Resilient Journey from Domestic Violence in Curacao

Posted May 14, 2015 from Netherlands

Ruby, a woman that when I heard her story it made me very sad. A mirror filled with stories of many hurting women, that’s what I saw. Sad because she was used and abused by her husband Nick, people of her island, the justice system and her government. Can you imagine being left alone without any help? Without being able to escape?

Even in the valley of the shadow of death, still in love with Nick, she turned to him for help and received none. What she got was rejection, increased emotional abuse of different kinds and form. Nick was going through a court case that when the wild fire of justice grew stronger he left Ruby to burn with the help of the government and justice system. He wanted to be free along with the government.

That was the price that Ruby had to pay when she chose to say no to lies and yes to the truth even if the price was losing her freedom. One phrase that Ruby shared with me that was said to her by her opponents was “We are building a house and you have to help us otherwise our whole house will fall“. Nothing that is built on sinking sand will stand. She was the only women in group of male figure and also the weakest point.

Ruby found out that after all these years she has been the victim of a manipulative love. Finding out that you are married to a sociopath is worse than you can ever imagine.

Ruby was charged for a crime she did not commit and went to prison 3 times. Ruby was put in a cage with no way to escape. They tried to burn her till the fire died out…… but noticed that the smoke was always black and never turned grey.

She fled to the Island of Bonaire, The United States and The Dominican Republic which served as a safe house for her and her children.

Due to all the abuse, suffering, screaming, crying and doubt in God, Ruby reached her breaking point that gave birth to her passion to encourage and serve others. Ruby also became the author of her first book "Blessed Through Homelessness”. Creating a movement that encourages women to pick-up their pearls of life struggles that they mistake for curses is what she lives for.

After this long journey in life she finally looks into the mirror and realizes that she is me.

I am Ruby!

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  • Edith Kalanzi
    May 16, 2015
    May 16, 2015

    Dear Annadassa,

    I love this most: "Ruby reached her breaking point that gave birth to her passion to encourage and serve others." 

    If pain can lead to service, then it is indeed worth it. What a waste it would have been if nothing had been learnt  along the way! And  we even have a book now where you  highlight the hidden beauty in trials, I suppose.

    Thanks for this and all the best, Edith

  • Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
    May 17, 2015
    May 17, 2015

    Dear Annadassa,

    This is very inspritaional. Rubys story is one of perservernce and surely shows determination. She emerged the winner and victor in all this. Woooooow. Thank you for sharing. Please continue to share these inspritaional stories for many women out there to be more inspired to move on with their lives. Stay blessed

  • Mauwa Brigitte
    May 21, 2015
    May 21, 2015


    La situation difficile que la personne travers lui permet de comprendre la leçon cachée pour servir les autres et développer la mentalité des gagnants. Sache que vous serez victorieuse et être modèle pour les autres. Courage, persévérence car la fin de votre voyage est là.

  • annadassa
    May 26, 2015
    May 26, 2015

    Thank you Edith, Anita and Brigitte for your words of strenght and comfort! It wasn't easy but by the grace of God I made it through.Hope to hear from you all soon.

    Many Blessings,


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