"A HOUSE WHERE WOMAN IS UNSAFE ISN'T A HOME"

Shivani Saharia
Posted July 10, 2016 from India

"DON'T BE A SILENT VICTIM, SAY NO TO DOMESTIC VOILENCE"

Women stay in abusive relationships because society teaches them from childhood that staying in abusive relationships is what good women do, then blames them staying in the one when they actually do.

Don't be afraid of you story, it will inspire others. Well, everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Today's story is inspired by "Mr. Gagandeep Singh", Punjab, India about her sister "Amandeep kaur" I don't know him in personal but as I was going through my Facebook news feed I saw his post. Post about the domestic voilence his sister faced, who is no more with us. He is fighting for her sister justice.

How long will we sacrifice our daughters and sisters in the name of domestic voilence ?

Gagandeep sister was a middle aged working woman in public sector. She was tortured for dowry and was physically and mentally harassed. This trauma turned on and off the stream. She had 7 years old son and was blessed with twin daughters last year, 9 months presently. (Sometimes the things we complain most about are the things we care the most. Unfortunately, we don't always know that until we are too late) .Just for the sake of her kids, she was staying with her in laws and her husband.

As she gave birth to girl child the things got even worse. She was thrown out of house, and after a few day her husband came over with a fake realization and took her back. On 5 July, few days back her sister has been burnt alive by her husband and in laws. As the girl family reached to the crime scene they noticed her in laws sitting silent and her burnt body on the floor and her husband ran away.

LIFE MATTERS SO I SPOKE UP...

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made victim. Accept no on definition of your life,define yourself. Domestic voilence causes far more pain than the visible marks of bruises and scars. It's devastating to be abused by someone you love and think loves you in return.

Don't let your loyalty become slavery. Nobody can go back and start a new beginning but anyone can start today and make a new ending. TOGETHER WE CAN BREAK THE SILENCE, AND BRING A VOICE TO DOMESTIC VOILENCE

JUSTICE FOR AMANDEEP KAUR#REST IN PEACE..

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Fonda Sanchez
Jul 10, 2016
Jul 10, 2016

Thank you for posting this, Zainshah. These are very powerful words and such a horrific account of a woman who has died because of domestic violence, dowry, giving birth to girls, and for being a woman. It's true that women have long been taught to stay in a marriage to make it work even if there is abuse. Sometimes that abuse is hard to recognize. There may not be physical abuse, but psychological, emotional, verbal, and financial abuse. All abuse is about power and control.  As someone who works with women who have been abused by their partner I know that this is unfortunately a reality for women all over the world, in every culture and society. Every woman deserves to be loved and respected by their partner. My goal is to teach that to as many women and girls possible in my lifetime! 

Fonda

Shivani Saharia
Jul 12, 2016
Jul 12, 2016

Dear fonda,

Good day Thanks for reading and commenting. Your say really matters.

Zaini

Tamarack Verrall
Jul 11, 2016
Jul 11, 2016

Dear Zainshah,

Everything you describe in the treatment of this woman, extreme disrespect, torture for dowry, physical and mental harassment, punishment for giving birth to girls, is criminal behaviour to which the world turns away from looking at honestly. Except for those of us who are here to create change together. For us, your telling of her story makes us ever more determined, and as you point out in the beginning, it may well help another woman speak out, seek support before she is killed as well. Yes, this is what we are here to do together, and your advice to victims of violence will hopefully reach women in need of such good and wise encouragement.

In sisterhood,

Tam

Shivani Saharia
Jul 12, 2016
Jul 12, 2016

Dear Tam,

There are many who are taking the initiative to resist such hilarious actions. People aren't that scared or are ashamed about such barbarian acts. If not outdoors, such crime intakes behind closed doors. As per the reputation and such terms of respect in the society, these incidents remains disclosed and unnoticed for the sake of not spoiling the dignity and image of the victim and the culprit.

Thanks for reading

Regards.

Zaini