To Single Moms on Father's Day

Aimee Knight
Posted June 19, 2016 from United States

To Single Moms on Father’s Day.

For years, I had a job that required that I wear a uniform that was only made in men’s sizes. I had the uniforms tailored to fit my feminine body.

At the end of a long day at work, I came home to two young sons. As a single parent, I tried my best to fill two roles. I was mom and dad, the strong disciplinarian and the feminine mommy heart.

One day, I confided in my sweet elderly neighbor. I felt that at home and at work, I was trying to do at least part of my job the way that a man would. I was exhausted.

She asked the most amazing question. Why?

Then she gave me some unforgettable advice. Be a woman, the most confident woman at work and the best mother at home. Your children don’t need you to be two people. They need you to be the best version of yourself.

To all the single moms trying to be two parents, ask yourself...why? You’re enough as you are; the most amazing woman and mother, that you can be. Your kids are going to be okay because you were the best version of yourself.

On Father’s Day, I am grateful for the amazing dads in the world. I don’t want to be you. You cannot be replaced. Happy Father’s Day.

Comments 3

  • Terry Mullins
    Jun 19, 2016
    Jun 19, 2016

    Hello Aimee! Well said!!!! For every woman, young and old and every age in between,  who is a member of our beautiful World Pulse community I echo your words, be "the best version of yourself". Always.

    In love and peace,

    Terry Mullins

  • Urmila Chanam
    Jun 20, 2016
    Jun 20, 2016

    Dear sister Aimee,

    Just when Facebook was flooded with posts on Father's Day and pictures from family albums coming out to be re-posted and re-phrased and memories re-described, I found your post and it took me by surprise. And in no time I was crying in joy for the love and appreciation your post contained for single mums who play dad and mum interchangeably not due to preference but due to the need and situation. I have been a single mum to my 12-year old daughter and it has been so tough, so tough that I believe our hardships will never quite end. But the two of us joke about it, talk about it and wait for a day when we will live in peace. So here is a belated happy Father's day to the single mum who plays mum everyday of her life without needing to step into a father's shoes. Cheers!

    Much love and kisses from India,

    Urmila Chanam,


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  • Ese Ajuyah
    Jun 21, 2016
    Jun 21, 2016

    Dear Aimee,

    Your words struck a chord in my heart. Playing two roles in one body is not only conflicting but exhaustive as well.

    Thank you for reminding other single moms to be the best version of themselves always.

    it's a great message you have passed on.


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