jill Langhus
Aug 11
Aug 11

You're welcome, dear.

Great! You can go to the World Pulse "community" page and do a filter by country, interests, as well as the member's badge, such as Ambassador, Featured Storyteller, etc. and find people who share the same interests as you, or if you're interested, I can also have a look, too, to see if I can find someone to recommend. Just let me know.

Hope you have a great, upcoming week!

Yo'landa Dakup
Aug 11
Aug 11

Wow! Thank you for the information. You World Pulse ladies are really great. Yes, I accept your offer in helping me to find someone that shares the same interest as me.
Thank you greatly.

Jill Langhus
Aug 12
Aug 12

You're welcome!

Thanks:-) I will send you a private message. Stay tuned...

Lisbeth
Aug 12
Aug 12

Dear Yolanda,
You are welcome to WP. It's must not have been easy for you I can understand? Your story will serve as a great source of help for our youth in this platform. Thanks for sharing.

chimdirimebere
Aug 13
Aug 13

Hi Yo'landa,
Welcome to World Pulse family. Here, I promise you that you'll get resources to help make your dream and work come through. Nigeria and Nigerians are a little bit complex but with determination, the sky is your starting point. God bless you and the works of your hands!

With love,
Chimdirimebere

Yo'landa Dakup
Aug 13
Aug 13

Mega Blessings to you. I've been married to a Nigerian for years. And your so correct about Nigerians:) I'm gonna continue to press forward and stand firm, and likewise, i do believe with determination i will see the fruit of our labor.

Thank you, you WP ladies are great!

Beth Lacey
Aug 14
Aug 14

This is very important work