FINDING MY VOICE, LIVING MY DREAM: MY WEALTH

Obisakin Busayo
Posted July 9, 2018 from Nigeria
EMPOWERMENT WORKSHOP GOING ON

It was a childhood dream to help and be there for women facing domestic and sexual violence. I grew up in a big extended family where we have 12 nuclear families living in the same big building. As a child I witness several maltreatment of women as my uncles many times would beat their wives with bruises all over their bodies. The sad thing was that at the end, these women would still be asked by the elders to apologize to their husband to forgive them. I was always depressed whenever this happened but I dare not talk or condemn this act because if I do my mother and I would be sent to the street and never to return to the house. 

When I was growing up my uncle keep telling my father not to send me to school and he should send me to go and learn a trade because as a woman I will soon end up in the kitchen of a man. I was so lucky that my father refused to listen to these advice of his brother. He was always telling them that you have boys and I have only girls, if I don't send my own girls to school, is it your own boys that will care for me when I am old. This is the kind of environment I grew up, an environment of zero respect for women and baby girl. 

There it has always been my dream that one day, I will grow up and I will be able to speak against violence against women in my community. This dream remain dream until 2009 when I sign up in World Pulse Voice of our Future Correspondence and I became the award winner to attend Empowerment Institute. Since then my voice came up and was never silent again till today. In fact my voice continue to be more and more louder and powerful to the point that no one could silent it again. 

I am also now living my dream of many years to be voice for the oppressed. This is a great wealth for me. How do I quantify in terms of money the joy of about 4000 women and girls that I have helped to find their voices and living their dreams. The radiant faces that greeted me whenever I visit the communities that I have worked to see the women that have gone through the empowerment workshops and awareness campaign on violence against women. I feel like a queen with billions of dollars in her account.

The joy of these women and girls keep radiating in my life and I feel that I have not come to this world in vain. Thanks to my sister Jensine, the dreamer that brought my own dream to a reality. One click! My voice came out powerfuly, one click! I become a voice to be recon with in the society, one click, My dream was fulfilled!!  

This post was submitted in response to #WealthofWomen.

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  • jlanghus
    Jul 11
    Jul 11

    Hi Busayo,

    All I can say is, "wow!" You've impacted that many women?! That's simply amazing. No wonder you're unstoppable and outspoken. Keep it up... you are indeed a force and voice for women and girls.

  • Obisakin Busayo
    Jul 11
    Jul 11

    Thank you Jill for your encouragement!

    Love
    Busayo

  • jlanghus
    Jul 12
    Jul 12

    You're welcome, hon:-)

    Have a great day!!!

    XO

  • Stella Paul
    Jul 21
    Jul 21

    Creating a violence free world for herself begins with speaking it out loud and you have shown that beautifully and powerfully, Busayo! Kudos!

  • Obisakin Busayo
    Aug 07
    Aug 07

    Thank you so much my dear Sister for your encouragement
    Love
    Busayo

  • agnes_4
    Jul 24
    Jul 24

    greeting's from Women's education development society

  • Obisakin Busayo
    Aug 07
    Aug 07

    Thank you for your Love! Greetings from Nigeria!
    Love
    Busayo

  • Adanna
    Jul 26
    Jul 26

    Thank you for sharing your story big sis.

    I am glad your father did not listen to that advice.

    Love,
    Adanna

  • Obisakin Busayo
    Aug 07
    Aug 07

    Thank you for your encouragement my dear sister
    Love
    Busayo

  • Tamarack Verrall
    Jul 28
    Jul 28

    Dear Busayo,

    The sadness that filled my heart reading about all you saw and experienced so young, women in your family being so horribly treated, that sadness was wrung out with joy as I read about your journey. This ability we have to form such dreams and plans at a young age is a marvel, more so when you have faced the dangers so closely. Now more than 4000 are living with strength and belief in themselves thanks to your work. A wealth that cannot be matched by any other currency. And yes, we dreamers and determined changemakers now have each other here. As I have told you before, I will never forget the welcome from you when I first joined. I can well imagine the celebration for everyone you have inspired when they get to see you again.

    Much love,
    Tam

  • Obisakin Busayo
    Aug 07
    Aug 07

    Thank you so much for your encouragement my dear Sister. You inspire me everyday and I feel so priviledge to be the first to welcome you to World Pulse. You are indeed an inspiration! Thank you for your strength you spread out to us everyday. I really appreciate you
    Warmest Love
    Busayo

  • sarah_2
    Aug 04
    Aug 04

    Wow......
    No doubt that your experience as a child made you more stronger and a voice to the voiceless.
    Don't relent in doing the good work!
    You have impacted many,and still impacting.
    Hugs! Love!! Kisses!!!

  • Obisakin Busayo
    Aug 07
    Aug 07

    Thank you so much my sister for the encouragement. Deep gratitudes
    Love
    Busayo

  • MaNnenna
    Aug 16
    Aug 16

    I'm so proud of you sis. Keep up the good work and never slow down.

    Jen

  • Obisakin Busayo
    Aug 30
    Aug 30

    Thank you so much my dear sister!

  • Ife_Agboola
    Aug 29
    Aug 29

    Very awesome Ma. Seeing your courage and speaking out gives so many young women like me wings of courage to do the same thing. Step out and help other women. I am so glad, our culture towards women and the girl child is changing in Nigeria and across the world.

    Although I did not directly grow up with these disadvantages, particularly those of a polygamous family. I listened in horror to the news that a man in the neighbourhood had sent his wife and child packing with nothing but their transport fare because she had tried to find work weaving hair in the neighbourhood against his wishes that she shouldn't work at all.

    She returned a few weeks later to apologise for attempting to work.
    it was horrifying and devastating.

  • Obisakin Busayo
    Aug 30
    Aug 30

    I appreciate your encouragement my dear sister. It is still happening but at least we thank God that things are changing and getting better. We will keep empowering our women and girls to have their voices and live their dream no matter the oppositions
    Thank you
    Love
    Busayo