My story is about the youthful energy I spent in my husband’s home and how my own brother stopped me from using the land at home.

Until I constructed my self a house, three co wives, our children and my husband, shared a grass thatched hut which my husband built. My husband asked me to let the family join me in the big house and I agreed. But when he declared that a new wife was coming to take over the only plastered bedroom in the house, my room, I could not take it. I went to my father’s home and got to work. The first season, I harvested 6 sacks of corn. That is when my brother woke up. You dig like a tractor! You are not going to continue using that land, he said. I reported him to my father, but mu brother threatened me with death if I went ahead to grow crops on the land.

Men own land and with it unlimited access. As a result, they have every thing at their beck and call, from labor to dignity. As for me, I am like a fugitive in my own country. I have nothing to be proud of. My daughter of 13 years conceived, the very year I left. She also dropped out of school. I also lost my mentally retarded son. And I lost a house and acres of crops to last my husband a lifetime, a symbol of my wasted youth.

Take action! This post was submitted in response to My Story: Getting Started .

Comment on this Post


Dear Bakakilydia, This is a very sad and difficult story about land. It is amazing that you could plant corn so well, and that you were able to live in the hut with all those people. I had to leave my country as well, but I do have something to be proud of, and I think you do too. You have gone through so much, dealing with loss of family and land, the two most basic human possessions. You have an amazing story to tell, and that is great wealth within itself. Thank you for sharing your story, Maria


Most women share that suffering.

Thank you for the reply.


' increase the percentage of women owned property from the current percentage of 1% to 25% of the world's property by the year 2050'

I am so disheartened to hear your story of loss but take comfort in that you had the courage to stand your ground and take your plight to your father. I so applaud the efforts of courageous women like you, who dare to speak out. Although your brother threatened you and you lost your home, do not lose hope. That is the power they have over you and you can reclaim that power by remaining strong. You might also like to connect with some of our Ugandan members who may be able to provide some support to you.

Dr Edonna is a wonderful member activist who has spoken out extensively for the rights of women in Uganda. She can be found at:

Nalubega is the project coordinator of Uganda SPACE Organisation that serves rural women and children. She can be found at:

And Winnie Kiwalabye is the Executive Director of Mama Africa International Ministries in Uganda. Their objective is to restore hope for the vulnerable children, fight violence & illiteracy among women of Uganda, especially in the rural areas. She can be found at:

Please reach out to your Ugandan sisters and make friends with them by clicking on the "Add to my community" button under their photo, and invite them to be your friend. I think you all would share many of the same values and dreams. Best wishes, Janice

Lydia, Your story enrages me but through it I see your amazing bravery! To stand up for yourself in front of your husband, your father, mother and brother - just shows me your strength. You should be extremely proud of that.

I hope you have a little more strength in you to reach out as Janice suggested to your Ugandan sisters and others who are part of this community. More people share your story and more people will be inspired by your bravery, as I have been.

Thank you for sharing this part of yourself. I stand with you as a global sister. Marlies

Dear Marlies,

Your positive eye is appreciated. We are going to pursueJanice's advice. It was detailed. I happy to get a way to communicate my appreciation to her also. For some technical reason, I could not reply to her communication.

Thank you,


' increase the percentage of women owned property from the current percentage of 1% to 25% of the world's property by the year 2050'