Perfectly imperfect

Zainab Shahzadi
Posted March 7, 2019 from Pakistan

"Fat" is usually a word used to insult a girl. 

I am Zainab Shahzadi.. Shahzadi means Princess.. I am 22 and overweight. Just because of that weight people think I am pitiful, wretched abject and an object of throwing jokes at. Whenever I meet people, the first thing they talk about is my weight.. oh zainab, you put on weight or they compliment with slap that you are beautiful but that fat on you.. Oh poor you.. I mean, is "fat" really the worst thing a human being can be? Is "fat" worse than vindictive, jealous, shallow, vain, boring, or cruel? 

People start suggesting me the tips to lose weight and start laughing.. Actually this is all they can do.. I am not in the business of being judeged on my looks.. I know I have much more in me where that kind of people can never reach. But their remarks and taunts made me more confident and powerful. I am much than what they see.. 

I am not this hair, I am not this skin, I am the soul that lives within

I challenge them to compete me. I see their talent. I see their size. I see their Demise.. i don't care who the biggest fish in the pond is I'm a whole nother animal. I am a completely different beast. If the crocodile is the biggest fish in the pond I'm the crocodile hunter. If the shark is the biggest beast in the sea, I'm the beast the shark could never be.. I don't care what they throw at me.. I am ready beacause I've been working for it.. I'm powerful.. Their taunts made me powerful and strong woman. They can't stop me getting where i deserve to be.

I am raising my voice for all fat women. If they think they can degrade us and judge us on our body or looks.. they must grow up. To all those people i wanna say go get a work..

Strong women are strong from inside body shape and weight doesn't matter amd cant stop us.

If today i am able to talk with this confidence is because of their taunts, I've been through depression and hard times beacuse of them.. but now i have realised they can only speak.. my sufferings have made me a strong women. Proud to be a woman.

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Jill Langhus
Mar 07
Mar 07

Hi Zainab,

Welcome to World Pulse:-) Thanks for sharing your important story! I hear you! I'm sorry that you've been hurt by so many people's comments, but I'm glad that you've been able to rise above them and realize that you are more than just a body. We are all here for you. I'm looking forward to seeing more stories from you.

You may want to consider submitting this story for the current story awards, "Change starts with a story." If so, here is the link: https://www.worldpulse.com/en/voices-rising/story-awards/89833

Hope you have a good day!

Zainab Shahzadi
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you for your appreciation.. sure i will post.. love from Pakistan. #sisterhood

Jill Langhus
Mar 08
Mar 08

You're welcome:-) Great!

Hope you're having a great IWD!!!

XX

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 07
Mar 07

Dear Zainab,
Your strong and important voice joins in harmony with all of the women who have been accused of being "too big". One of the ways women are taunted into silence is to accuse us of taking up too much space, of being too big, too powerful. If it is not our size (and thousands of women are challenging this idea that we must all be tiny), it is being accused of speaking too loudly (we are pressed to speak quietly or not at all). We come in all shapes and sizes. We have the right to be just who we are. Keep calling it out for what it is, dear sister. I'm so glad to read you claiming the word fat, and turning your sufferings of the past into your powerful self today.
With love in sisterhood,
Tam

Zainab Shahzadi
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so mch. Appreciation matters. Ur appreciation made me more powerful and happy.. #sisterhood.. love from Pakistan

Linfraser
Mar 07
Mar 07

Zainab, I recall a saying, "your worth is not diminished by someone else's failure to see your value." I am so happy that you know and embrace this. You are a powerful, beautiful woman!

Zainab Shahzadi
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so mch. Appreciation matters. Ur appreciation made me more powerful and happy.. #sisterhood.. love from Pakistan

Connie F.
Mar 07
Mar 07

Hi Zainab,

I loved your story. Your strength and confidence is a true inspiration. I hope your reminder about being "the soul that lives within" touches many and reminds us to take a deeper look and promotes a deeper understanding of each other.

Connie

Zainab Shahzadi
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so mch. Appreciation matters. Ur appreciation made me more powerful and happy.. #sisterhood.. love from Pakistan

Obisakin Busayo
Mar 07
Mar 07

Welcome to World Pulse! Thank you sharing your powerful story with us.
In sisterhood forever my sister!!

Zainab Shahzadi
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so mch Obisakin. Appreciation matters. Ur appreciation made me more powerful and happy.. #sisterhood.. love from Pakistan

Leina
Mar 07
Mar 07

This is powerful Zainab.What matters is the content and not the container.I wish many of such people could read this.
Xoxo

Zainab Shahzadi
Mar 07
Mar 07

Thank you so mch Leina. Appreciation matters. Ur appreciation made me more powerful and happy.. #sisterhood.. love from Pakistan

Sarah Javed
Mar 08
Mar 08

Hi Zainab,
My dearest friend ever!! I am so glad that you know your own worth irrespective of what this cruel world has judged you wrongly. My dear! You are the most beautiful girl I have ever met both from inside out. I love you no matter what because you are so worthy of being loved and respected.
Know that I will always be with you. With lots of love ❤,
Sarah Javed

Zainab Shahzadi
Mar 08
Mar 08
Toobakareem
Mar 12
Mar 12

Its a true inspiration for all of the girls. Appreciation conceded from my sight..