perceptions about being single

Sometimes, i wonder what it is with Nigerian women that make them feel like Tom without Jerry(marriage is often like that you know) if they are not married by whatever age they perceive as ancient.For my peers, i started noticing the marriage bug attacking them when i was in three hundred level at the University.Suddenly our childishness and innocence were suddenly replaced by adult cries of \"when am i going to get married?\"

It was now time for strategizing, we were expected to do things and go to places that would expose us to eligible bachelors. I just wasn't interested in all that crap and it cost me some valuable friendships and not a little scorn i must confess. Suddenly i became the tomboy to be avoided or at best, the person to be tolerated. The amusing part of it all is that not many of them succeeded in their attempts to be married before they graduate. However, the majority of them did not relent in their pursuits (do they really have a choice especially if they do not want to end up as i have). I wish i could go into all the stories of the several failed attempts the majority of them before they hit the jackpot but i may get sued if they ever set their eyes in this, so i will pass if you don't mind.

Don't get me wrong, i am as romantic as the next person but i do not see what the big deal is about marriage. It is a venture one should get into when one is absolutely in love (even that is no full-proof guarantee). Since they are more women than men( i hope this assertion is true), it is only logical that some women will be left on the shelf. one can get left on the shelf but you do not have to stay there. Do something productive with your life in the meantime. Like giving as much love (not lust) as you can.There is no limit to that you know and who knows you might just see your Mr Right as you do so that is if you are still interested. Ask people like Mother Theresa(if you can) and Oprah why there are single. Being single does not stop you from loving you know.They are heaps of people that would benefit from the love you have to give.Love is the key to life.Osama Bin Laden, Idi Amin , Hiltler and Saddam Hussien probably did not get the right amount or the right kind of love while growing up.So as much as we would like to blame them, let us also blame the societies and environments that made them and let us not breed more people like that with our actions or in-actions.