Hell in High school.

Dorothy Nabakooza
Posted February 26, 2018 from Ouganda
There's no crime with being a plus size woman
How I survived "HELL in High School" being a Plus Sized/High school Student
Teeth gap
Teeth gap: We are all beautiful, teeth gap doesn't mean you are ugly (1/3)

I joined high school in 2006 and one I thing I remember was how impolite people were with me, how they segregated me because of my size, how they treated me because of how I looked like. I do not know who defines beauty in schools but it sure is a problem for so many young girls and boys out there.

I do not know if anyone else relates with this but this is my story.....

I was so happy joiningSt. Mark's College because it was a boarding school, far away from home; a place where I expected to be welcomed and treated with fairness as a new student. My school days were the most uncomfortable days I have ever had. The days I didn’t want to wake up because I was going to be judged or abused or mocked.

There were these girls who made my life uncomfortable so much that I waited for holidays (school break offs) like a kid waiting for Christmas clothes. People who abuse others being fat or short or referring to them by their body parts are the worst there is. Since childhood, I have been a “fat” person, it so turns out that some of my body parts were also “big” (If I can use this word). So these girls, in their small groups of the so called pretty ladies became living hell to me. They always abused me that I was fat and ugly and had big teeth, a teeth gap, a big belly, tiny legs and all sorts of verbal abuses you can think of. Having big boobs in school was one of the worst things you could have- this was my perception because this is what others based on to define my beauty. They would abuse me of having such huge boobs that this pain stayed with me for over three years of high school.

I do not know who defined beauty to them that they had to call everyone else ugly but some of my fellow students made life a living hell for me. My story is a painful one, it’s a story I write with tears flowing down, looking back at how they abused the features of my body and where I am now, I realize nothing has changed but rather my mindset about myself is what has changed my way of life. Emotional scars take long to heal; they stay with you for the most part of your life until you decide to forgive and forget.

When you are in school, physical features on your body are something most of us pay attention to as definition for our beauty but now I have come to appreciate and accept the true meaning of beauty, not just a combination of qualities, such as shape, color, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight but something more than that; your true self the inner you.

Luckily in 2010 when I joined senior five, I got to appreciate my beauty. I accepted the truth that I am a plus size teenager and that there is nothing I could do about that. I love myself even more now because I started with appreciating myself and being bold and strong to accept how God made me then spreading this to other women out there through compliments. I encourage women, girls, and boys including people with disabilities to love yourselves no matter what people’s opinions about you are. It all starts with you, it’s all in your mind, and your mind is your biggest obstacle to what you deserve, where you need to be and who you are.

Remember as one writer quoted, no one can hurt you without your own consent! Be You. Speak up, you never know who you influence and touch to make a positive change in their lives.

This post was submitted in response to You Are a Silence Breaker..

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  • jlanghus
    Feb 26
    Feb 26

    Hi Dorothy. Thanks for sharing your story. Yes, boys and girls, and even men and women can be very cruel, especially from variations from perceived "norms." I'm so glad you decided to share your story, though, and even happier that you were able to overcome the pain and hurt that was inflicted from them, and rise above it. It's not an easy feat!

  • Dorothy Nabakooza
    Feb 26
    Feb 26

    Thanks Jill, that's true men and women too can be cruel with their words,  If a man tries hitting on you and you refuse, he straight away abuses you saying; I don't even like you, you have big boobs.

    This seemed painful years ago but I'm happy I got over such words. I do not care what people say of me.

  • jlanghus
    Feb 27
    Feb 27

    You're welcome:) Quite often, unfortunately, yes:( Good for you!

  • Olutosin
    Feb 26
    Feb 26

    I used to think that self love was selfishness until lately. Love yourself, no one can do that better than you. That is what I always tell myself.

    Thanks so much for sharing your story with us and I love the positive action you have decided to take along the line.

  • Dorothy Nabakooza
    Feb 26
    Feb 26

    Thank you for your Kind words, Thanks to World pulse, i get to tell the story that has been bottled up all my life.

  • What you have been through is tough. But it made you stronger.

    Because you experience what it feels to be hurt, you have become a woman who is now uplifting others. That is the most beautiful part of you. And your beauty continues to shine from within because you allow it to be.

    So bloom, dear Dorothy! As you do, other flowers with bloom with you, too.

