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If You See a Woman Being Harassed and Do Nothing You Are Part of the Problem

Dear Anjalisarkar,

Wow, your post is amazing so informative, and you pint out so clearly that this is an issue we are all involved in and can solve together. Your post immediately wanted me to become more informed on what I can do and to make sure I educate all I know on how to be an active bystander and stop harassment immediately! I found this great website https://www.samuelmerritt.edu/sexual_violence/bystander to share! 

Thank you again for inspiring me to become more informed and for raising this topic!

Ann

 

In 2014, President Obama and Vice President Biden joined leaders from universities, media companies, the sports world, and grassroots organizations to launch the "It’s On Us" campaign against sexual assault on college campuses.  IT'S ON US is a cultural movement aimed at fundamentally shifting the way we think about sexual assault. 

From the website this is what the state:

Raising awareness. Holding ourselves and each other accountable. Looking out for someone who cannot consent.

IT’S ON US. All of us.

If you haven’t already, join the movement, spread the word, and take the pledge at ItsOnUs.org.

How to Be an Active Bystander 

There are many ways that you can help. Be an intervener! Stop potential incidents before they occur, educate yourself and others, talk to and support your friends so that they will intervene as well! The best way bystanders can assist in creating an empowering climate free of interpersonal violence is to diffuse the problem behaviors before they escalate.The following are examples of the range of language that individuals and groups can use to message what they and their members can do about sexual assault.

IT’S ON US TO

Recognize that if someone doesn’t or can’t consent to sex, it’s sexual assault

Educate yourself and others about interpersonal violence, gender inequality and the causes of gender violence.

Confront friends who make excuses for other people's abusive behavior

Speak up against racist, sexist, and homophobic jokes, music, remarks, etc.

Refuse to purchase any magazines, videos or music that portray women in a degrading manner or include violence against women.

Confront abusive behavior by not remaining silent.

Understand how our own attitudes and actions (including jokes, music you listen to, etc.) may perpetuate sexism and violence and work toward changing them.

Gently offer our support if we suspect that someone close to us is being abused or has been sexually assaulted or stalked.

Take responsibility for our actions and your inaction

Realize we have a role to play in stopping sexual assault

Create an environment where men and women feel, and are, safe

Step in if a friend is doing something that could lead to sexual assault

Get someone home safely if he or she needs help

Hold our friends accountable

Tell our friends if what they are doing is wrong.

Never blame the victim

Be more than a bystander

Stop a sexual assault any way we can

Keep an eye on someone in a vulnerable situation

Not look the other way

Do something to get in the way of a sexual assault

Step up and say something

Let our friend’s know what is and is not acceptable

Not give our friends a pass

Help a victim report a sexual assault if he or she wants to

Look out for someone who has had too much to drink

Get in the way if we see something happening

Stand up to those who tell us it’s not our business

Say something when our friends are being stupid

Call non-consensual sex what it is—Rape

Act when we think someone is in trouble

Do something

Be part of the solution, not part of the problem

Always be on the side of the victim

Make sexual assault unacceptable

Take reports of sexual assault seriously

Stop someone from doing something we know is wrong