Stylish Women in a War Zone

Zahra.Zephyr
Posted March 3, 2019 from Afghanistan

When alarms go off, wee woo wee woo, ambulances pierce your brain and you have no idea what to do. Your mind goes blank and all you see is chaos …blood, screams, dust, rush, shattered glasses and scattered pieces of concretes everywhere. Telephone calls usually fail after a while after each blast. Yes, it is not easy living in a war zone where everything can turn into nothing in split of a second.

When you receive notifications on potential complex attack, a car bomb or a suicide attack around your work or residence area and you don’t exactly know when and where it might happen, it is difficult to keep your faith on future and work on long term plans.

Life is difficult in Afghanistan, and it is something that many people might have realized it. Media has always played the best part in depicting what it feels to be born, grow up, and die in the battle line. However, there is less media coverage on how it feels to live in the battle line.

Las time I was in office when a suicide attack happened right after I left office and made me rush back to office and take shelter. It was a difficult situation. Some colleagues were calling their family members to enquire on their health and safety, some of them were calling parents to let them they are safe, some checking Facebook or news to find out where the attack was. In such situations, it’s important to keep your spirit high because you know everyone is worried. So, everyone would try to be stronger and tries to calm the other one down or crack some jokes to make others forget the sour reality.   

Attacks are scary, savage and painful. However, women are big-heart, head-strong, and resilient too. Having experienced a blast near our work area and having to walk a long distance to avoid the area, I decided to wear sneakers at work as long as I live in Afghanistan. That was a comfortable way of dealing with incidents.

Once, my colleagues asked why I always wear sneakers and I said, “To make it easy for me to run in if any attacks happen.” Her laughter made me uneasy in a second and I wondered if she hasn’t been in such incidents before that she doesn’t get it.

“Never let suicide attacks or such trifles ruin your fashion. You know what I do? I always wear my high heels and wear formal dresses but I have a pair of sneakers under my desk as well. Every time needed, I fetch my sneakers and wear them. You need to learn how to live in the battle area but be stylish as well.” I was surprised with her spirit. She was right, “attacks are always there and you never know when they happen, but you cannot sacrifice your life, happiness and even smallest things that keep you alive and hopeful. You should live a good life as long as you are alive”.

Afghan women have lost their homes and houses, their belongings, their beloveds… yet, they are standing strong, they have lost no hope. All women in war zones are the ones with who the world is in awe.

 

This post was submitted in response to Change starts with a story..

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Dawn Arteaga
Mar 03
Mar 03

Thank you for sharing this powerful story. I am grateful you are safe - and am in awe of your strength, resilience and bravery. Sending love and my strongest wishes for peace!!

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 04
Mar 04

Thank you Dawn and lots of love! <3

jlanghus
Mar 04
Mar 04

Hi Zahra,

Thanks for sharing your story of courage, tenacity, resilience and inspiration. I am in awe of you, and all the women, and everyone else as well, that manages to live through these challenging times and areas. I literally don't know how you do it. I think you and your co-worker have a great attitude, and I'm glad that you are posting again on World Pulse and sharing your stories again. Your voice is heard! We hear you. Please keep posting.

Good luck with your story submission, dear! Hope you have a safe day!

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 04
Mar 04

Thanks Jlanghus! Yes, i am going to write more about life in a war zone from different aspects. <3

jlanghus
Mar 05
Mar 05

You're welcome:) I want to hear more about this, and I'm sure others will as well:-) Thanks!

Moutushi Dey
Mar 04
Mar 04

Thank you Zahra for sharing your powerful story. You just gave me a new perspective that no media can ever cover. Love your spirit!

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 04
Mar 04

Thanks Moutushi,
Your kind words make me stronger and more motivated to write.
Lots of love!

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hi Zahra
Thanks for sharing your story. Its really sad what you are going through and keep you all in our prayers.
Stay blessed my sister

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 04
Mar 04

Thank you Anita.
yes, it's horrible to be in such a situation. yet, we are still living with hope and happiness. :)

Juliet Acom
Mar 05
Mar 05

Hi Zahra,
Thanks for sharing your story.

I like your colleague's spirit. Despite the terror happening around you, she chooses to keep living - her way of coping in an otherwise scary situation I guess.
I do pray that you and your loved ones are safe and that the situation in Afghanistan will change real soon

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thanks Juliet for your kind words and encouragement.
Love!