    Thank you for sharing your story.

  • Dorothy Nabakooza
    Mar 20
    Mar 20

    Thanks a lot dear, I feel empowered by your powerful words.
    Lets keep shinning.
    Queens empower each other. xoxo

  • rehema lyoka
    Apr 14
    Apr 14

    I remember high school as well , lots of memories , i was in a different country , just finished my grade 7 and skipped 2 classes , so that meant i was the youngest in class and a foreigner . Now that is where the twist started . guess that is a story for another day , I agree with you dear , nobody can hurt you without your own concept

  • Dorothy Nabakooza
    Apr 15
    Apr 15

    Thank You Rehema, I look forward to hearing that story someday.
    I love this #worldpulse family, we are hear to support eachother. we are one.

  • Ndimofor Aretas
    Apr 16
    Apr 16

    Dear Dorothy,
    Truly, no one can hurt you without your own consent.
    I am very happy that even though you went through a lot of hard times, you emerged with the mindset of a champion and have decided to help others who may be going through similar experiences.
    Be happy with yourself and be yourself... But be your best self.

    A healthy Self Image is one of the six steps on the ladder to the top (SEE YOU AT THE TOP by Zig Ziglar)
    I struggled with self image for years too until I made up my mind just like you, to Love Me as I am...

    I use to make the mistake of allowing people's opinion of me to be my reality... but not any more...

    Best regards.

  • Dorothy Nabakooza
    Apr 16
    Apr 16

    Well, thank you a lot for the kind words well written here, we are more than conquerors.
    Oh BTW, that book; well thanks a lot for the quote, I cant wait to download and read it.

    Love, Dorothy

  • Araba
    Apr 17
    Apr 17

    Hello Dorothy, You have done the right thing by accepting yourself. You are now encouraging others to do same. You are brave and daring. Keep it up! Continue to show others that we can be sexy and beautiful in any shape and size!

  • Juliet Acom
    Apr 23
    Apr 23

    Hi Dorothy,

    Thank you for breaking the silence. You are a voice for many - keep doing the great work.

  • Valéria Barbosa
    Apr 25
    Apr 25

    Thank you for sharing your story. I feel for everything that happened in childhood and adolescence, sometimes children and young people are very cruel, but I believe that they learn not to respect the diversity in their homes, and in the future will suffer much with these mental patterns they carry.
    I'm glad you discovered that you're beautiful in your own way, that's very important.
    Just as it is important to have a suitable environment for us, for example the buses in my country have a small space between the seats and my leg is long, hence I suffer throughout the trip because companies think that all people have the same height and width, because the seats are also small. We are learning to deal with these issues. This is my leg, thank God for being strong! I'm going with these legs to walk wherever I want. Just as you dear, the world will be small for such a sensitive and dear person. Hugs.

  • carla_2
    May 01
    May 01

    Hello Dorothy :)
    I really applaud you for speaking up. Putting words on this is not an easy thing to do. I so often don't tell the stories, don't open up about what truly happened for me, how it made me feel because it feels like a very embarrassing, shameful and hurtful thing to admit, to own and to speak about. I too, take the challenge and the choice of being powerfull and brave and not let it get to me anymore. I have come a long way but geez it really is an everyday challenge and it gets so exhausting sometimes.

    You are a strong woman and I thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story. You are right, words have impact and we never know who we may help and empower to do the same.
    Lots of love, Carla

  • soul on fire
    May 20
    May 20

    Hi Dorothy
    Heart touching story
    Once I had to face those mean girls and they also made fun of my lips, my hair and even my parents. Honestly I couldn't fight them but they kinda got removed from my life.
    But then a year later I realized the fact that they are gonna make fun of me anyway, one way or another so now I am glad that they are out of my life for good.
    STAY AWESOME.

  • Dorothy Nabakooza
    May 20
    May 20

    Thanks Dear,
    You are beautiful in your own way, no one can ever take that away from you.
    #bestrong #befearless

  • joyce nelly
    Jun 08
    Jun 08

    Hello sister I really felt touched reading your story because I felt same while back in secondary school also with your friends defining you as ugly making look down on your self but thank God we are finally free from all that stuff now and we have left the bagages behind us.

  • AGNES TUMASANG
    Jun 19
    Jun 19

    Than you sister