WHY WOMEN VIOLENCE?

YUREKA BAN
Posted May 28, 2018 from Nepal
WHY WOMEN VIOLENCE?
It's not my fault to be a women it's your fault to control our identity and existence.

 History focused on powerful men constantly engaged in violent struggles with each other. It never mentioned the peaceful societies nor the lives of women. The life of women has remained an untold story since ancient time.

Regarding the religious importance on women history; In Bhagabhat Geeta (Hindu religion) It has mentioned that women were kept on superior position giving the name of Mahakali, Durga, Laxmi etc. But that superiority is not given, it was earned.

So, it must be clear to all women that no one gives you a power, you must fight for it and earn it.

In each and every case of our society women have to be the inferior one. The patriarchy society attempts to restore his sense of power, control, identity, and worth through his manhood. Why is that always women have to lost their identity and why women have to be the inferior one. Yes we are stronger than anyone, we also can do anything, we have that power to create and to destroy the human society because the human civilization is the outcome of our feminine power. Then why is there still a women violence? Yeah various laws are implemented against the women violence but the changes by the law is neglected. The main is to change the people’s thought on women. Today the millions of men are entering into a civilized new world, but we, the women are still kept down in the dungeon. What factors dragged us from entering in our own world? Today most of the women are surviving their life to make their family happy, they do not care of their happiness. Yeah, they are only surviving their life to obey the so called rules and regulation created by our society, culture and tradition. Actually, they forget to live their life.

          Why is that, Men can be bastards and Women must wear pearls and smile???

Actually, I think that the women are just the things created by the society in consideration of the existing culture and tradition. We are living the life what our society wants, we are wearing the clothes what our culture wants, we are spending our precious time regarding our society, our family, our culture and so on.

We all have begun to raise daughter more like sons but who have the courage to raise our sons like our daughters? Yeah, there started a violence. And here we teach our boys that girls and women are ‘less than’ and that leads to silence violence.  We do not raise our boys to be the ‘man’ instead we raise our boys not to be the ‘women’. These all lead to women violence.

It appears psychologically that there is a great gap between what it is to be a ‘man’ in our culture and what it is to be a ‘women’ in our culture.

If men do not have to control, women won’t have to be controlled. Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It’s not the competition to make sure that who is stronger one and who have controlled over whom? It is the time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum, instead of two sets of opposing ideals. If we stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining each other by what we are, we can all be freer and this is what gender equality is about. And this is the end of women violence.

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Jill Langhus
May 29, 2018
May 29, 2018

Hi Yureka. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on gender equality. You definitely bring up some strong and compelling arguments. I can't say that I disagree with you. I just wish it were different. I think we are getting there slowly... some regions faster than others, but I agree it's an education issue. Why are a lot of women just willing to wear pearls and smile, as you put it? It's time for awareness, change and the end of gender based violence and inequality.

YUREKA BAN
May 29, 2018
May 29, 2018

Yeah it's an educational issue too and it's time for the end of gender based violence. With the support of all women worldwide we can change. Keep supporting.

Jill Langhus
May 30, 2018
May 30, 2018

Yes, and will do:-) Always!

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Jun 01, 2018
Jun 01, 2018

Hello, Yureka,

You wrote strong points on women's inferiority. I like how you describe gender on a spectrum and not just limited into two roles. That is something to ponder about.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It is a long fight, but with women like you who is bravely voicing her opinions, we can only hope that our daughters will have a more balanced way of living.

YUREKA BAN
Jun 02, 2018
Jun 02, 2018

thank you so much for your support.

Bettina Amendi
Jan 26
Jan 26

Good sharing Yureka,send in more you have powerful directives waiting on you in 2019.
Regards
Bettina

YUREKA BAN
Feb 01
Feb 01

thank you

Bettina Amendi
Feb 02
Feb 02

You,are welcome.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hi Yureka,
Thank you for sharing your story and very strong arguments.
Looking forward to more of your stories.
Stay blessed my dear sister.

YUREKA BAN
Apr 29
Apr 29

thank you so much.

Jensine Larsen
Apr 13
Apr 13

Yes Yureka, I agree with evry word. It is the time of the rising femi ine power, and you are a big part of it!! Thank you for sharing your journey here with us!! Love.

YUREKA BAN
Apr 29
Apr 29

thank you so much for your support