English translation by PulseWire member Alvaroos
Early Marriage in the Democratic Republic of Congo
There are some men who use girls to get married simply because these girls have no father or mother, they might also be orphaned, and they are forced to have sex with 45 years old men while the girls are 18 years old. The poor girl has no support to defend herself and she lives in this kind of violence.
One day a girl is going to get married, the wedding day has arrived, the girl is in the church already and the boy is still at his place, arguing with his parents, saying that he doesn´t want to get married. After several hours and the worried girl already at the Church she asks herself one thousand and one questions, the boy doesn’t arrive, what could have happened, the priest asks the same questions, and here it is the boy who arrives extraordinary late. The priest blesses the marriage against his heart feelings. That same day, as soon as the girl arrives to her husband´s place, he immediately starts hitting his wife, time goes by, days, months and years, as the girl still loves her husband, she tolerates this rhythm, she has her first child in this pain, the second, the third and so on…until eight. And at the time I´m writing this story this woman still suffers, her husband has never stopped banging her.
I think that with WP site, we are going to talk to those who are near and those who are far and suffer a lot. You must understand that women in DRC suffer from all kinds of violence that can exist.Ending Gender-Based Violence 2012