Kirthi
Mar 05
Mar 05

Thank you for being so brave, dear Zahra, and thank you for sharing your story. You make the world a beautiful and resilient place through your voice. Sending you LOTS of love!

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thank you Kirthi! I believe women in war zones are source of empowerment and resilience. You can see most of them standing much strong. As someone who has been far from my country for most of my life, I found them surprisingly happy and strong.

Love from Kabul, the world's "most dangerous city"! :)

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 06
Mar 06

Dear Zahra,
Thanks for sharing such a great and inspiring story. I relate with u greatly. Living in war zones is not easy and really unpredictable. Despite all that, we do not need to throw away our lives. We need to live on, hoping for better day.
We are i this together.
Love
Miranda

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Hi Miranda,
Yes, let's hope for a peaceful world and let's create it with our ambitious dreams and our power of will!

Love and peace!

ADEBARA1
Mar 06
Mar 06

Your story is eye opening. I couldn't imagine living somewhere, where I knew a bombing could happen so often. I too keep a comfy pair shoes on or under my desk every day since I work in a high rise in NYC. Sneakers are back in fashion if you find the right pair but sometimes you just need those pair of shoes that make you feel good. Your resilience is inspiring.

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Yes, i love sneakers. :)
Thank you for giving positive vibes.

ARREY - ECHI
Mar 06
Mar 06

Dear Zahra,

You are a strong woman, keeping the positive vibes in the face of all these uncertainities. And you and your female friends and sisters are strong! I so agree with your friend. We need not let life's uncertainities stop us from living life and getting the most out of it.
Huge respect to you and your people, braving it all and keeping the positivity inspite of.

Hugs from Cameroon.

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thanks Arrey! Much love! <3

F2 ANGEL
Mar 06
Mar 06

Inspirational.... Thanks for sharing.

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thank you :) <3

deborah_3
Mar 06
Mar 06

Zahra,

Nice to read what you are doing in a war torn area.Continue being strong and keep safe.

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thank you! <3
Love and peace.

WorldCare
Mar 06
Mar 06

"Live a good life", but live a safe life! Zahra, I think you are very smart to wear sneakers to work. YOU are prepared!!!! We don't think much about how women dresss in a war zone. Thanks for telling us about this aspect of your life. I wish you NO bombings that cause you to run, but you will be prepared in your sneakers! I admire your preparedness!!!!

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thank you... and yes, let's pray for no bombings and attacks anywhere in this world.

Olutosin
Mar 06
Mar 06

Thanks Zahra for sharing, very difficult to imagine. We pray for peace every day.

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thank you Olutosin. Yes, every day!

Love and peace.

It's not easy staying in a war zone or conflict prone area. But you have been there, I'm want you to relax yourself like your friends, don't get worked up, because worries, gradually triggers depression. So remain strong, and bold as you have always been. Thanks for sharing!

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Yes, you are right. Thanks for reading my story and for your kind words. \

Love.

Tola Makinde
Mar 06
Mar 06

Dear Zahra,
I'm glad you are safe and that you found World Pulse. You are right to say that despite living in the war zone region, you must live your best life . This is not for the weak hearted.. Keep being strong and unstoppable. Lots of love

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Thank you Tola. Let's pray all women and everyone in this world be safe.

Love and prayers.

J Brenda Lanyero
Mar 06
Mar 06

Hi Zahra,
This feels like a movie but it is not. I ever lived in such a place where one would never know when they wake up alive or dead. We thank God you are safe and pray to keep you safe each day.

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Hi,

Yes, it sounded like a movie to me too. Sometimes, it's very shocking that after days you realise what really happened.

May everyone in this world live in peace and love.

J Brenda Lanyero
Mar 14
Mar 14

Amen.

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 07
Mar 07

Dear Zahra,
I hope that through our connections here within WorldPulse we can create some way of pressing all of our Governments to commit to ending all wars. I hope as we work in that direction that there can be some strength and degree of safety here for you and your important voice, reminding us all of how many women are living through wars, and that using our collective voice toward peace must be a priority. I love your story of your discussion about shoes in the midst of this brutal madness. Sending love and hopes for ongoing safety.

Zahra.Zephyr
Mar 14
Mar 14

Dear Tamarack,
Yes, our governments need to start thinking of the losses they are causing to innocent people.

Thanks for sending positive vibes.
Love.